My fiance is always talking about my friend, who happens to be married. Every time we are with them, she only hangs out with him, and tries not to touch me or even talk to me. I think she's trying to make it known that she is available for him if he wants to take her up on it. How can I handle this?
2007-11-21 12:42:07 · 16 answers · asked by guyitsover14 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would suggest talk to your fiance about this...
also make sure you talk with your friend about this too....
2007-11-21 12:53:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not knowing the full story makes this hard to answer so I'll go on instinct.
This could be a "serious flirtation" or it could be that there is already something going on between them. A sure sign is when your partner is usually loving and caring towards you but is distant towards you when a particular person is around.
Talk to your friend, and ask straight out if there is anything going on between them, even though she is married to someone else - be warned though - if you don't want to know don't ask, because you may not like the answers.
Do the same with your fiance - and try to get to each of them quickly so they don't have time to "get their stories straight"
It may be quite innocent as yet, but if her "come on" behaviour is attracting this attention from your fiance, it won't remain "innocent" for long.
In my experience, when people behave differently around certain people there is a reason for it, and often a man's body will soon follow where his eyes have lingered a little too long.
For your own peace of mind, you need to find out, and if in doubt, postpone the wedding till you are sure he is really in love with you and will be faithful.
Good luck
2007-11-21 21:18:26 · answer #2 · answered by country girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a very...touchy question, because it is your fiance, not your friend, that you feel the advances are coming from. Unfortunately, the only way you can face that is head on. I guess it first starts with a question, do you trust her? Because if you don't, this should go in a totally different direction.
But If you do, and you feel she likes him, but wouldn't do anything with him, then you should tell her straight up that you are not comfortable with the way she acts around him, and she should stop. Sometimes, people's actions are harmless and they don't even realize what they are doing. Sometimes it's not. If you don't trust her, forget handling this situation; just don't put yourself through the heartache and stress.
2007-11-21 20:50:23 · answer #3 · answered by Camille J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
idk..the only thing I can say is that you should talk to your fiance about that. Maybe you are just jealous..or something. You really should know what type of guy he is before you marry him. In my opinion if he is with you and she is around he should also talk to you and pay attention to you..and not her all the time. Or maybe he is just a social you who likes to talk to people a lot. IDK. You know the guy..and you have to tell your fiance everything that you feel inside..if you don't let him know..then he wont know whats going an with your feeling. The key is communication.
2007-11-21 20:53:27 · answer #4 · answered by blondie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think from what you're saying that she does too. It's time to have a talk with both of them and tell them what you are seeing.
If after this talk, it continues, it's time to consider whether you need or want the friendship and the fiancee, otherwise, it will be a few years down the road and you will be here again, talking about your spouse and best friend caught in bed.
2007-11-21 20:48:30 · answer #5 · answered by Yankee Micmac 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Confront her you dont have anything to lose if she doing all that. Ask her like, "Sheila do you have something for my homeboy." If she ask why then tell her why you think that dont sound like you hurt or insecure just say it to her as if she's a friend play it cool. Dont get mad or start a argument check out her reaction, eyes and body language. Just ask out of nowhere and dont prepare her for what you are about to say either. You can get alot from reactions to pop up questions.
2007-11-23 12:28:41 · answer #6 · answered by bv_daisy_bv 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that shouldnt be your fiancee anymore. that is VERY rude and disrespectful to you. just think if you were married to her and she was acting like this? shes acting like this as your fiancee no telling how shes going to act as your wife. i dont see it changing for the better. you should talk to her about this or kick her to the curb! you dont want a wife that has a wondering eye do you? if shes checking out other guys then what is she doing being engaged to you? dont waste your time babe.make a move, let her go if she cant respect you.
2007-11-21 20:46:18 · answer #7 · answered by Fit 4 A King 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to her and let her know that her behavior is unacceptable. If she gets defensive then you know that something is up. If she says sorry and didn't realize what she was doing then maybe it was just innocent. Either way you need to address this and tell her that your not comfortable with this.
2007-11-21 20:44:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to her about it, is the only way things can get sorted.
Random people on yahoo aren't psychic, and cannot know what she is thinking.
2007-11-21 20:46:00 · answer #9 · answered by Meow 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
calm down, breathe, and relax. confront her say something like "do u like my friend or something" but nicer, and get the answer if ur still confuzed ask y she acts tht way when u guys r with him and such, it will b good to get the straight answer
2007-11-21 20:46:16 · answer #10 · answered by cutegirl67 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋