Say I went into a bar dressed in a mini skirt and tank top?

Question

And then I had a couple beers and danced with a few guys. On my way out to go home, I was attacked and raped. Would it be my own fault?

Please explain your rationale for your answer particularly as it pertains to religion.

Answer 1

Despicable acts like rape are never your fault. They are crimes perpetrated by horrible criminals. The attire and setting fall mostly under "susceptibility towards crime". This is like walking around dark alleyways at night with $100 bills attached all over your body. It's not acceptable to mug someone in that instance, but they increased the likelihood of it occurring by about ten times.

Answer 2

Simple explanation : A beuatiful diamond sits in the window of a Jewlery store . A person with criminal intent sees the alarm system is broken . He steals the diamond , Is he guilty of theft ? Does it make a difference if he were rich or poor ? Of course not ! He goes to Jail !

But , there is such a thing as common sense . The store owner should not leave the diamond in an open widow on Main Street ! A woman dressed sexually should not walk alone in places where a sex crime might be easily committed . She should not drink so much as to not be able to make reasonable decisions .
This has little to do with religion . What if you went into a bar sporting a nice diamond bracelet . If you got mugged is it your fault morally ? No , of course not ! Rape is theft of your body . What if a rapist preferred obese women in stretch pants . Would they be at fault from a morality perspective ? Of course not !

Edit for Wolfkare (below) : Cool , educated , moral , non-sex starved AMERICAN MEN are NOT enticed to rape a sexually clad woman . I've been around them all my life , including my wife ( ex-model) . I never raped anyone ! Besides , we have real morals . We don't need some oppressive holier than thou covering up women because we are sexually weak . It is the Muslim ( and some other) men who live in a dark , dreary , sexually barren , sexually oppressive society who go ape at the sight of a woman's thighs . American men are civilized and worldly . We defend a woman's right to be as proud and as sexy as she cares to be . We imprision just the rapists in our society .We see no need to oppress ALL the women and punish ALL the men for what would be rare in OUR worldy society . Apparently ALL the MUSLIM men need HELP in dealing with females . No wonder , they don't get to see any ( Just black robes ) or talk with any except their mother until they get married . And they are commanded to believe that all the other NORMAL woman in the world are whores and deserve to be raped . Says so right in the Quo'ran !

Answer 3

Your fault? No! People are responsible for their own actions. One might wish that you had a little more self respect, but there is no circumstance in which being assaulted would be your fault.

I agree with Forever Young about the buddy system. Also, don't leave your drink anywhere, and if you, do buy a fresh one. Don't let some guy get you a drink, but get it from the bar yourself.

Answer 4

No.

Unless someone has a severe case of Stockholm Syndrome, then there is no reason they should feel responsible for the rape. Ever.

There's an old saying that says "You can't rape the willing", and that's true. If it just so happened to be the fault of the woman who was raped, then she wasn't "raped".

That's the whole point of the word "rape". Otherwise it would just be half sex, half struggle.

Answer 5

It would not be your fault. Rape is about power, not sex.

If a man were to go to a bar wearing something tight, danced with stranged people and walked home alone. On his way home, a group of women attacked him and not to be graphic but shoved things in uncomfortable places, who's fault would it be?

Answer 6

No, it wouldn't be your fault. If meeting a girl in a bar, buying her a couple of beers, and dancing with her tempts guys to behave that way, they need to stop going to bars.

You may get someone quoting stumbling-block theology to you--that if you know someone has a weakness you should do what you can to protect them from temptation. I agree with this up to a point. But to me this would apply if you went to a sex offenders' counseling meeting dressed provocatively. And even then it wouldn't justify anyone victimizing you.

Answer 7

Well, I depends....Two questions.
One: Did the person that raped you see you at the bar, and was therefore attracted to your physique because of your revealing clothing?

Two: If no then was this some random person?

If the answer to number one is yes then the fault was PARTIALLY yours for being in a bar with suggestive clothing dancing with drunken males. Of course then fault is mostly the male's for getting drunk (maybe) and/or sexually assaulting you.

If the answer to number one is no and number two it yes. Then probably not.

Answer 8

No, that's insane. You could be wearing sweat pants in a hoodie, not at a bar at all, and the same thing could happen, anywhere to anyone at anytime. Its only the person committing the rapes fault.

Answer 9

if you were dressed in a socially acceptable way (it sounds as if you were) then obviously being raped is not your own fault at all.

i suppose rape might be partly your fault if you said: 'i wish somebody would just rape me' - or even wore a teeshirt saying: 'ready for you, whoever you are.'

but short of any overt invitation to sex, rape is always and inexorably not the fault of the rapee.

not if you showed up at the bar naked, and got so drunk you couldn't stand.

Answer 10

my rationale has nothing to do with religion only common sense. If you did nothing to lead the men to believe you would be leaving with them how can it be your fault? Your allowed to go dancing and have a good time.