I had a brand new set (Finally ) of matching dishes, Corell.
I saved for these for months the kind with matching serving bowls pitcher salt and pepper everything.
My boyfriends son took all the cereal bowls to his friend who has now moved away. I cant get them back!
The son says oh well. Dad says they are just bowls big deal buy more and that Im overracting. I cant buy more that match.
Im furious and I cant let it go. Am I being crazy?
This same child has lost 7 DVD movies, loaned out my 6 hoodies, 2 pair of my jeans, broke my grandmothers cookie jar, a hand painted picture off the wall dissapeared and believe me more.
2007-11-21 09:03:06 · 11 answers · asked by Lisa G 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
The boy is 15 and I consider him my son not a seperate entity from the family. I love this child. What can I do to make him understand the problem?
2007-11-21 09:45:15 · update #1
Sounds like this relationship is costing you a lot of money. You just have to decide if its worth it since your boyfriend doesnt seem to care about what his son does with your things.
2007-11-21 09:11:32 · answer #1 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To stop stuff like this from happening...don't let your boyfriend's son in your house without you and your boyfriend there. The real issue here is NOT 'matching bowls'...the issue is stealing and disrespect for you and your property. At the very least, your boyfriend should have offered replacement costs for everything that is missing (if you've brought all of this to his attention in a calm and matter of fact way...not hysterics about 'matching bowls'.)
Talk calmly and rationally to your boyfriend...if he can't see the problem with his son's stealing and general disregard for your 'stuff' then his son is not welcome at all in your house. Don't loan anymore clothes, just writeoff whatever is gone and try to move on from there.
If that was the case though, that your bf couldn't discipline his son and get him under control...and more importantly, didn't even bother to replace the missing things, because he is legally responsible for his son...then my advice would be to say good bye to him also. It really doesn't sound like the guy is a good boyfriend anyway.
2007-11-21 17:20:02 · answer #2 · answered by VodkaTonic 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, he HAS lost 7 DVD movies, loaned out 6 of your hoodies, 2 pairs of your jeans, broke your grandmothers cookie jar... and so on. I mean, I'd be pretty unhappy to be around him if I were you. But still... since he IS your boyfriend's son... Why not try talking to your boyfriend about it? Let him know what's on your mind.
2007-11-21 17:10:06 · answer #3 · answered by Dino 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you being crazy? No. Should the "Dad" be responsible for his son? Yes. I suggest: 1) you make sure "Dad" takes responsibility for his son's "thefts"; and 2) you give "Dad" a break and let him buy you a WHOLE NEW SET of Corell in a pattern you like almost as much as the ones that were "stolen." It's up to "Dad" as to who pays - he and have son work it off, etc. If you don't get exactly that, drop these LOSERS, china girl.
2007-11-21 17:09:30 · answer #4 · answered by Tad Dubious 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You're very well within reason to be upset. You're not being childish at all. They're trying to play fake psychology & turn it on you so they don't have to feel guilty. The child seems like he needs discipline bootcamp or juvenile detention center to learn his lesson. He seems unruly & out of control.
2007-11-21 17:16:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he is 18, kick him out, if not, put everything in your bedroom with a lock on the door. That's what my husband did until his kids moved out.
2007-11-21 17:29:28 · answer #6 · answered by TeaQueen 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Get new ones... By plastic! Or just go steal some from walmart!
2007-11-21 21:48:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
get one of your boyfriends credit cards and replace all your stuff and if he has a problem with it then he doesn't care for you as much as he says you are the adult put your foot down and be an adult
2007-11-21 17:26:24 · answer #8 · answered by happyhurmet 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to dump that b/f He has a problem respecting other people's things.
2007-11-21 17:35:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that he will pay for everything that he has lost, broken, and stolen or you will go to the police.
2007-11-21 17:08:19 · answer #10 · answered by RedRabbit 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋