does the guy need to pay for the date?

Question

i would have paid for myself but is it rude if the guy just comes out and says u dont expect me to pay for u, do u? i think it is. what do u think?

he said he didnt have enough money....... but the day before he said he had $700!

he asked me out and i believe the guy should pay and then sometimes the girl can pay

Answer 1

He asked you out, I think he should pay since he obviously wanted to show you something about himself in an intimate setting.
Well, he did! He showed you that there is a super-glued pocket on his trousers and Velcro on his fingers...do you need more information?

Answer 2

Before the start of the "men and women are equal" movement, men were expected to pay for all the expenses of a date regardless of the earning disparity or income between them. However, since the advent of the movement, the rules have changed.Now the rules are 1) if the gal asks the guy out on a date, then she pays for everything2) Both parties may elect to go dutch, that is, each person pays their own bill and for their own expenses3) The rules in number 1and 2 above can be altered by either person at any time; simply, you can decide to pay the bills even if you were the one asked out and not the one doing the asking.Your date could have made his statement in a nicer way but the point is still valid. I hope that does not make you change your mind about him( if he is a nice guy);times and the relationship between men and women have changed and continue to change.I wish you the best.

Answer 3

I'm older (over 19 - LOL) and I still expect the guy to pay for the first date and for every time he asks me out. Sometimes if there is something I really want to do, like a play or concert, then I'll tell him I'll buy the tickets. And at some point one is comfortable in having him over for dinner. That usually ends up costing way more money than at a restaurant, by the time you make the appies, the soup, the salad, veggies, main course plus all the wine. Life is short so if any issues come up, I dump the man real fast. I'm past McDonalds. LOL

Answer 4

I think if you're in a comfortable relationship the guy should just tell you straight up before you go somewhere if he can afford it or not.
Then you guys can plan better.
For a first date, if you're uncertain, maybe ask when you're making plans.
You could just ask if you need to bring money, or maybe ask if he wants to go halves on the date.
Hard to say what's expected these days.
In the old days it was proper for the guy to usually pay for the date.
These days things are different.
Maybe just have money with you on your dates if it's too uncomfortable to talk about.
Like all relationship issues, communication is the key.
Oh, and yes it was rude of him to handle the situation that way.
Hopefully my thoughts help for future dates.

Answer 5

I agree, that is totally rude to say. There are WAY more tactful ways of getting the same point across.

However, maybe I'm an old fashioned girl at heart, but I think he should pay on the first date. The girl can pay on the second!

Answer 6

Going by etiquette, the person who asked the other person out on the date should pay for the date. It is usually the guy that asks out the girl, so that is why you normally see guys paying for the date.

Answer 7

Hmm.

I'm curious to know how old the guy is. If he's really young, then I'm thinking he just doesn't get it.

If there was no expressed agreement between you and him beforehand, and if HE asked YOU out, he should've paid. Definitely. Maybe he didn't understand that is the norm.

In any case, it's always good for the lady to carry money with her.

Answer 8

If that's the way they say it, then yes, its rude. There are nicer ways of saying things. I usually expect the guy to pay, but what I do is offer to pay and the guy says, I got it, don't worry, and I just put my money away. But I wouldn't sweat it too much.

By the way, I'm a firm believer of "who invited, pays"

Answer 9

i think if you ask someone out on a date then you should pay for them or at least split it. it doesnt matter who asked who whether it be girl or guy but i think that whoever organised it should at least pay for themselves and offer to pay for all.
for one thing, if i get asked out somewhere and i dont have any cash I DONT GO. i know some skanks that go to the club with nothing and just act slutty and get everything paid for by guys and then ditch them as soon as they get stuff.
i think the dude you went on a date with is, either, a tightass or someone who doesnt have very good social skills.
you didnt mention how the rest of the date was....
are you going to see him again?

Answer 10

OMG!!! I CAN'T BELEIVE A GUY WOULD SAY THAT!!! THAT IS COMPLETLY RUDE AND HE IS BEING A THIGHT AS$!!!!!!! OF COURSE HE NEED'S TO PAY!!!!!!! UNLESS THERE ARE YOUR BOYFREINDS MAYBE YOU CAN PAY ONCE IN A WHILE BUT IF YOU GUYS ARE JUST DATING SPECIALLY ON THE FIRST DATE HE HAS TO PAY!!!!!!!! EWWW THAT GUYS IS STUPID IN THE HEAD!!! WHY IN THE WORLD WILL YOU TALK TO HIM OR WASTE YOUR MONEY WHEN YOU CAN HAVE A NICE GOOD MANNERED GUY PAY AND TREAT YOU LIKE A LADY!!!!! UNLESS HE SAID THAT BECAUSE HE HAS NO RESPECT FOR YOU!!