suicide? why?

Question

just found outh this morning one of my friends has committed suicide why? dont know ask the nearest and dearest they dont know he has never made any suggestion of depression and so on. really confused at this time. the question i really want answering is why??????????? i know he can only answer that but he will never be able to tell me. keep asking myself why did he not talk to people cannot have been that bad to top yourself knowing the fellow he is? decent kind generous etc confused, why? i know you carnt tell me this is why and it must have been because of such a thing just need to know why? what gets people into such a state that ending your life for no apparant reason ?

Answer 1

People make the choice because they are just sick and tired of being sick and tired, minus any mental illness.

Take a good, hard look at humanity and society, and you'll find your answer.

Answer 2

Sometimes it simply seems like a simple way to end seemingly uncontrollable situations, and the despair is just too much. Alcohol can make the choice a lot easier for some, and of course those people are the ones who are at most risk, but are the least likely to be seen to be in danger.

There are situations which can arise that most people will not think twice about, for a small number of people, a small thing can be the proverbial straw breaking the camels back, and pushes them to the final act.

Ultimately, a person who commits suicide will never be able to explain why, simply because if there were anyone they felt they could explain too, they would not be suicidal.

My personal thoughts on the subject, having contemplated it many times.

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Wow the thumbs down asshat went through here pretty damn quick, Catholic anyone??

Answer 3

I just have to respond to ☼evolvedkw☼'s answer that:

"Ultimately, a person who commits suicide will never be able to explain why, simply because if there were anyone they felt they could explain too, they would not be suicidal."

No. No, no, no, NO.

"Talking about it" does NOT eliminate suicidal feelings. That is a concept that only leaves the survivors with more guiilt. I have treatment-resistant depression and have been suicidal several times. I was fortunate enough to have people that I could talk to about it, but talking about it didn't help much because the wellspring of internal pain was so overwhelming. There's also the fact that in deeper stages of depression, the depressed person tends to become quieter and to talk less about anything, especially their innermost feelings -- so even if friends ARE available to listen, it might not do any good.

Answer 4

I'm sorry for you loss, and It's very difficult losing the people we love-Unfortunatey, suicide is not something that is spontaneous -Meaning, the person would be troubled within for a long time, with people who probably did notice a difference or a change in personality or motivation (usually immidiate family knows why)-It is spontaneous in the fact that the person just gets so overwhelmed with their own emotions that the only way they feel they can cry out for help is to attempt suicide. Suicide is always a cry for help-and it is found that those who survive do regret doing what they did to themselves and are mentally sick.
This is what you hav eto know-The person was mentally ill...They are not in their rights minds, and they dont know how the consequences will turn out-how it will affect anyone. It is like a disease of the emotions.
You may not know the reason for his emotions leading up to suicide, but usually it is emotional...depression of some sort-or getting into he wrong things, and being scared.
Drugs, alcohol, and other substances that can take a person from their logic.
It's sad when it happens, but just know that your friends soul is being taken care of on The Other Side. They are being loved, and councilled there as well. As the soul needs to et well again-emotions affect the core soul, and that doesn't heal without help and God's love.
Pray for your friend, send them love-they can feel that.
You may get dream visits after they are rejuvinated once again.

Answer 5

I do not understand it either and it makes me sad for you and the people that will never get the answers they need. I am so sorry for your lost just remember there is nothing anyone could have done to change what happened. I do not think anyone can will ever know what goes on in someones mind to make them think this is the only way out. I believe suicide is never the answer. May the Lord bring comfort and peace to you!

Answer 6

I don't know, but I can say that depressed people tend to think they are the only one with their problem and no one would understand. When you are suicidal and considering the act, the last thing you want is someone telling you to get help. They want someone to tell them it's ok, talk it through and listen to you. Killing youself is a cry for help that will never be heard during their life.

I am sorry for your pain and the pain of his family and other friends.

Answer 7

I have ask myself the same question since 1985, when my brother did the same thing, without warning.

It is very important for you to realize since he was successful in doing this, nothing you could have said or done would have made much difference.

Pray for his family and other friends. And don't allow anyone to tell you his soul is in hell, because we do not know what was in his heart at that time, so don't go there.

"May God Bless"

Answer 8

i was a 'kid who coped' - no way you would have thought i was suicidal - popular at school, on a coupla sports teams, cool clothes, enough cash, beautiful gf - really really perfect...but underneath - the reason i kept everything looking so great was because i was almost completely destroyed, on a daily basis, by the secrets i carried. took me years and years to address those and i tried to kill myself on two occasions both successfully covered up but just a matter of luck`.

not saying that was what happened with your friend - there are other possibilities...maybe he DIDn't kill himself...maybe he was just 'trying something out'...who knows...i believe you WILL find out one day and you will meet again, but that is my spiritual belief and i have no way of proving that to you.

sorry you are left with such big questions, that's gotta be tough. your valuing of him here is real and i think that's beautiful - i guess the size of your 'why' relates to the size of the hole he has left and that says alot about his life...and your heart.

Answer 9

I have a friend that committed suicide while I was in college. I remembered him all the times. Although, he committed suicide, I have the hope that one day I will see him again. When that day comes, I will be able to explain to him and he will be able to understand that what he did wrong. My friend committed suicide during a period where he was having a lot of stress and going through so many problems.

Pray for your friend and always remember him. One day you will be able to see him again, but not yet.

Answer 10

So very sorry to hear about your friend. It leaves so many unanswerable questions and guilt for those left behind. He must have felt so bad about whatever reason he had to want to die and now there is nothing anyone can do but comfort each other.

Answer 11

many people suffer with depression and things in their lives can be great but the chemical missing from the brain wont let them function properly they have low self esteem but hide it well and are often scared to talk about it in case they are labled a bore so its a catch 22 they cant be blamed for their actions and this world is so cruel a lovely person like your friend would find it hard to take i know its no comfort but so many suffer but tablets can put back the chemical missing