whom I seldom see nor talk to except my holiday card once a year. They were really nice and helpful in the past. They never acknowledge my holiday cards. So I feel like not writing anymore and let them go. Am I doing the right thing ? What do your think ? I'll go by what the majority of you say.
2007-11-21 06:32:38 · 12 answers · asked by E.B. Jacques 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I think it's sweet that you send holiday cards to people. However, for those who don't respond to you and you never see them anymore, there really isn't any point to spend the money on them. I agree with you, it's time to let them go.
2007-11-21 07:52:04 · answer #1 · answered by qto0802 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Well Christmas is the one time all year that I communicate with old friends. I still send cards to people I worked with thirty years ago. Some people send a card back, a few don't , but I will always send them one. I learned a lesson years ago from my little deceased country aunt about cards. My uncle got on to me for not writing anything in the card except our names. My aunt told him that I said a lot to her. I told her that I had enough money to send her a card, that I was well enough to go mail it and that I was thinking of her. That was the last Christmas they were alive. How I wish I had said a few words.
2007-11-21 15:35:46 · answer #2 · answered by Pearl 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you should certainly speak on the phone with them. Then they will be more in a position to easily respond. Perhaps they are busy in their lives, perhaps they feel calling is better but there's no way to reach you, & do you give them your email address? And do you mention in the cards to write to you? Say something like "would love to hear from you. you can write to me or call me at....". If you don't hear from them, you make the call. It is easy to feel distant when there is no other point of contact except once a year. Don't give up on them. Maybe some might not be interested in staying in touch but there might be others who are interested but just not too driven due to any number of reasons. Work on developing more closeness & familiarity.
And I must mention it is awfully nice of you to remember them and send cards to them like this.
2007-11-21 15:24:48 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what you wish.
Today with the on-the-go lifestyle, many people don't take the time to sit down and write out Christmas cards to anyone.
I know my mother never sent out cards to anyone but yet she received plenty, even a few from her high school girl friends that she never talks to or sees except every ten years at class reunions. But yet they still send her a card every year.
I enjoy receiving things other than junk mail and bills in my mail box. I think it is a nice gesture that there still are people out there that take the time to think of me even though this time of year is most hectic for many people.
2007-11-21 14:38:28 · answer #4 · answered by sugar sweet 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are two possibilities why your so-called 'friends" did not acknowledge your greeting cards
(i) they may have moved / changed their addresses and did not receive your cards
(ii) some may have "forgotten" you or did not place importance to give you a reply ( eg : maybe them were too busy ) many people reply to people they communicate often
(iii) if they do not have your phone no. email address, this could be the reason of the no-reply. nowadays many people feel very inconvenient to send the conventional card / letter, they prefer calling / sending via email.
2007-11-21 21:55:33 · answer #5 · answered by chesney c 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Think about it this way: have you ever received a message, a phone call, or a card from someone you like and care about, but didn't respond right away because you were very busy? I think this has happened to everyone. Just because they don't write doesn't mean they don't care. People have different ways of expressing their feelings.
2007-11-21 16:37:49 · answer #6 · answered by drshorty 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, with first class postage (US) at 49 cents a card, plus the cards (anywhere from 50 cents on up) I plan to be cutting back a WHOLE lot on my card list this year.
This year I plan to send cards only to my immediate family (sibs, parents etc.) and those friends who bothered to send me a card last year.
Any complaints? Tell them you lost their address.
2007-11-21 14:53:30 · answer #7 · answered by Barbara B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't worry too much about it. If you don't send them cards, and they actually do want them, I'm sure they will contact you to find out if you are ok since you send them every year. So just try it, and see if they really care if they get them or not.
2007-11-21 14:40:04 · answer #8 · answered by skeet monroe 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's probably time to drop them from your card list. It's not an insult, and you can still get in touch with them if you ever want to reactivate the friendship.
2007-11-21 16:14:57 · answer #9 · answered by noname 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Send them a nice email card if you have their email addresses. If not, don't bother. All these Christmas cards kill trees, and they just end up in the garbage anyway.
Here's to a paper-free America!
2007-11-21 14:39:58 · answer #10 · answered by Arggg 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋