my sister left open her myspace account and she lets me go on and search for people, well i read some of her mail and it was about her taking pills and smoking pot. she's 16 and i know when i was her age i was doing the same but i'm worried about her for many reasons. i want my sister to trust me but i feel like i have an obligation to tell my mom. we found out that she was taking pills a few months ago and my mom grounded her and my sister swore she would never do it again, liar! my mom is so laid back and will probably do nothing. i feel like i always have to be the parent with my sister. were 7 1/2 years apart. i need help, i'm soo confused about what to do.
2007-11-21 05:42:54 · 18 answers · asked by annie 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
the talk of drugs was between my sister and my cousin. it was in her mailbox, not out in the open like a comment. it said from my cousin "i passed on the pills, they were 3 a piece." my sister said "i overheard my mom talking about the potheads at work and i started to laugh and i thought if you only knew". the other day her friend od from pills and was in the hospital and she was worried but when i mentioned about how stupid he was, she acted like it was cool or something. i know for a fact she is, the way she's been acting and her down attitude. it sucks because she saw many people in our family who o.d. and have been in and out of trouble with drugs. i thought she would know better then to do this stuff. i'm gonna talk to my mom later but i'm just upset and torn.
2007-11-21 06:24:38 · update #1
I agree with Barbara B and i think you should tell your mom
2007-11-21 06:36:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
I can see how this is obviously put you in a painful position. As I read your question though, it became apparent that you know what you need to do. The right thing is frequently very hard to do. If your sister finds out, she'll be mad at you for awhile, but she will continue being your sis'.
I have many years experience working with teen drug abuse and addiction. Based on what you've shared about her previous problem with pill-popping she needs more than grounded. She needs an appropriate and thorough evaluation to see exactly how bad this problem has become. The statistics say that for every time you've caught a teen using, they've probably used a minimum of 8 additional times.
I know you'd feel terrible if something happened to your sister and you had an opportunity to help. Remember, she will only stay angry at you for a little while.
Best wishes,
Dave Turo-Shields
2007-11-21 05:54:02 · answer #2 · answered by Godshot 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was removed from my mother's custody when I was 12 years old because both she and my biological father were active alcoholics. My mother believed that, because I have a slight disability, I could not be taken care of at home and could not go to a regular public school. When the money dried up to educate me(because of her addiction), she finally did the 'right thing' and turned me over to the state. I was put in foster care and then in a group home for teenage girls, where I got the chance to attend a regular, public high school, With tutoring, I was able to graduate in 1980..the first girl in my family to complete high school rather than get a GED. I feel my life is happier and brighter without having to deal with the abuse and having to care for my own mother. I have never drank or used drugs..I'm not sure what I would be like had I stayed with my family.
2016-04-05 02:05:26 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe this will encourage you. I had to tell on my baby sister for pot and drinking. She was so angry at me. She told me I didn't love her and she would never trust me again. My parents of course grounded her and forbid her from seeing her so called best friends. About two weeks later the same girls she was hanging out with went missing. They had snuck out and gone to a club and were beaten and raped. They were not found for two weeks. My sister came to me crying telling me thank you because she realized that had I not said anything she would have been with them. She really turned things around after that. She is in honors classes and is really going to be someone. If you love her than you will love her enough to sacrifice your feelings for her well-being. I know it is hard. God luck!
2007-11-21 06:33:33 · answer #4 · answered by Tink 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's better - a living sister or a gravestone?
Print out the screens and mail from myspace. You'll need them.
Report your sister to her mom. If Mom doesn't do anything then report it to the police.
Sure, sis will "hate" you for a long, long time - but I'd rather have a live sister who hates me than to have a dead one that I let die because I was too cowardly to report her drug use.
2007-11-21 05:49:44 · answer #5 · answered by Barbara B 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Intervention!! If you come to her with your mother and not pitting her mother against her. You've been there, you know what's out there. Get more people than your mother, friends relatives.
This is an epidemic with out teens. We both now what is down the road for you sister if this is not dealt with. Talking about it on the net is insane. It is you obligation and your responsibility. Thank goodness she has you.
2007-11-21 06:04:11 · answer #6 · answered by MessieJessie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ratting out your sister will only break any trust between you and her. Instead of snitching on her, try to reason and talk about it with your sister before getting her into any trouble. Otherwise, she will never tel you anything ever again.
2007-11-21 17:04:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be honest with you, I did alot of drugs and I regret it...BUT she is going to do what she is going to do. She has to learn on her own. I would sit your mom down and have a serious talk with her...before she ruins her body. Sad part is the only thing I learned was that, I am going to teach my kids, to 1005 never use drugs. it destroyed my body. i hope it works out. def tell your mom.
2007-11-21 05:50:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats so tough. i have a little sister to. and i often find myself being the parent. you should tell your mom now before it gets out of hand. she may hate you. but you could save her life. the best thing is to make sure she stops. reasearch poeple who have died from drugs. and show her what could happen to her. she be so overwhelmed with what she is doing and it will make her stop and think.
2007-11-21 05:58:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YYYYYEEEEESSSS! DUUUUUUUHHHHHH! Tell your mom. Why would that even question yourself about that. GOOO and tell yuor mom. Or atleast talk to your sister. Come on. If your mom isn't doind anything (or if she doesn't know), be the mom and do a favor to your sister. STOP HER! you know the dangers
2007-11-21 06:06:08 · answer #10 · answered by sirrascal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your sister doesn't have her page blocked then I would just tell your mom to check it out. If her page is blocked then yeah you need to tell your mom and ask her to try not to discuss how she found out with your sister...
I've had to do this so many times with my stepsons. They tell me crap and I have to tell their dad, they act like I've betrayed them but I've asked them time and time again not to tell me stuff if they don't want it to get back to their dad. You have to do what you have to do to keep her as safe as you can.
2007-11-21 05:51:58 · answer #11 · answered by mrskerlin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋