If you were angry at your teen and we always getting into arguments, would you threaten to call one of their friends and tell that friends the teens bad habits and everything you didnt like about the teen, so that friend wouldnt want to ever talk to the teen ever again?
Im 18 and my friend is 23 and I also really like him alot.
2007-11-21 12:07:29 · 17 answers · asked by RebelPrincess 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Now I didnt do anything wrong either.
She asked me to clear all the old stuff out of the fridge and I decided to help put away the groceries she just got while I cleared and she yelled at me because I was going to put the groceries away wrong and that I need to just go back up stair and take a shower or something because my hair looked like s-h-i-t. I has swim practice till 9 last night and was too tired to shower and have been too lazy today and was going to take one later.
2007-11-21 12:14:48 · update #1
I grad this may, Class of 08 baby!
2007-11-21 12:16:10 · update #2
And she actually did this once one time.
I stayed out with a couple of my guy friends till 3am and she told me I wasnt able to hang out with one of them because of it and i was going to go to the mall with my friend britney and my mom called the guy and was like "_____ can go to the mall with you but I just dont want her to be staying out so late." She called him 3 times and he had nothing to do with it, I was so embarrassed.
2007-11-21 12:20:00 · update #3
Trish M: Yes I am Already 18.
And its not "advise" its "advice".
Im not whining my mom is blackmailing and threatening to ruin one of my friendships i value.
2007-11-21 12:46:45 · update #4
Housepoor: The 23yro works at a radio station and I started talking to him last year my mom knows hims and really trust him. She thinks hes a great guy.
2007-11-22 07:11:36 · update #5
I am the mother of 2 teens and 2 adults, and I can tell you that, not only would I would not say that ever, nor would I ever threaten to do that. How cruel.
2007-11-21 12:12:49 · answer #1 · answered by Barb Outhere 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Not at all. That would not be good parental judgment, nor would it be appropriate. It would be a control issue on the part of the parent. It would be an immature act. Using threats or black mail to get control of your teen sounds to me like the parent needs serious counseling. Parenting during the teen years can be a huge job and the outlook can get pretty grim for parents sometimes. They think they are losing control and that to be a good parent they must stay in control not matter what. This attitude and way of thinking causes the parent to lose all perspective. It is not good for the parent or child. The parent needs to be guided on what approach to take to reach their child. The best thing to do is to have outside objectivity and the support of family counseling.
2007-11-21 12:18:39 · answer #2 · answered by danaluana 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No, I would not do that but I would as the the 23 year old what he is doing hanging around with teenagers.
If you are living at home you should be abiding by your parents rules. If you don't like the rules get a job and move out.
2007-11-21 12:11:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Well it isn't something that would come to my mind but
but in the heat of an argument parents make all sorts of wild threats when they are angry and beyond knowing what to say or do. I'll bet you've said plenty of things when you are angry that you didn't really mean.
2007-11-21 12:16:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's a text book example of how not to parent.
The surest way to alienate one's child is to betray him/her like that.
If only parents knew that maintaining their channels of communication is perhaps the MOST important aspect of parenting, their job would be SO much easier. You don't need to punish for every infraction - to do that only pushes the behavior underground.
2007-11-21 12:18:05 · answer #5 · answered by HyperDog 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
NO not a good way to get through to them u need to calmy
throw a ****** chair at there head bitchez.........no im just jokin u gotta give em a reward so that they have more respect for u nd then try to reach out to them
2007-11-21 12:12:21 · answer #6 · answered by Andres M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Uh. No! That's terrible parenting. A parent should never do anything out of anger. Especially spreading rumors about their own children. How terrible is that?! I would never even consider doing this to my children. What's the point of it? Most parents protect their children from situations like that, not create them.
2007-11-21 12:11:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't do that, but if you're living with your folks, you need to understand that you're fortunate. My folks told me I had to leave when I graduated high school. I wasn't a bad kid. I had a 3.9, a full scholarship, and never got into trouble. They just wanted their house to themselves. They could kick your but out, and your problems would rise exponentially. I know it sucks, but don't forget what a good thing you've got.
2007-11-21 12:12:33 · answer #8 · answered by stevenhendon 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
good gracious are you really going to be 18??? or already are??? you are a spoiled brat my advise to you is grow up!!! When you do grow up you will realized that the home and food and life you took for granted as a kid was way easier than the "real world" where the earth does not revolve around you. I am not trying to be mean but really, you are just whinning.....
2007-11-21 12:41:55 · answer #9 · answered by just duky 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
No mom needs to act like a mom. Thats a childs game.
2007-11-21 12:11:46 · answer #10 · answered by tracycarter23 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋