Lately every time I talk to this girl that i like and who likes me I'm at a loss of words. And it happens on the phone and sometimes when were out. There are always long pauses and awkward silences. Its hard for me me to think about topics that sparks her attention. Is there something i might be doing wrong that makes this happens? If so what can I do about it and also give me some conversation tips that might help me out?
2007-11-21 07:03:06 · 31 answers · asked by alphamale 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If two people really had a connection they wouldn't think so much on what to talk about. You wouldn't feel so awkward in silences either...
Everybody is not on the same level... :)
Unless your just shy, or not being open. Talk about whatever comes in mind. You should ask her questions on what she likes in different topics, could be anything and everything. For example, where does she see herself in 5 years, and why? Does she believe in love? Who is her inspiration? Whats her faviourate things?... etc
If you find out her opinions, you will then hopefully begin to realise what type of person she is, what interests her, why she is the way she is.... etc
Always listen to what she has to say, and actually be interested... it helps alot...
conversations should flow naturally... :)
2007-11-21 07:08:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems that talking isn't the issue here. Rather it's the fact that you both like eachother, and that you both know it! That's always really awkward.
Some conversation tips would be to talk about what you've been doing, or about something you've seen. Or ask her questions about personal things, like weather or not she gets on with her family, or what she'd like to do in the future. Girls like to be asked questions that make you sound like you actually care.
More importantly though, i think you need to ask yourself why you're not going out with this girl, or at least, why you haven't asked her out yet. As soon as you're in a relationship it gets so much easier. The silence is tension, and mainly nervousness. You'd get over it if you were dating. Good Luck.
2007-11-21 07:09:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's okay to have silences in conversations. It just lets both of you collect your thoughts and find new things to discuss. If she keeps talking to you and going out with you, be confident that she likes you!
Find new and unexpected things to talk about. Make it interesting. If you notice something you haven't seen before, mention it to her. Use a little humor if you can. Just be yourself. Maybe watch new TV shows you haven't before, read a magazine or newspaper or book you haven't before and bring up some odd or funny or interesting tid bit. Do something different that you two haven't done before when you're out together. That's sure to start good conversations!
When you're on the phone, don't make the phone calls too long. Sometimes people get bored when talking on the phone too long. Instead of talking on the phone for long periods of time, just recap your conversation and say "see you ____" (whenever you plan to next.
2007-11-21 07:08:45 · answer #3 · answered by keyz 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First thing to do is avoid any questions that sound like a job interview. My favorite thing is to pick out somebody and make fun of them. If you see 2 guys together, call them lovers, anything like that breaks the tension. Also, its always a good idea to pick on the the girl you are talking with. Nothing really mean, just enough to get her attention. I know it sounds wrong, but try it. It really works.
2007-11-21 07:09:34 · answer #4 · answered by chris t 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It take 2 to have a good long conversion> keep the talk going with questions of the subject your discussing>Laugh and don't get into a serious conversation as if you say something wrong you have to live with it > So keep jest in all talks then you can say oops> o'well>you can wiggle your way out with humor& whit>Not screaming and tears>
2007-11-21 07:11:16 · answer #5 · answered by 45 auto 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be yourself dude, talk about whatever comes into your mind. this is a good way to go 'cause this is how she's gonna know who you truely are. Of what to talk about, talk about your interests, sports, your history, her history, where she went to school, where she was born, how old you and she is, her favorit food, what shows she likes, her preferences on gay and straight people, what she thinks about politics, her favorit juice, what she likes to do/ hobby, religion. Loosen up; this is the only way you can know if you two are compatible or not. this is very important 'cause two gotta have some things in common to be compatible. Just burst out talks; even if you're nervous, even if it'll make you sweat buckets. with time, things will get better.
2007-11-21 07:13:27 · answer #6 · answered by straight_up 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her what she is doin for the holidays. Or maybe invite her over to your house! Ask her waht she wants for christmas maybe, joke around a little bit. Dont be to serious because sometimes that can drownd a conversation. Or, if there is a party, ask her if she is goin to it. If you find a good topic, stick with it. Or, you can tell her a funny story or something that happened to you. Maybe if you just went hunting and something embaressing happened to you or something signifigant happened tell her so you have something to keep talkin about.
2007-11-21 07:12:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The old standby: How the weather has been so bad or so good.
Describe your dream vacation and ask what she did for her last vacation.
Describe what your perfect birthday celebration would be.
You can talk about who is your favorite group.
Your favorite song writer, writer, movie star.
Your favorite movie - why, when you saw that movie, what was the last movie she saw
What kind of food she likes i.e. Italian, Mexican, Chinese, etc.
Does she read? - ask what is her favorite book and why.
It's important to keep the conversation going back and forth.
2007-11-21 07:17:48 · answer #8 · answered by Tom Z 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't always need conversations. Bring things up about where you are if your at the park find something that you think will make her laugh or a cute dog use your surrondings as a spark of converstion don't think so much about it will come to you
2007-11-21 07:08:49 · answer #9 · answered by Lexi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
See what interests she has and learn about them.
Also write down topics to talk about when on the phone,
Some pauses are inevitable.
Don't get caught looking at another girl or you are through.
(Yahoo dating tips #13)
2007-11-21 07:09:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋