I have lived for 10 months now with my boyfriend and his 2 teenages boys who I get along with well I treat them as my own They involve me with their school friends and personal issues.
I assist with the house payment , bills food necessities;ect.
Discipline - When I make them clean up they ignore me and today told me YOU DONT OWN THIS HOUSE MY DAD PAYS FOR IT!
Many of my things are now broken or missing due to being boys nothing outrages, they are good boys. Dad thinks Im just complaining. Im mad! I dont want to discuss it with my boyfriend because he takes it as a insult about his kids
I never say anything negative to theyre Dad about them. Ilove the boys,
Whats your opinion?
2007-11-21 08:52:02 · 3 answers · asked by Lisa G 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
One of the hard things to accept is that even though the boys may love you, you are not their parent and no matter how long you are in their lives, that will be the case. While they are saying this, it does not seem to be much different than any other teeneager would say to their parents as far as disrespect or just teenager smart mouthiness.
Really consider the relationship if you don't feel like you can talk to their father about this. This is something that will not ever change. If he doesn't listen to your concerns now about them, more than likely he won't ever.
2007-11-21 08:57:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to have a long and serious talk with your boyfriend in regards to his boys comments. The children need to know that you are assisting in the payments that allow them to live under that roof. They need to demonstrate respect to you at all times. Being the "outsider" in this group is hard to do without any problems. It sounds like you are a loving woman and you want harmony and deserve just that. Their Dad just needs to tell them to do as you tell them to do without question. I am sure he trust you with his kids or the past 10 months would not have worked out. This relationship can work out if you communicate youf feelings with your boyfriend. Good luck.
2007-11-21 17:00:02 · answer #2 · answered by justclicktherubyslippers 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where's the backup from your boyfriend? the 2 of you need to be on this together -if he wont/cant discuss it-you're in a one way relationship and should get out of there because you are being used!
2007-11-21 17:07:59 · answer #3 · answered by Lunaeclipz 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋