i feel like i have wasted a year of my life waiting for this guy. hes a close friend that ive known since primary school and my feelings just wont go away, despite the fact that i now know that he does not feel the same. i found out a couple of weeks ago. it suprised me at first because everybody thought he did and the way he acted suggested unspoken feelings. well i was wrong. i dont want to loose our friendship but i dont know how to act around him anymore and it hurts. what do i do?
2007-11-21 11:38:55 · 29 answers · asked by victorias.secret 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
P.S. we would be at parties together and only hang out with each other. people that didnt know us presumed we were dating. his best girl friend got jealous when she saw us together. i had every reason to believe that he felt the same. please no more comments saying: just get over it.. ive heard it all before.
2007-11-21 11:46:49 · update #1
As long as you're around him, you're going to be obsessing and not "open" to another relationship. Get out and meet some new guys, stay as far away from this one as possible.
2007-11-21 11:42:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, this happens very often. Some call it "Un-respited Love". This happens to many people. What makes each case unique is how the person handles it.
Secondly, if you think this guy is so great, may be you have not wasted a year. Keep this guy as your friend. Great friends are hard to come by.
Finally, so he does not feel the same way. So what! Get into the next lane so that someone who feels this way about you can have your entire heart.
2007-11-21 11:53:12 · answer #2 · answered by speed8353 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry that you feel like that but you are going to have to let it go and move on if you want to remain friends. Sometimes when we really want something, we try to make it seem as though it is really possible, I'm not saying he didn't give you signs of affection but maybe you read too much into them. Since you've liked this guy for a while and saw possibility of a relationship, it could take a little while to get over it. Just understand that it isn't something personal, he just wasn't interested in you in that way. Let it go and forget it, he will and if he starts to give you signs, ignore it. It could be either his nature to be affectionate or he could just be playing with you. Good Luck!
2007-11-21 11:47:52 · answer #3 · answered by Christine V 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let yourself care for him but remember that if you really care for him then you want above all else for him to be happy, even if that means in the arms of another person.
You just do what you like don't bother looking for someone else because when the time is right if ever that will happen out of your doing the things you like to do.
What to do around him? Be polite but you don't HAVE to do anything, just be yourself. You haven't 'wasted' a year waiting for him, you have invested that time in an important life lesson learning activity which will contribute to your greater later life contentment.
And as for people who hang it on you about your spelling and your pain well I guess they must be missing a whole lot of life if they get their kicks by something as superficial as that.
Hold your head high. You are OK
2007-11-21 11:51:45 · answer #4 · answered by happylady216 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why feel hurt over something that already pass or you know that will give no result? it's hard to forget, but time will take its course. Hopefully you can still see him as a friend, but if he doesn't want to just move on and don't try to forget because it will come back stronger (your feeling toward him). So just be normal and let thing go the way it is :)
2007-11-21 11:44:52 · answer #5 · answered by YooH8M3? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe not spend anytime around him anymore.
The more you stick around the more you can't move past the thought of you and him not together.
Plus he probably was not totally clueless about how you felt about him. Why would he lead you on without saying anything. Does not sound like a good friend to me.
2007-11-21 11:44:22 · answer #6 · answered by anosey1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get yourself a rose quartz crystal, put it under your pillow when you sleep and carry it round with you.
You will receive the love you need from mother nature, by doing this. It will then make you emotionally stronger and you will be able to deal with it.
Sometimes we have to break away from the friendship for a while so we can heal ourselves. When we return, the friendship can move on with no emotional baggage.
I wish you lots of luck,
Peace, Love and Light x
2007-11-21 11:44:40 · answer #7 · answered by Pink Angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, he might be lying about not liking you in that way because he's emmbarrased to tell you. Or you could get a boyfriend and see if it makes him jealous. you could also just ask him out and say it's a friend date and let im show his true feelings.
2007-11-21 11:43:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately hanging around him only makes an awkward situation worse. You're going to have to move on. At least don't hang out for a few weeks.
2007-11-21 11:42:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you, I would be frank with him. I'd tell him how I feel about him and would also let him know that he doesn't have to feel likewise about me. I'd also let him understand how precious his friendship is to me, regardless of his answer concerning what I confessed to him. At least then, well I hope, you would feel a little more at ease around him.
2007-11-21 11:49:34 · answer #10 · answered by StarLight82 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋