Girl Problemss.... help me please??

Question

well mi girlfriend and i aren't reallry having godd converstaions our converstions are very shorty and i think she is more comfortable talking to this guy named shawn and can tell him anything
but i am her boyfriend and we barely talk.
whats is wrong please help me?..
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i am 14 years old and i am getting really pissed.
i can say i love you to her and she doesn't even say it back but if anyone elses says that to her she says it to them.

Answer 1

Wow...deja vu for me. I can relate. Maybe I can give you some advice.

First off...you have to think. Think of all the angles and all the situations. Dont jump into conclusions.

Number one, i would suggest doing a "break" from each other for some time. But that would leave you in a risky position, because she might leave you.

Remember, she MUST choose you as you MUST choose her. Love is a choice. Love is not fate, or destiny. It is a choice. If she does not choose you above every other guy on the face of the planet, then she will not commit. Do not commit to a girl when she will not commit back.

Show her that you love her. But if she will not love you now, she most likely wont love you later.


Lastly, you have ALOT of decades of years ahead of you. You can use time to your advantage. Let time take its toll, and let her make HER choices. You cannot make her choices. She must choose you.

Love is a choice; its a choice to love AND a choice to be loved.


Think about these things...and do not jump to conclusions. Trust me. I did that...and it did not go well....dont make the same mistake i did.

Answer 2

Maybe you're her first and she just doesnt know what to really do. You are14 and so Im guessing shes the same age. That's young. Just be patient, if you guys havnt been dating that long, then just let it take its time. But if you guys have been dating for a while now, then Id do somthing about it. As though you two may not talk alot maybe you should say somthing to her to make it so you do talk. Tell her that you two need to talk and its about your relationship. Be honest with her, dont just go straight to breaking up. She might not even relize that shes hurting you so dont go straight to hurting her by breaking up. But yeh, just be honest and tell her that your not happy with the relationship and that if she dont straighten up then you two are over. But just let her realize the problem before you break up with her, for if you dont then that will just leave her in questions.

Answer 3

well how long have you been with her because if you've dated her for a while now then i can understand the i luv u part but if you guys just started then she might think you dont mean it becuase its such a strong phrase...besides she probably says it back to other ppl cause she's not dating them and she knows she means it as a joke and not a relationship type of thing...but she might just be a little scared to say it to you because maybe she doesnt LOVE you yet..im not saying she doesnt like you im just saying that maye she's not ready to tell you that...and if you guys have shot conversations then just ask her about her day or something that might make her talk for a long time..or maybe something's buggin her that you might have to ask her whats wrong

Answer 4

please do not worry.

#1. you and she are 14 years old and unless you think you are going to stay with and marry this girl when you are older, these questions don't even matter.

#2. being a girl, I can attest to the fact that teenage girls can be pretty fickle and heartless. Don't worry that she doesn't "love" you.

#3. maybe you need to find another girl you can talk to. one of the most important things in a relationship (for anyone, any age) is fun and clear communication.
otherwise, it never works.

hope this helps you, don't take it too seriously. you will find someone better suited to you someday :)

Answer 5

I understand what ur talking about and i thnk the first thing you should do is to start complimenting her like telling her, her eyes are prety tell her she looks good and thn move on from there and if that doesnt work u NEED to have a talk with her b4 she hurts you too much or u do somin that is uncalled for hope my advice helps

Answer 6

well Gabe,
you are 14. There is no way u really "love" her. you are too young to really be in love. Plus she may say "i love you" to other people becuz she has known them longer or she just knows shes not committed to them if ya know what i mean.
How long have you been dating ne ways?

Maybe she just isnt ready to accept you as her boyfriend
girls are complicated sumtimes to a guy, just figure her out some more...that is if she lets you...lol

You are too young to be in a REAL relationship!

Answer 7

ok well im 16 and my boyfriend is a year younger than me, we are now together for a year and when we first got together he was 14 and i was 15, our conversation at the beginning was extremely boring..it took us forever to get use to eachother..he talked to this girl all the time and i would talk to other guys because our conversations were boring between eachother..
love will wait, trust me
dont get jealous or frustrated that she talks to other guys..
ive gone through this and understand exactly wht u mean
just wait in a couple of months things will get better..
me and my boyfriend took at least 2 months to get to know eachother but before that we didnt talk much and never hung around eachother..soo
goodluck and hold on to her for a couple of more months but if this continues
leave her because she isnt worth ur time.

Answer 8

Maybe she is either shy with you, or the feelings may not be mutual. If you two can't communicate that's not having a healthy relationship. .. part of it maybe because you guys are so young. Maybe she tells this "shawn" guy more stuff because she's talking about you....i know I do that sometimes..like I can't go to my boyfriend to vent about the things that piss me off about him. You need to go to her for the answers..and if u don't find any..you should end it..find someone who will talk to you.

Answer 9

pull her aside at school, sit her down, and ask what is up... say you care about her and you want to know why she is acting this way.. after some coaxing tell her that you are her boyfriend and she should be open with you or what is the point of having a relationship.... of she still won't talk ask her if she even wants to be in a relationship w/ u.... that should get some answers!

Answer 10

Try to get together more. Do more Dates. Once i had a girlfriend that did the same thing and i tried that and it worked. If you are uncomfortable with shawn than confront him and tell him to back off. I did this to a kid names Cole once and he refused, so i bashed his head in. So that if the kid is disrespecting your relationship with your girlfriend or your girlfriend yourself. Try it its going to work!! Good luck!!