My family knows my feelings get hurt easily, & they do everything in their power to hurt me. When I let them know they hurt my feelings, they call me selfish & say that all I do is think about myself. They make up so many dangerous lies that it's not even funny. My own twin sister is the worst. She invited me over to her house one time & then kicked me out because she wanted my money & I don't have any. I make $643/month when she makes $37,000/yr. Why does she still need my money? Then, she made up a lie on me because I didn't have any money to give her. She lied to my brother, saying that I looked @ her baby like I wanted to do oral sex on him, & she falsely accused me of molesting her daughter & trying to murder her when she was born. She also strongly convinced the whole family not to trust to tell me anything. I've never heard of adults with so many secrets because they're up to no good. It hurts that I have to accept the fact that I have to delete my family out of my life.
2007-11-21 09:10:27 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I'm the only & youngest person to receive a college degree out the family & they know they can't take my education away from me, so they find other ways to damage my integrity. I know I never harmed her kids. & she says it's my fault her daughter has a brain disorder-microcephaly. My twin sister has disabled veterans benefits from the military.
2007-11-21 09:12:31 · update #1
MOVE OUT AND CREATE YOUR OWN ENVIRONMENT. Leave their craziness alone, and move on with your life.
Stay as far away from them as you can, then years later when you have your degree and an excellent job, drop in and say hi, and stand tall and thankful that you are not under their influence anymore.
As for the sexual abuse that your sister is accusing you of, I would take her to small court - just like you see on t.v. with Judge Judy, and sue her for slander. You must have prove, so get her to write it down, somehow. Every detail she must confirm without hesitation, dates, places, when how, etc.
Even the threat of taking her to court will floor when she knows she is lying. But, none of what you say or do must be done in anger, you must remain calm at all times, and strong, and you must not let them get to you. That is why they are doing it, to bring you down to their level, and the only way you can stay "up there" is to stand tall, look them in the eye and tell them that you are taking them to court for slander. Then turn and walk out the door.
When you have a family like that the best place to be is far, far away from them. trust me!! I have seen enough of it in my life time.
2007-11-21 09:20:40 · answer #1 · answered by Maureen S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow...you know there's two sides to every story, but just from your description above, I'd say that they're pretty wacked out and borderline psychotic...stay away from them...what they've done as you described it, is definitely more than just simple 'hurting your feelings'...it sounds like false accusations and criminal slander.
On the other hand, there's a saying "if you think the problem is everyone else...it's usually you". Might want to get an outside opinion, to ensure that this isn't some sort of psychotic episode on your part...if it is, then seek help.
BTW, if you have a college degree, why are you make only $643 a month? That sounds kind of 'off' if you know what I mean
2007-11-21 09:26:48 · answer #2 · answered by VodkaTonic 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Sometimes it isn't worth the pain that they put you through. I have been in similar situations and it does hurt! I stay away from my family except for the holidays, then I just tolerate them because they are family. We only live 5 miles apart and I only see them a couple times a year, unless I bump into them at the store or something.
2007-11-21 09:19:57 · answer #3 · answered by Miss Behavin 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I'm kind of in the same boat as you...my family has hated me for as long as I can remember and for reasons I'll probably never know. I'm not sure why, but I always hope it'll change and they'll become a loving family someday...and I'm always disappointed. I moved from Minnesota to North Carolina just to get away from them, and it hasn't really helped. I can tell you that its probably best to have nothing to do with them anymore, but I know from experience its easier said than done.
2007-11-21 09:18:19 · answer #4 · answered by ME 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
My family are also poisonous people. I have moved on with my life and cut them off completely. I could not stand being rejected constantly.
I suggest you do the same. Since ive moved on, my life has been so much happier and stress free.
They will keep on hurting you and dragging you down. Move forward with your life without them in it and you will begin to see that your better off without them.
I wish you happiness and joy, you deserve it.
Remember, you are the better person.
Peace, Love and Light x
2007-11-21 12:26:33 · answer #5 · answered by Pink Angel 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just because you share their DNA does not mean you have to share your life with these poisonous people. If you are not around them, their hateful ways and words cannot hurt you. Quite honestly, your twin does not have all oars in the water and should be considered dangerous. Move on with your life, Hon,.... move on without them.
2007-11-21 09:19:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
They're pure poison to you. I can't envision being a member of your family and encourage you to talk to your doctors about this. You are in charge of your happiness and they don't seem to want you to be happy.
2007-11-21 10:36:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I read a book called toxic behavior How to unplug yourself from people who have toxic behavior.
good luck
2007-11-21 09:17:05 · answer #8 · answered by Heidi C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it is not worth it to be around family members who don't care about your feelings. Believe me - it really isn't worth it.
I am so sorry that your family is so cruel to you.
2007-11-21 17:33:18 · answer #9 · answered by Patti C 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋