Are some women bothered by their boyfriend/husband watching porn but do not let others know about it ? Do you think this is somewhat common that the woman will not tell others about her boyfriend/husbands habits ?
2007-11-21 09:26:54 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I sit there and watch them too
2007-11-21 09:30:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that if you find the subject somewhat taboo or sensitive then this will affect you possibly seeking advice or help. whatever your issues are with pornography use by your partner. I'm sure you are not the only person to have these feelings and being communicative with someone you trust and ultimately your partner, is the healtiest otion for resolution. You should feel that the communication between you and your partner is always open and this need not be a be all and end all type of situation. Tell him how this makes you feel and discuss possible alternatives. Maybe he is a sexually visual person thus his interest in pornography. Suggest ideas together that interest you both. If his pornography watching is interferring with day to day life for him and you, then he may need to seek some proffessional help- if you both think this is the only course of action. Communication is key. Perhaps not telling others is that in admitting he watches porn, you are not enough or you feel that you do not sexually satisfy your partner? This is most often not the case. Is there a feeling of shame that stops open discussion? all facets of sexual discovery are normal and I think the communication needs to be a bit more open - and honest if you want to be fufilled in this relationship and others.
2007-11-21 09:39:57 · answer #2 · answered by relentless_resolve 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure many women are bothered by the fact that their husbands are into porn and yes, women don't like to share the fact that their men dig porn. Mainly I think it's because the women feel threatened by the fact that their men "need" more than their wife to get turned on. They are secretly hurt by it and feel like they must not be good enough sexually, etc if their husbands are constantly turning to porn. I understand this feeling. My first husband was into porn magazines like Hustler and such. Nothing really hard core but still. Anyhow, I actually felt jelouse about the fact that these other women were what he was looking at and not me. I knew it was stupid because there was an extremely limited possibility that he would ever meet any of those women but still it bothered me. I wanted to be the only one he was turned on by! He explained to me that it wasn't anything like that he didn't want me but just a part of his sexual fantasy world. EVERYONE has a secret sexual fantasy world, don't they? Anyhow, I got over it. My second husband isn't into porn but he does share with me when he finds another woman attractive and I share with him when I find another man attractive.
2007-11-21 09:48:49 · answer #3 · answered by blakta2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My ex-boyfriend watched porn, it is a natural thing that men do. Why? I have no idea.
While I think that men should want to have sex with their partners more than they do with themselves masturbation is a healthy thing to do.
I also think that what your husband/boyfriend does in the privacy of his own home (well hopefully) isn't anyone's business. I wouldn't want to divulge my sex life to everyone I know.
Maybe try watching it with him. You might find you like it.
2007-11-21 09:34:31 · answer #4 · answered by Jessie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think I watch more porn than he does. I see nothing wrong with porn, except for things like child pornography, but that goes without saying. I even watch porn with him.
2007-11-21 09:30:29 · answer #5 · answered by RedRabbit 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, porn is Taboo...along with telling others your sexual preferences/ positions, unless they have been close friends for a LONG time.
You just can't run around telling everyone that you like porn and anal. ;) They would think un-highly of you, if you were a women, and for us guys, we're just automatically labeled "pervs".
;) America and the workplace is so full of uptight people, that I could just vomit.
2007-11-21 09:32:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my boyfriend watches porn and i am so bothered by it. it makes me feel like im not good enough for him. in a way it feels like he's cheating. ive told him that i dont like that he watches porn but i dont think he cares about the way i feel.
2007-11-21 09:32:30 · answer #7 · answered by Devi 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think many women see this as a failing on their part, but it's not, men are visual creatures! I don't know of many women who talk about it, and several who hide the magazines when their friends come over.
2007-11-21 09:30:57 · answer #8 · answered by velvetca1972 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hello everybody,
My name is Louise and my boyfriend watches porn.
2007-11-21 09:30:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
ha.. some women are bothered by it because they feel they aren't living up to their husbands needs, so they don't tell anyone.. not that they should tell anyone, seeing that it wouldnt be anyones buisness what their husband/boyfriend do in their spare time..
2007-11-21 09:30:11 · answer #10 · answered by Kay 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋