when it comes to sex, most parents refuse to talk about it with their children. As children grow up, they get to know a few concepts about sex in natural way somehow but most of them prefer to know this information from their parents. Why are most parents not comfortable to talk about sex with their children?
2007-11-21 05:26:49 · 9 answers · asked by lincolngomes301 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I have no idea why they are. My son first came to me at 9 years old. He had a bunch of questions, mostly about where babies come from. Then again at 12 with more sex type questions. Both times I answered his questions honestly and never told him babies are a gift or when a mom and dad love each other the dad plants a seed in Mommy's belly or any of the other stupid answers. He always thought it was gross and all but I wanted to be honest with him. I think that if parents could be open and honest with their kids about sex then they won't be scared to come to them for anything. My son actually had some questions more recently and again I answered them honestly. I don't understand why parents would want their children to grow up ignorant.
2007-11-21 05:40:22 · answer #1 · answered by just me 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps the parents were raised to feel that sex was something that you never discuss. Children should learn the facts of life from parents (as long as what they tell them is accurate) and this should be reinforced by sex ed in school. If the topic is not tabu at home, then the children will feel free to talk to them about how to handle situations in their lives and may do a better job of not having sex at a young age. This may also prevent some teen pregnancies if the parents are honest about birth control.
2007-11-21 05:36:20 · answer #2 · answered by Diane M 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It IS because they don't want to encourage it. Many parents don't know what to say on the subject, so they won't say anything. They might just wait until their child asks about it, which they often don't because they don't know about it, or they don't know how to ask without their parents getting mad at them (which is dumb because they're not gonna get mad anyway). Some kids aren't as thoughtful as others and some parents don't believe that it is truly THEIR job to teach their children about life, love, and them birds and bees.
I got my sex talk in Christmas eve when my 6th period was late so i though it was pregnant, because from the pregnancy test commercials, that's what i learned was a sign of being pregnant (see, kids won't magically learn things correctly some a lot of parents think they would). I asked my mom about it in private because i was sooo bored that day (y'know.. Christmas!). When i first learned it, i was young enough NOT to be at all fascinated with it. My first reaction to it was "..... EWWW!!!!" lol. I'm glad I asked though.
And when I tell my kids about sex (if i ever have any), i will so tell them in the same fashion. lol. Make a little tradition out of it. lol.
2007-11-21 06:05:36 · answer #3 · answered by ♥ Cute T ♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think It's a double edge sword. If parents talk to kids about sex, they might make educated choices (e.g. abstinence, birth control), but yes, being given this information may imply that it's OK, as long as they make safe choices. On the other hand, if they don't get the sex talk, they may make unhealthy and wrong choices.
Ultimately it's up to the kid. I never had the sex talk with my parents, but I got great sex-ed in HS, which allowed me to be a bit wiser and responsible.
2007-11-21 05:40:41 · answer #4 · answered by Carol 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dont know... But if children dont learn it from their parents, the will seek knowledge elsewhere... which is what usually gets them into trouble. It is better to have a child that knows the risks, and how to stay safe than a child that doesn't have a clue and stumbles blindly into a bad situation. If you are the one who talks to your children about sex, you can instill in them a sense of modesty and morals, whereas if they learn about it from society, they will adopt society's opinions on the matter, and live up to it's standards rather than yours.
2007-11-21 05:40:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because their kids will always be their little babies, no matter how evil they become.
they feel that the child won't do it if they don't tell them, and some parents feel that nobody should have sex until married.
I disagree, and I'm glad that my mom told me about sex when I asked at 12 years old,"Where do babies really come from?"
2007-11-21 05:36:10 · answer #6 · answered by Windona 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
answear is simple , they think it could encourage them , anyway we are encouranged :D , anyway they have a verry big fear , getting pregnant...for example , when i had my first girlfriend , after like 2-3 monght's when my mom sawed that we were geting way to close , she started worring we could do something and she could get pregnant , and she keeped bashing my head with this stuff , this was just an example , anyway u get it...
2007-11-21 05:34:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
because its somewhat embarrasing, although that should not stop the parent from talking to their child about it
2007-11-21 05:33:06 · answer #8 · answered by j dddddd 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
cuz they dont want to say the truth that it's enjoyable cuz their scared the kids will do it
2007-11-21 05:29:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋