What is a "break" ...In relationship wise ? I mean me and my boyfriend need one ! LIke what am i suppose to do ...am i not able to see him and for how long? Please give me as much advice as possible ...we are always fighting and i live with him so i think we need a break and i need help on doing it ??????
2007-11-21 10:48:48 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just don't talk or hang out for like a week or so. Then give him a call and see how it goes. You will realize after a few days that you really miss him. All your true feelings will come out. Hope this helps!
2007-11-21 10:52:06 · answer #1 · answered by Jordin 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Usually in a situation like that, it is best if one or both of you move out for awhile so that you can cool down, collect yourselves, and see where the relationship should really go.
I am sorry to tell you this, but it really is the healthiest way. If you are fighting enough to feel like you need to 'go on a break', it is a very danger signal and you are probably close to losing the relationship. If your boyfriend is agreeable, couple counseling may help. Otherwise, I do think y ou should just give each other that space so that you do not even have the opportunity to start any arguments.
2007-11-21 18:53:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
A break, can mean different things to different people. To me, its taking a break...you cant date other people cause you are still together, but its like putting things on hold, you need some time to yourself or to go out with friends. It is hard to take a break while living together, but if you could stay with a friend for a night or two...Just make sure that if you want to be with him that you let him know what a break means to you. I live with my boyfriend but right when things get stressful, i always have to go out of town so thats lucky, but also if you want things to work you need to know how to communicate, and you should communicate that you need a break. A couple days apart, maybe no talking on the phone the first day, it helps me all the time, and especially my best friend has done this with her boyfriend a few times. Just make sure you both know the outlines of the break...goodluck!! If you need anything else just email me
2007-11-21 18:55:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You didn't say how long you have been living together. But for me, living together is as good as being married. And just because things are a bit rocky now, you want a break. That doesn't sound good at all. Why not get help professionally? Like from a Marriage Counselor or your parish priest? Get to the root of your problems and try to solve them together. Maybe its just a matter of miscommunication. If it's financial, work on it. Whatever it is. do it together. That will make you grow in your relationship. Don't give up so easily, ok?
2007-11-21 19:00:25 · answer #4 · answered by Maloy5 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
A break is when you dont see each other for a set period of time so that you can both cool off and think seriously about where your relationship is heading.
Before you do this you need to calmly sit down and talk with him. Ask him how he feels....Tell him how you feel. What causes the fights and can this be fixed. As you live together then one of you has to move out, is this possible.
If you sit and talk ask him to write down 5 good things that he likes about you and five things that annoy him....You do the same and then both pass your papers over and compare notes. This can be quite interesting and it is a start to communicating your problems.
Relationships have to be worked through, its not easy living with another person, you both have to give and take and be quite mature about things.
If there is love between you then that is your good starter, by talking you can achieve good things and being honest helps.
That also means that both of you have to be willing to listen without arguing to each others comments. It wont be easy but you can do it if you want it to work out.
Good Luck to both of you.
2007-11-21 18:59:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
This subject has come up a lot lately here in YA and I have myself spoken to the point on a few occasions. A "break" as the name implies (and as I understand it) is a supposed temporary break up of a couple which allows them, among other things, to see other people as they will with a clear conscience. I've heard it described as a recuperative measure that allows the partners to evaluate where things stand between them and return to the relationship at some future date refreshed. Personally I am not a fan of breaks, because I think they merely delay problems instead of facing them head-on, but I also readily admit that it's a fairly recent, youthful concept so it's understandable that I wouldn't have much of a frame of reference for it. No doubt there are folks out there making it work, but I suspect there's an equal number of folks out there over-complicating their lives by adding other people to the mix when they're not fully disassociated from their primary partner. But since my purpose for this question isn't to advocate for or against it but merely to define it, this is my current understanding of the process. (I suppose any rules of conduct during the break are negotiable). Happy Thanksgiving
2007-11-21 19:09:11 · answer #6 · answered by Captain S 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you live together of course it complicates things a bit. If the break is your idea then you need to make the plans to leave. Find another place and just go thru with it. Threatening to leave is not cute if you aren't prepared to do it.
You do sound desperate which tells me that you need to take care of this soon. If you fight all the time it's possible he feels the same way. Try to talk to him about it first. If you both want to just have a cooling down time maybe try joint counseling while you are living apart. Good luck sweetie.
2007-11-21 18:54:42 · answer #7 · answered by Lily S 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
When two people in a relationship take a "BREAK", it should mean that you cut off all contact with each other for at least one week, maybe two weeks. Give each other some space and some time. And YES, within that break, you ARE allowed to see other people, and do whatever you want.
Then after the two week period, you decide whether you missed each other enough to get back together, or you can live without each other and you break up permanently.
Cheers
2007-11-21 18:54:04 · answer #8 · answered by Daft One 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Usually a break is some separate time.You can see him.If its to talk about the issue. About 1 and a half weeks.Depends on how bad it is.Good luck.Dont look for new yet.Give it some time.Maybe write him a letter to show him how you feel.In the letter include.I dont think we need to break up.but i feel that ........ Then in the end of the letter say call me if youre ready to work this out.If you dont answer within 5 days,i will assume youre done with me. or somthing like that.
2007-11-21 18:54:31 · answer #9 · answered by noodlegirl2414 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You want a break-up? Easy, pack all your things and leave him..and leave him a letter with a strong impact...tell him that you cant bear no more and that your relationship is going nowhere.........what the heck, a relationship is not a forced thing....he cant force you if you don't want anymore...make a space and distance............no communication, go where you think you can have peace of mind...he is ignoring you.not able to see him ..so what does that mean..you are not important, he thought living in with you is enough but that displays irresponsibility really..........he doesnt deserve you........go and don't come back and if he tries to talk to you after sometime..be firm and be decisive..........he is not a real man..you knowok???good luck and cheer up!!!
2007-11-21 18:59:14 · answer #10 · answered by E@rthGoddess 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋