me and my bf just broke up. but i want him back i love him and i know he still loves me! he says to give it some time but he has been hanging out with this other girl (who is the girl who trys to get guys to show people she can get whoever she wants). he said his mind can change back to me very quickly he says he still likes me. he told me he wants a challenge he like how at the beginning he had to try to get me he doesnt want it just handed to him. we were going out for 11 months. what do i need to do to get him back for good? and is he just trying to make me jealous? answer both please! and also please provide me with anything that could help me. no stupid answers please
2007-11-21 05:49:13 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He wants a challenge, so give him his space. Don't play games, they only backfire. Wait for him to come to you. If he still loves you like you think, he'll be back. But if he doesn't come back, just remember it's not the end of your life. You don't want to be with someone who doesn't want to be with you. That is key to happiness.
He probably is trying to make you jealous. Don't let him know it. Don't tell your friends about how jealous you are because it will get back to him.
Just live your life. Waiting can be the hardest thing, I know. But in the end things will be the way they should be.
Good luck!
2007-11-21 05:56:06 · answer #1 · answered by Twiggette 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I broke up with my boyfriend/fiance of 6 years almost 2 years ago. In the beginning I wanted him back and tried to make it work out especially for our son. He had a new friend (very soon after the breakup) and he also told me he still loved me and we could possibly get back together. He played me for 6 months while still seeing the other girl. Leave him alone girl. He is trying to keep you hanging on to make him feel big. To keep you from moving on to someone else. He wants his cake and eat it too. If you want him back...leave him alone. Ignore him if he tries to call. It will hurt for a little while but you will see that all this nonsense he is putting you through will only make you stronger and in the end he will be begging for you to come back. And you will wonder why you ever was with him in the first place. By the way...he said he still "likes you" but you say you love him. Let him go. It's obvious he is playing your heart.
2007-11-21 06:07:46 · answer #2 · answered by Nicole C 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can tell you exactly what to do but its up to you to be strong enough to do it. First you need to realize that he is obviously hanging out with another girl because he is bored in his current relationship. You have to stop trying so hard you have to stop trying all together. Let him play with is new friend, don't act sad or mad about it or even mention it to any of his or her friends. Then you begin to let people know that you might be talking to someone else. If it is not true then act like it is someone from another school. Don't tell everyone or spread it to everyone just a few and let it get back to him. When he asks you about it or asks if you want to hang out with him again you say "Well I am suppose to hang out with ____ but maybe the next day or day after just call me later if you want and we can talk about it." Never act weak or show the newly ex that he has you wrapped around you finger. If its a challenge he wants give him one. Just know that is he is willing to give up what you guys had together just for a chase then maybe you need to really think about it and decide if that is what you want in a bf. Good Luck hope this helps.
2007-11-21 06:00:32 · answer #3 · answered by fantasy gal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he really loved you no other girl would be on his mind. He says he wants a challenge because he wants to have 2 girls practically fighting over him because it will make him feel important. He is a loser and you deserve so much better than that and i believe you know that. In only 11 months he is acting like this just look at his true colors because he is basically telling you what type of person he really is and you dont need that. You may love him but dont let your feelings get in the way of your good judgement. Believe in yourself you will be okay I promise. Good Luck!!!
2007-11-21 06:01:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This guy is obviously very immature if he just wants a challenge.
But if you really want him back you need to back off. You were with him for almost a year, right? and he walked away from you for a girl who you say isnt really interested in a real relationship with him?
Step back for a little bit. Give him time to see what he is missing. It will also give you a little perspective to see if this is the kind of guy you really want (that would treat you this way?)
And if he is the kind of guy who likes a challenge, when he notices you arent chasing him, he might come back around. If he doesnt? Honey, he wasnt yours anyway and its time to move on.
I know you are hurting. Please know that all of us have been through breakups before, and it hurts. Dont waste a lot of time on someone who doesnt want to be with you.You deserve someone who wants to spend their time with you.You are a special, worthy person, ok? Dont let him drag you down!
Dont wait forever. If someone else shows interest in you, spend some time with them. It will be good for you.
Best of luck, sweetie.
2007-11-21 05:56:25 · answer #5 · answered by disturbed 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, mabey he feels a bit empty. You know how boys are. I've never really went out with boys before, so I know im not real experienced but I want to help. I'm thinking , mabey this boy is going through a phase. On the other hand, if he really seems to like this girl, it is important to show him that you care,and you do still love him. However- do not put yourself too "out there". Dont make yourself look slutty just for him. In conclusion, just be yourself, and tell him how you feel. Don't go overboard trying to attract him. Oh, and dont stalk! I got in trouble for that once. I've never really went out before, but i do/have had crushes. So there is my answer.
2007-11-21 05:56:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really want a guy that will cheat on you ,right in front of you? This Challenge thing, is this going to happen every year? You are asking to get hurt every time you would bring him back from his Challenges. You sure you want the commitment of a non commiter? You asked a question no normal person would. The equivelent of ,This guy's cheating on me , how do I get him back? a better question is Why?
2007-11-21 06:03:01 · answer #7 · answered by redd headd 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Rule #:1. Never chase in behind a man. If he wants you back then he'll know where to find you. While he's out doing what he does. In the mean time get a life and find something to do. Never base your life around a man; theres to many of them out there. Plus you sound young, too young to be hung up on just one.
2007-11-21 05:56:30 · answer #8 · answered by BABYWHITE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't sweat it, when he sees that u are all over him, he'll want to hold out some more.
Just go about your business and make him come after you like he did the first time. That way, u could still salvage some value of the relationship and provide him the challenge he wants.
2007-11-21 05:54:30 · answer #9 · answered by Ayo A 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
don't bother trying to get him back. you're so desperate you're not a challenge (whatever that is) he's not trying to make you jealous. he's trying to gently tell you it's over and you should get over it. it was only 11 months, crikey it's not like you were married for 11 years. then I'd be giving you some advice on counseling or what have you. you're young(painfully obvious). you'll find someone who actually gives a care.
2007-11-21 05:54:10 · answer #10 · answered by Fission Chips 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋