What would u do if ur mom hurt ur feelings?

Question

I love my mom dearly but today she said something that really hurt me and got me so sad that I almost cried. She came and apologized and said she didn't mean to and of course I accepted her apology and acted nicely as if nothing has happened but deep inside I'm still really sad and so hurt :(

just had to say, the 1st two answers r really stupid

Answer 1

Hey ya Amar,

I know you love her dearly and i am quiet positive she does more than you a million times over, however, sometimes the say or do certain things that makes us sad or hurt, but the truth is they never mean to, it might be just the opposite, they r so worried or overprotective or very loving that they are so worried and the only wa to get through to us is with strong words that might hurt.

Yalla go kiss her and forget all about it, if you still feel the need talk to her, do it gently and tell her that yr hurt, i am sure she'll explain what she meant.

As Salah said. wait till you become a mum, then you ll know how precious and dear you are to her.

Answer 2

Sweetie I am sure that this will not be a lasting thing between you and your Mum. But that still doesn't lessen the hurt you are feeling right now.When we are hurt by someone who is so close to us the pain is intensified by our love for them.
She is most likely unaware that she has hurt you so deeply and is hurting just like you are.
It may be that she really doesn't know how to deal with apologizing properly to you as an adult,for it doesn't matter how old our children are they remain our children in our hearts.
You are her little Ruby, not Ruby the wife, the woman who is about to have a child. This is just the way that things are and you will be the same with your children when they grow up inashAllah.
It may be that one of you is going to have to take the initiative and rebuild the bridge before the gap widens, I may be wrong but I somehow sense that it may be more than just a simple Mother daughter difference of opinion.
There may be some unsaid things you both need to address and talk through as two adults who love and respect each other.For if you leave it to fester and burn away at your hearts it will never heal and scar your relationship forever.
Sometimes our parents feel awkward and even insecure around us when we grow up,for that is not who they hold dear to their hearts.
You really need to go to her and say" Mum I am hurting", and tell her exactly why. Don't hold back and say what you think she wants to hear, say exactly what you need to say to her.
That is the only way that you will both be able to say "I am truly sorry" and walk away not feeling and holding on to the pain you are feeling now.

Answer 3

The hardet part in having "everyday" relationships with people is the daily interaction.
One might have a GREAT relationship with someone that you don't see on a daily basis. But when it comes to someone that you are always with, or always in contact with, feuds start to arise. This is because each one wants different things, and has different views on life.
You will hurt your loved ones. They will hurt you too. And I almost sure that they have hurt you before, and that you have hurt them before.
It's not about that, it's about how sincere you are in your willingness to apologize, and to fix the harm that was done.
Because relationships must go on.
And you can't hold grudges against people for ever. And again, remember, there will be a time when you will be the one to blame. At that time you will want them to grant you the one thing they are looking for now" forgiveness"

Answer 4

All Mothers make mistakes, they are human to, you know.

She sounds like a nice lady. She apologized to you. Do you know how many girls would keep their right eye, to have a mother that cared like that.

Read some of the desperate questions on Answers, from teens whose mothers are very questionable.

Let it go. You cannot keep hurt in you, from every hurt you get in your life. There are going to be a lot of them, but what you can do is learn from the mistake, and the hurt and be a better caring person because of it.

Give your Mum a hug and tell her you love her. She certainly loves you.

Answer 5

Assalamualaikum!
Yeah! it hurts a lot, but then i think that we also hurt our mothers alot, may be more than they do!
So then i feel better, and after all my mother is also a human being, and humans always make mistakes. We should accept them with there good and bad habits.

Once i read something about it!
It said that why it is so difficult to love our Mothers as much as they love us.? The answer was that, because a mother love her children for what they are wid all of their good and bad qualities, they love for nothing in return and we love them only for their good qualities.

Answer 6

Unfortunately family will say things that hurt your feelings. My mom and sister said things to me quite a bit. You have to ignore them (hard as that may be) and accept her apology. She probably feels just as bad as you do about it. She would never hurt her baby on purpose (yes, you are still her baby). It may take a few days to forget what was said, but remember its family and their love is unconditional.

Answer 7

you should really talk to her about it if you dont then shell just keep doing it. when i had my two kids my mom made those days a bad day. she would lie about something i said because she knew i was out of it. but yeah she would lie about something that i had said and make me feel bad she took all the joy away of having a new baby. i think its because she is depressed. just ask why she did that or said that. it will totally make you feel better even if she does get mad at you

Answer 8

Your mum may go through the rough time. No one will hurt you unless you take it seriously. If it is nothing important, why don't you laugh it away? Good luck with your future.

Answer 9

I'm so sorry. That's terrible i would probally cry.But you should sit down with your mom and tell her how you feel about things she said.Also try and get herself to put her in your position she should understand , if she truly loves you which i believe she does.


God bless and goodluck

Answer 10

To make a long story short.
I had quit talking to my mom, and during that time she died.
Communicate with your mom, and just tell her how you feel.
Do it in a peaceful way, even if you don't hear what you want to hear.
You don't want to feel how i feel, trust me.