my husband is in prison and i really do miss him, he says this is the last time he will do this to me i want to know is prison lonely enough for this to be the truth
2007-11-21 07:19:39 · 29 answers · asked by foxxylesley 2 in Politics & Government ➔ Law Enforcement & Police
because i don't want to keep going through this if he's just going to keep on and keep on going to prison i n eed to know if there is any hope for someone to actually learn a lesson from going to prison and not to return
2007-11-21 07:22:48 · update #1
he has until 2012 for his release date unless he gets paroled again i did everything i could to get him paroled last time and it worked but all he did was let me down, he says he's changed and that he just wants to come home but i don't want to help him again if he just goes back to breaking the law
2007-11-21 07:26:51 · update #2
plus would it help if i stopped visiting him
2007-11-21 07:30:00 · update #3
cause i know he loves me but i just need to make sure he stops going to prison this is his 3rd time the first time i didn't know him he was in there for 11 years and the last time was for a 1 1/2 years now he's in there until they give him parole or 2012
2007-11-21 07:34:58 · update #4
His loneliness will not make him change. Prison will not make him change, it only puts lives on hold. If he wants to change, he will. But no external force will ever make him change who he is.
"recidivism /re·cid·i·vism/ (re-sid´i-vizm) a tendency to relapse, particularly a return to criminal behavior."
About half of all parolees will return to prison.
If you're not going to be with him, don't lead him on. Make a clean break and get on with your life. Don't let his bad decisions ruin the rest of your life.
2007-11-21 07:24:30 · answer #1 · answered by ic2olney 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-06-04 01:27:38 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess prison can be lonely as far as having a woman. But, as far as being alone, I think there a lot of people to talk to unless a person in some type of solitary. If, this not his first time, he may come up for parole and they say come back next year, odds are he get to wait some more, maybe by the 3rd time he go before the parole board he get out.
I really doubt they let a person that been there before get out on the first parole hearing, regardless of what you say. That "Song" been sung many times and sometimes with negative results.
2007-11-21 07:36:11 · answer #3 · answered by Snaglefritz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not that bad once you get used to it, thats what my third cousin once removed said anyway. Prison isn't made to be horrible. Its made to keep criminals from doing something again. I'm sure your husband will never do anything like that again considering the fact he has to be away from you, in some prisons it is made to be punishment though, but only for prisons that take people on the most wanted list. He won't be lonely, he has other people there to talk to. He is probably doing just fine. God bless you.
2007-11-21 07:25:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Prison is lonly, about as lonly as being away at college. And it is like college, they think they learn a lesson, but usually all they learn is how they could have gotten away with this crime, and tips for the next time they get out. Then when they get caught again, they really think that they have learned how not to get caught. Usually bby the time they get to be about 35 they stop all the silly behaviors and stop going to prison.
How old is your husband?
2007-11-21 07:31:00 · answer #5 · answered by Cindy B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry, but I can not relate to this. I do not know anyone who has ever been in prison.
Is there anyway he can take some sort of vocational training? Maybe on online degree or something? It seems that if your husband is released and has some specific goals he would stand a better chance of keeping his promise to you. Also, having a way to support you will give him the self confidence he needs to handle real life (real life does not include crime for most people!).
I wish you both the best!
2007-11-21 07:31:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes prison is very lonely and it may be the truth bcuz my brother went 2 prison and he said it was awful and very lonely and he would never go back there and so far he hasn't he's been out 4 like 1yr now and he's doing alot better and trying 2 stay out of trouble so it is possible that he's telling the truth
2007-11-21 07:25:44 · answer #7 · answered by ??????????? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've never been in prison but I've been in jail ( minor traffic tickets) There are a lot of people to keep you company, and chat with, etc.. but not the same as having family and freedom. My brother was in county jail for non payment of child support.. and he was really traumatized by having his freedom taken away.. was hard to talk to when he came home.. but.. I dont see that it helped.. he is still irresponsible. It's easy to say these things when you are IN.. but when they get out.. they have to actually DO soemthing to change their lives, ideas, attitudes, etc.
2007-11-21 07:25:19 · answer #8 · answered by Melissa J 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is the last time? Well if hes saying that then hes been in quite a few number of times before this. Trust me, this isn't his last time, he will keep leading you on saying that while he just keeps going back. Find a new man.
2007-11-21 07:22:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Likely not.
I hope that it is for your sake but you will have to "judge him by the fruit he produces as the bible says" when he gets out.
I believe people can change but they have to want to change. Once he is away from prison he is also away from his incentive to change. You may have to provide further incentive by being very strict with your relations.
Make him "Walk the line." Like the ole Johnny Cash song.
Because as much as you may love him there are other men out there that will not put you through this turmoil.
2007-11-21 07:28:08 · answer #10 · answered by caffine jag 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋