I swear my parents are the most dramatic, most anxious people i have ever seen. I'm 21 years old, so this isn't a 14 year old wanting to stay out late but their parents want them home by midnight sort of thing.
My parents just blow everything about of proportion. It is all drama and it is all about things that don't matter. Like my brother will be at a bar with his friends and won't answer his cell phone, so they will freak out about it or the neighbors will give my mom a weird look, so they will sit around for an hour talking about it. They are insane and their insanity plays off each other.
This is not just misplaced concern about certain things, this is chaotic, all over the place, nearly daily occurrence total nonsense. Does anyone else have to deal with this?
2007-11-21 09:25:56 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I still live at home because i am not all that rich and am still in college.
2007-11-21 09:31:12 · update #1
Lol. How funny! YES, ALL families are like that, not just yours. It just seems like that because you're in the middle of it. We don't see what really goes on behind other peoples doors because those are the private lives we lead. Maybe you've had the opportunity to visit other peoples homes and become involved in other peoples lives and you think "Hey, these people aren't psycho like my family. I wish my family was more like this." but really you haven't seen the real side of the other family. They still put up privacy walls when others are around even if you are kinda close. They still pretend for your benefit. Everyone pretends. Who are you comparing your family to? Families you've met? Families we watch on t.v. or in movies or even commercials? Families you see hanging out together in public who are trying to be on their best behavior?
You will never, ever, ever understand your parents until you yourself are a parent. So they're insane. so what. They love you don't they? Don't you love them? You're 21 years old and right now you are kind of forced to live at home cuz you don't have it together enough yet to set up your own life separately from theirs. Financially, in this day and age, that is quite hard. Until you are on your own you really wont be able to separate yourself from your parents and make the break that is required to allow yourself to grow into an adult. It's going to be frustrating until you can do this. It's time you are on your own and its been time for a while but sadly our society is in a state of financial meltdown. It's going to take a lot of hard work, saving money and preparation to really get on your own two feet. When you finally get the chance, take it. Get a good job, even two if you have to. Get a couple of roomates, get a place and get on with your own life! Until you are able to do that, your parents are going to drive you nuts. It's just the way of things.
Good luck.
Kim
2007-11-21 10:19:06 · answer #1 · answered by blakta2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your parents are right to be concerned. Drinking is one of the worst things you can do because you can get addicted to it and become an alcoholic. Or you can go to a bar, drink, and get in an accident that kills or hurts another individual.
I'm sure your parents love you and your brother and do not want those bad things to happen to you.
Be thankful they care about you and love you that much.
While you live in their home, you should respectfully obey all of their rules and wishes.
When you have children of your own, we will feel the same concern that they do now. Soooooo, stay away from drinking and bars, please.
Joy to you!!!
2007-11-21 17:37:09 · answer #2 · answered by frillyfroofroo 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Is it your brother's and your drinking they are concerned with?
If your out wee hours of the morning, yes most parents would be concerned, as one knows those are "party" hours. up to no
good.
Is it, "What will the neighbors think!"
You might start looking at what you and your brother are doing, instead of your parents, you might find your answer.
2007-11-21 17:53:12 · answer #3 · answered by jenny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, all parents arent like this. I think the problem here is your parents have no life, no interests or hobbies so they focus on things that really arent a big deal and dwell on it.
See if you can get them interested in something.
2007-11-21 17:37:16 · answer #4 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
When you are older enough to stay out that late it's time you move out of the parents house and then do what ever you want.
2007-11-21 17:31:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You are 21....I am sitting here wondering why you are still living at home?
2007-11-21 17:29:43 · answer #6 · answered by Rein 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
same im 16 tho
2007-11-21 17:33:55 · answer #7 · answered by xxxxxtenthousandtearsxxxxx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋