theres this girl i really like and recently we got into a little fight. i told her i'd stop smokin b/c she really wanted me too, but i only had 2 cigarettes left. so i decided to smoke them, but her friend kind of snitched on me. this was the last time i smoked. i told her what happen and she screamin at me about how "cigarettes are gonna kill me" and whatever. i told her i understood and she left to go to her next class. RECENTLY she hasn't been talkin to me at all, and times i want to talk to her she just gives me dumb reasons like "i'm gonna be late" or "my friends are waiting for me" which she never used to say before the fight. i talked to her today but i feel like she's trying to distance her from me. IDK WHAT TO DO!! i really like her and i wanna be with her but i just don't know how to make her trust me again.....i dont know if i should tell her i like her or if i should just try to get our relationship back to the way it used to be... im really confused... ='(
2007-11-21 12:31:28 · 13 answers · asked by ekibyougami_3 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, if I was you I would ask her to just give you a minute and tell her the truth. Start out with saying, I really like you and I know cigarettes are bad for me that's why Im not smoking anymore, but I only had 2 cigs left. But I know she probably would say, " why did you just throw them away" and your answer can be: I should have and Im sorry, you are right. Its important for guys to apologize and show remorse. Tell the girl that she can trust you and that you wont do it again since you really like her and that you want to prove it to her.
Then never dont do it again! Smoking IS bad for you.
2007-11-21 12:35:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well write her a note and tell her you just can't stop smoking all of a sudden and ask her if she understands that you've been trying to change and you fail into a relapse and it want happen again and thank her for taking a interest in your health and say something like if she didn't pursue you to stop smoking you would probably be smoking more than you are now. And she''ll take the note and read it .Then when yeah get a good relationship again tell her you like her.Maybe write her a not in a cigarette box asking her out then when she open it that's what it would say.
2007-11-21 12:43:40 · answer #2 · answered by cenderella 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok well if I were you first if she doesn't talk to you when you try then I move on to plan B which e-mail or text or anything to tell her what happened without her like hanging up on you or like doing what she is now! If you truely are in love with her then I'd really try to tell her how I feel because if it means the world to me then yeah! But I don't know because I'm also a girl but I would give someone like you a second chance! So GOOD LUCK!
2007-11-21 12:38:00 · answer #3 · answered by Kendi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sigh, I understand smoking isn't too good for you and I commend you for wanting to stop. But there are things far more dangerous than smoking in your environment: an over-controlling girlfriend. Are you sure you want back with her?
Anyway, if you do... I wish you luck with her next outburst. Perhaps she'll insist that you cut your hair the way SHE wants it, or whatever else she can think of.
Take care and I wish you well.
2007-11-21 12:41:18 · answer #4 · answered by Tom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some girls don't date guys who smoke. I personally don't because it looks bad for your image. Smoking isn't socially acceptable the way it was 30-40 years ago. Talk to her, she feels betrayed because you broke your promise. Tell her you have stopped smoking because you want to be healthy. Ask her out on a date and tell her how you feel about her. Thats all you can do. ⥠Jordan
2007-11-21 12:36:42 · answer #5 · answered by style assimilator 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think shes acting immature. because if she really liked you she wouldnt let something SO small get in the way of being with you like smoking. they say if you give someone any little reason to leave they will take it..so sounds like shes not that into you babe. you see what im saying? let her go. if she cant accept you for your little flaws then she cant accept you at all..move on to the next person.theres plenty fish in the sea. and you keep trying to approach her isnt making anything better so play it cool for a while wait for her to come around.
2007-11-21 12:36:12 · answer #6 · answered by Fit 4 A King 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to explain to her that quitting smoking is a very difficult thing and you just can't quit cold turkey. You could go to her friend and put the guilt on her make her feel bad about it. You could quit smoking and tell her that you quit, that would make her feel better. She only got so mad because she cares about you, so I'm sure she will listen if you ask her to.
2007-11-21 12:37:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
shes just trying to take care of you and that means a lot.. she probably really likes you too but got upset that you disrespected her. you should probably go explain how you know its so bad for you and you need her help to help you stop
2007-11-21 12:34:48 · answer #8 · answered by shayyrian 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
shes playing female games, dude. she wants to you to seek her out and prove you like her. she obviously cares about you, but be careful maybe she doesnt like you like that. this requires finesse, smoothly move in and dont waste anymore time, this is your time to be with her, dont be overbearing, but persistance helps. i cant describe it, good news is dude, it gets easier with age
2007-11-21 12:38:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her how you feel..and that its hasn't been easy for you to stop smoking ..its going to take time.
2007-11-21 12:34:57 · answer #10 · answered by blondie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋