Ladies... ?

Question

Do you actually want to hear "oh youve lost weight!"
because i can say theres been times when ive noticed it about female friends, and thought about saying it but then thought if they actually want to hear it. Doesn't it imply that they were fat before.
Ive never actually said it.

Answer 1

First, let me apologize for we women. (We are way to sensitive about our appearance. Society pressures certainly make the situation worse, if indeed, it isn't the very cause.)

Second, "You're looking lovely today, as always." is least likely to get you in trouble.

Third, Ladies, just accept the compliment, don't read anything into it, even though that's very difficult.

Fourth, Happy Thanksgiving.

Peace.

Answer 2

No it doest imply (to a woman) that she was fat before. It implies that you noticed that she is looking good. Most women are on a constant diet and love hearing that they lost weight, the thin women need to know they lost weight so they can make an effort to put some back on. There are a lot of women with eating disorders and if more people told them how thin they were looking they might choose a better weight to aim for instead of starving themselves into malnutrition. Some women look better when they have some extra pounds on them. My friends tell me chunky is my best look, and I have trouble maintaining my extra weight. I am naturally to thin. I am an older woman so I need to maintain some weight as older women don't look good to thin. And when I am an old woman I don't want to look unhealthy.
If you don't want to say "you've lost weight" to a woman, try saying "your looking good" it will boost her confidence in herself and she will feel that her efforts are paying off.

EDIT: I read the other answers and most said that they would take it as a compliment, the thin women said they would not, the young ones that commented don't really know, or said that they would be offended and how would they really know, they haven't battled it yet as they are what you guys refer to as hard bodies. So Go with the most answers and that was that they would enjoy hearing that they lost weight and would not think that you thought they were fat before.

Answer 3

If the female friend has expressed to you that they were trying to get on an exercise schedule or they were trying to be more healthy about their eating habits, then I would say yes, tell them they look good. That would indicate that they were trying to maybe lose weight or get healthy. But dont shout, "Oh! Youve lost weight!" Just casually tell them that they look good and maybe open up the compliment with something like, "Have you been exercising? Because you look really fit."

Answer 4

Personally, I'm thin and while I try to stay fit, if you notice I've lost weight, it's ahrd to just say "Oh you've lost some pounds!" Instead, it's better to work it into something else, like , "Man, you look great today? Have you been working out?" or if you know they are on a new diet or something, mention it, "You look amazing, you're glowing! Is that the new fish diet?"

Its not the compliment necessarily, its that you noticed it (in a good way). Hope this helps!

Answer 5

I heard that from one of the guys I'm dating recently. I was actually happy to hear it because I don't step on the scale very often, if at all. And I carry weight so evenly that it takes a lot before I'm able to see it on myself. So if someone else notices and I don't, I like to hear it.

Answer 6

Hmmm, well in some ways no. But, sometimes yes.

It depends on my mood; if you tell me I've lost weight one day, I will think you are sweet and be flattered that you'd noticed me, whereas on another day I would just slap you round the face! I reckon the majority would prefer not to be told... if you wanted to compliment a woman I'd suggest commenting on dress style or hair. =) Princess Lola x

Answer 7

If we are just friends, yes, it's OK but it would probably come across better as a compliment...like, WOW, you look really nice in those jeans. It lets her know you've noticed...

As a BF, just avoid the topic and if she brings it up you can comment that you thought it looked like she has TONED UP but that she always looks great in your eyes...if she asks about weight gain...LIE...

Answer 8

It depends on whether they have tried to loose weight, if not then no it's not a good idea it does kinda imply that they were a bit overweight before...

Answer 9

Lol
That is sure a tricky one
On one hand, I might get a little offended because then I would think that You think that I am fat
But on the other hand, it would be nice for a guy to compliment me. I would probably just stick with telling her that she looks nice :) It's waaaay safer

Answer 10

unless it's obvious and you think that person wants to hear it. I agree with the opther poster...I weigh 105 lbs and that's the LAST thing I want to hear. Doesn't mean you thought they were fat...just tell them you noticed and see the reaction. and do it privatly...that way if there is a bad reaction then there aren't alot of people around!