If a person is jealous doesn't that mean they just have not done the very best they possibly can?

Question

Think about it-----if you have done everthing you possibly can do & the very best you can do why should you be jealous if you did not succede with your efforts?You have nothing to be ashamed of if thats the casde.But many people that are jealous are the ones who sit around & do nothing & end up on the short end of the stick & they get jealous which is a form of anger.What they dont realize is that they are actually angry at themselves.You cannot spell success without failure think about it & give your honest opinion.Thanks

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Answer 1

Actually, jealousy is a symptom of a deeper issue. Most jealousy stems from feelings of inferiority, repressed anger, and resentment. You need to dig down to the root of the problem instead of just squashing the jealousy.

Answer 2

Jealousy is not about shame. It is about feeling angry that someone has what you feel you should have. Period. Trying and not succeeding has nothing to do with it - except to make the jealousy stronger. Because if you HAVE done everything possible and still don't have it, that's just cause to be angrier about it, especially if the other person didn't try hard or didn't try at all - it just fell into her lap.

I am not even remotely angry at myself if I am jealous. I am angry at the system for not rewarding my hard work and perserverence when others have been so rewarded and I am angry at the lucky people who dare to assume that I must have done something wrong if I haven't had their good luck. If I have ever met an angry person sitting on their a**, it is after years of busting that same a** for nothing and realizing that without luck, hard work makes no difference.

My honest opinion, borne out by my decades of experience, is that the only people who hold the opinion that you do are the "Haves", who have no right to speak for the "Have nots". In a capitalistic society you cannot spell Haves without Have Nots. You have because others have not. That's how the system works. All the work you have done that has resulted in success has been done by many others without resulting in success.

It's about luck. Period.

Answer 3

I think you mean envy instead of jealousy. Jealousy is being possessive of someone that you love and hate anyone that interfers with that.

Envy is a common trait of living in a democracy that is supposed to be classless where everyone is "equal." If I am supposed to be equal to everyone and there are no societal classes, but you have more than me, a better job, a nicer spouse, etc., then I won't feel good, because if everything is equal, there must be something wrong with me. I will feel envious of you and perhaps get angry. In a society with no democracy and no classes where people know they are peasants and dirt poor, they might be happier and less angry. Then they would know that they are simply being surpressed by the rich and nothing is really wrong with them where they have barely anything; they're just like everyone else.

Answer 4

No, I don't agree with this. It's true sometimes but people can be jealous because they cannot achieve something. I can be jealous of my friend because she got a Porsche as her first car, I could never get a Porsche, and its not my fault I don't have a Porsche, I just wish i had a cool car. The truth is she didn't do anything to get that car but sit around and wait for her parents to give it to her, I have a job, and am working for money. Jealousy can come from a bunch of different things and it is not always just they way you are looking at it. I hope that helped you!

Answer 5

I see your point. Of course, if your just a kid that's jealous of a billionare with no way of making money there's not much you can do. But in most cases, when the thing or quality that you are jealous of is capable of being attained and you're just sitting around drooling over it, yes, it is laziness. But even if the thing isn't capable of attaining you should still just do the best you can anyway and stop trying to live anothers life- don't get jealous in the first place.

Answer 6

I don't think effort has very much to do with jealousy. If you try your best, you may be jealous that some things come easier for other people. That's normal. Just because you try hard, doesn't mean you shouldn't feel jealous. All the more, you probably will.

Answer 7

Jealousy is an incorrect view on the reality of the object/person someone's perceiving and being jealous about. Correct perception is that all things arise due to causes and conditions are changing and impermanent, therefore NOTHING, not matter nor thought, can really make us happy... not really, not in the long run. Think about it.

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Answer 8

You know you are right I never really thought about it like that but you have a really good point.If someone is jealous that would mean they are not succeeding in what ever they are jealous of you or they wouldn't be jealous if they succeeded at the same.Jealousy period would mean that somebody is mad because you are doing better.Good theory for real.

Answer 9

im not sure, because think of it this way, when i was younger my best friends parents where rich and mine not as rich, she has a big house big garden and had horse riding lessons and i was jelous but there was nothing at all i could do about it, dont get me wrong i wasnt poor and im sure there was people that were jelous of what i had, i had a so called friend that stole some of my christmas presents when younger on christmas day because she was jelous of what i got so in a way that was her doing what ever she could to not be jelous because in the end she had it through stealing from me, but that left me in tears in christmas night because i felt guilty that my mam had paid money for something and then it was stolen, she succeeded in her efforts of getting her way but i was jelous of my other friend because there was nothing i could do about my house and my parents money, if you kinda know what i mean :) x

Answer 10

It could be the reason but not necessarily the only one.

But I do agree with you. I have worked since 1977 and have encountered hundreds of folks who are jealous of my success - some even went on to sabotage my work and that of others to even the field.

It's despicable.