councelling?

Question

whilts doing my job today I found a Dead body, not the nicest of things but I am basically allright about it, death has never caused me concern, thats the problem, my employers insist I see a counceller, am i supposed to pretend I.m someone else, just to satisfy them

Thanks for all your comments, consensus seems to go and find out, can but try, I,m of the old school that says deal with it, you may all be right, thanks

Answer 1

just say NO

Answer 2

Everyone deals with stuff in their own way.

If it were me, and my employers wanted me to go see a counselor, I'd just go to make them happy. BUT first, I would make sure I would not miss a day's pay for it.

You don't have to pretend you're someone else, just go, so that the bosses are happy. You can even explain to the counselor the real reason you are there... have one chit chat and be done with it.

Just be frank and up front with the employers... that you went ahead and went, because they felt you needed it... but that you and the counselor both agree that you really don't need counseling at this point. And that if, in the future, your discovery really starts bugging you, then you'll seek counseling again... maybe with the person you just saw, since now you've met him/her.

That way, everyone wins. Everyone's happy. You still have a job. And then it's business as usual.

Answer 3

Hey, because it happened in work they have to offer you some help to cope with it. If they offer you a counsellor, why not go to them even for one session and explain how you feel and then they can discuss with you if you need any further help, at least then they can't sy you didn't go. If your really against the idea, don't go, no one can force you. You may not feel this incident affected you but perhaps it has deep down somewhere and your mind is pretending everythings ok. Most people would be shocked to find a dead body at work, unless they work in a morg...although everryone is different. In my opinion it wouldn't be bad to give it a shot, if you find one session useless just don' go back

best of luck

x

Answer 4

Alan. Although you feel as if you can handle this situation. There are a high percentage of people that would find this as an ordeal and would appreciate councelling. Inner emotions can pop their little heads at anytime and cause havoc to the brain. It would be wise for you to see a councellor and through their experience would hopefully sort out whether you are 'councelling material' or you can hold your own without any help. good luck!

Answer 5

well what kind of work do you do? Is it the type of field were finding a dead body is common? Even though you feel it didnt really affect you maybe you should try to talk to someone about it just to get it off your chest and close that door completly. Im not saying pretend to be someone else to satisfy everyone else. Do it for yourself, Just try it and see if you like it, you never know unless you try. Who knows you may realize it affected you more than you thought.

Answer 6

That must have been wierd, glad you're not too fazed by it.

If your employers are insisting you go unless you want to leave your job you better go! The only thing you can control is your attitude to the session. it may be really good, it may be a waste of time, at the very least it'll be interesting to see a counsellor in their own environment and watch them work.

Answer 7

not at all not your fault the body was their just the alarm going off as to why the body was their and you might of sad out of the nerve end something that they think you need to see a counseling because that does not go away over night like years ago it is stile with me seeing a small child runned over it brains came out of the head like a canon i steal fill bones crushing in my head and i know that is why so see not just something that goes away, then my work i worked by a inferno where they cremated people those things do not go away the thoughts and nerves are stile their, seeing my own daughters decomposing body even took photos it is stile their also just know what the armed services go through my was small in comparison.

Answer 8

Well, it wouldn't hurt. Sometimes things affect us subconsciously or we may have delayed reactions - you might find yourself having problems with what you saw later on - it won't hurt just to have a talk about it with a counselor. Your employers are quite considerate in offering you the service. Take them up on the offer.

Answer 9

I would recommend that you see someone. You had a very traumatic experience and your employers are wise to understand that. It may affect you more than you know and you will benefit from professional help. Accept it, appreciate it, and use it to your best advantage.

Answer 10

If you really really think that you're fine then you don't need to, but you may be in denial. Your mind may be trying to protect you from the effect of it. Wait a couple of days, and if you have nightmares or flashbacks or anything, see a counciler.

Love,
Sarah

Answer 11

No you don't have to pretend, just go along and see the councillor. it won't hurt to talk about it, you never know you can get delayed shock, tell the councillor that you don't feel it has affected you. They are trained to be able to tell if it has affected you or not.