What would you think if you saw this on your ex's myspace?

Question

I've never had a myspace, but my ex does. We're both 25. I know most of his friends. We broke up like a month ago because he basically wanted to date but not be committed (but still be intimate, act like a couple in public, etc.) I said no so we went our separate ways. Otherwise, he is a great guy. I have not talked to him in 3 wks until yesterday, when he called me out of the blue and told me he's been thinking a lot about me, he misses me, he wants to start seeing me again. He asked me if I was dating anyone, and I'm not, and I asked him if he was and he said no. Well, my friend is his myspace friend and she showed me his page. One of his top friends or whatever is a girl, and a mutual friend of his and the girl's said on his page, "I'm working at this restaurant now, bring her in on a date ;-)" He told me he isn't dating anyone, but according to his page, it kind of looks like it.

We have never had trust issues of any kind... no cheating, anything.

I really have no reason not to believe him except for what a few people have said on his myspace, and of course there's her, who leaves comments like I'll miss you, xoxo, which don't necessarily mean anything.

It isn't my place to ask him, since we're not even dating anymore, but I don't want to get involved with him if he has other prospects, this one in particular. And it looks like he does.

Also, we don't live in a small town but we run around in the same social circles and all of our friends are connected somehow, so he's not dumb enough to try and cheat on her with someone. I was excited to hear from him, now I'm not so sure.

I know they were not talking about me; the other guy said the other girl's name specifically

Answer 1

I think he just wants a booty call---sorry if that is not what you wanted to hear, but I believe I'm right. He even said to you that he wanted to still sleep with you, but not be committed to you. Stay away from him. Move on to a nicer guy who won't jerk you around.

Answer 2

When you said dating anyone, did you specify dating anyone exclusively? You can go out with people with no intention of having it go anywhere; some people would call that a date.

If you are interested in getting back together with him, tread lightly. You did break up before because of his unwillingness to commit. When you talk to him in person, tell him that you're not interested in just dating; you want an exclusive, committed relationship with no other women or men in the picture. Ignore what you saw on his myspace page for now, and see what he says about that. And be careful with your heart; you don't want to get burned again.

Answer 3

EX,
He wants a friend with benefits. Most guys would love that.
Idiot girls give it up for a buddy, then wonder why they can't meet a nice guy. It's because they are dating a nudge when mr. right shows up.
He wants to date and not be committed TO YOU. To act committed, but not be ?? What for?
Do you want that? If you do, go for it. That's what you will get.
If you want a committed relationship, you need a guy willing and able to give you one. Be alone long enough for him to show up.
The longer you hesitate and torture yourself, the longer it will be before you start healing from him and move on.
The next time he calls, tell him this wonderful line I used on my (now) husband.
"I want a committed relationship. I will settle for nothing less from you. I don't know what you will have to do to prove to me you can be trusted, but I am willing to let you try. "
Then I was a hard sell. He had to be very attentive, all mine, for over a month, before he was allowed in my bed.
He knows he had to WIN me back.
I didn't just roll over--oh, he wants me back-oh ill be right there.

Answer 4

You know what guys can be like... everything's just banter to them they don't take things really seriously and don't think that it might upset other people who saw it. Chances are the mutual friend is just winding him up so I wouldn't put too much stock in it, but on the other hand, getting reinvolved with an ex is never a good idea, especially if you had a good reason for splitting up (which it seems you did). It's just setting yourself up to get hurt again if you know you want different things but still go back there.

Answer 5

You are wise not to jump to conclusions, although I can see why you might think that!
It is also a goo idea to give him a chance to explain his side of things.
If you do still have feelings for him, then take things slowly. Don't rush into anything, maybe just be friends and leave the physical and intimate stuff until you feel certain that he isn't seeing anyone else!
Tell him of your worries, and if he really cares for you he'll understand.
I hope this helps!

Answer 6

Maybe the her the girl is talking about is you? Yes you have probably thought that and then thought...no way. But it might be you, you never know
If it is not you, you can only hope he wasn't cheating on you, plus you are over now, it is time to put your past behind you and move on.

Answer 7

if he's not dating anyone exclusively i don't think there's anything wrong with dating around, whether it be with one person or a couple of people. i've never done it myself, but isn't that way dating is? you can date just one person, OR date a few.

Answer 8

Personally, I'd wonder why the friend showed me his page in the first place. It's none of my business what he does.

Answer 9

Tell him that you got a " myspace", and tell him you saw his page. If he says anything like, oh i am so sorry that was along time ago or something, you know he is genuine, but if he goes soooooooo.... what is your point? DUMP HIM!!!!

Answer 10

Have you ever thought that the girl his friend said "bring her on a date here" was you?