Parents forcing me to do a certain sport...?

Question

There is this sport i do which I am pretty rubbish at even though i've been doing it for a while, and I find absolutely no enjoyment in it whatsoever either.

I want to quit it but my parents won't let me, and won't even sit down with me and discuss anything.

I can't just quit either because my parents are blackmailing me into doing it by threatening to not give me any money if I don't.\

I am in very good shape.

Any suggestions?

Answer 1

if your not enjoying it

then talk to your parents and they will probably realize how much you dont enjoy it and try t help you

GOOD LUCK!!

Answer 2

What's gay about horseback riding? It can be anything from recreational trail riding to competitive jumping, racing, and dressage at very high levels. Riding western style is considered especially masculine. If he just wants to get into American football because it's supposed to be such a manly studly sport, he won't get much support from me. It's stylized violence, serious injuries are common, and it encourages some of the baser instincts in guys who play it. Also, the physical body types that are ideal for riding are far different from those that make good football players. After high school, few people will care whether he played football or not, but they will be impressed if he's a good rider. Riding is an expensive sport. His parents probably think that if he's going to be lackadaisical about it, it's hardly worth pursuing. They're pressuring him in order to find out whether he's actually doing his best, or simply dragging his feet hoping they'll let him quit.

Answer 3

It sounds like your parents want you to participate/excell in some sport.

Find one that you really like. One that is exciting and challenging.

One that spectators, because that may be what your parents are, can get into.

I would suggest lacrosse.

It is fast and fit.
It has a long history that is uniquely American.

It is also the fastest growing sport in the country.

It allows you to be yourself and also a part of a team.

Go on youtube and look at the Northwestern women's team. They have it all together and are a good inspiration.

Many links to info.
I will put a good starting point in the source area.

Lacrosse will be bigger than all of the other sports in a decade or so.

Check it out.

Answer 4

I agree with the person above me, try to suggest another sport, let them know this isn't really something you enjoy, and you really have no desire to get better, because you simply dislike it!

Suggest a new sport that you would like to try out, I don't know your age but in middle school it is a very good time to try out new things, maybe this is a sport they always wanted to excel in or they just play that sport as a family?

My husband is a professional golfer but he has never pressured any of my kids to play golf, he offers his summer camps to them and allows them to decide, although he sees a strength in my youngest boy he still doesn't pressure him to work on golf. If you don't after several years find that you love that sport, nothing will make you love it.

Some sports need time to get good at them, it can be 3 yrs or 7 yrs but if the interest simply isn't there, you need to say, " Mom and Dad I want to be honest with you and tell you I would like to try another sport, I have no desire to play this one and if it means no money, so be it!"

You lose the fun in something the minute it is forced upon you. When everyone is relaxed and laid back it's easier to like, but when a child loses interest and a parent JUMPS! The interest is lost. I totally agree with you. I have a VERY sport oriented family and they have had many decisions to quit one and feel out another, I agree with you 100% that what they are doing feels wrong.

Answer 5

You should probably sit down and talk with them and explain that you do not enjoy the sport. However, be warned that you need to come with a gameplan in the form of a back-up. They obviously want you to do something with your time so give them an alternative such as a hobby or another sport.

Answer 6

As hard as it is, stick it out. It's a good life lesson. Sometimes you have to do crap you don't want to do. Practice will help you get better at it, and who knows, maybe you'll make some good friends along the way.

They might just want you to give it a shot. try it out, and see what happens. If you don't like it after a year, then talk to them about it.

That's no reason to do something if you are uncomfortable, though. if you truly are miserable at it, quit. Get a job if you want money.

;)

Answer 7

first of all it's not Black mail. They are giving you an allowence for following their wishes. your choice, stop and get a job to sustain the money aspect or pay them lipservice and play for them. make your choice and stick to it, don't falter. But why waste your time on something you don't like, maybe compromise, make them sit down and tell them you'll do it part time or certain season, but explain that you want to veiw all other options before you settle for a permanent sport. hope it helps

Answer 8

Offer to compromise with your parents. Tell them that you will finish out this season, and you will attend all practices and games with good grace and try to do your best and enjoy it - but after this season you will quit and pick up a hobby/sport/activity that you enjoy more. You agree to do what they want for now with good grace, and they agree to respect your decision and support you in your new choice.

Answer 9

They wont like this, but you could just do what i would do. Find a way to make your own money and take away their power of blackmail over you, then do whatever you want. Don't let anyone push you around like that.

Answer 10

okay well talk to them. don't let them shut you out. when they blackmail you say i don't need the money. and if they still refuse to let you stop completely suck at it. don't try at all. until they get the point