he cant help but lie & lie & lie & lie some more.
i love him but his lying needs to stop.
he lies about the dumbest things.
i cant be with him if he continues to lie.
what can i do?
& especially what can he do to stop this?
2007-11-21 04:54:59 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
haha you guys are great.
and yeah i know i should.
but you know its hard since ive been with him for two years and he was my first true love..
i dont think i can feel the same way with another guy.
trust me i broke it off and tried being with other guys but it wasn't the same.
god im ****** up for real.
2007-11-21 05:08:10 · update #1
If he lies like that, you will never be able to trust him, tell him to stop it, or you will leave him. Good Luck.
2007-11-21 04:57:27 · answer #1 · answered by tarie75 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Your love has nothing to do with his mental state. . But if you know that he's a habitual liar then it's probably best if you love him from a distance.
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The good thing is that he's just your boyfriend and you don't have to worry about breaking any lifelong committments to leave him. Love him, but love yourself too and do what's best for you for now.
We ALL have hang ups, things that we wish we weren't porne to doing over and over again. People lie because they are afraid of rejection or punishment. He is insecure in who he is and lies to try to make up for it. I can relate because I ued to be a habitual liar. I realised one day that people are just people and I wasn't as important as I had made myself out to be in my own mind. I was really able to put down a lot of facades when I realised that I could just be me. Because God loves me He made me who I am.
I don't have to lie because I will NEVER get everyone to like me. So I would rather have people like (or dislike) the real me rather than the fake me and waste that energy on a lie.
If he can realise first that God loves him and also you love him (you at arms length) then he may be able to get over the insecurity that causes him to lie.
Ironically, Often God uses the simple frail hands of people to show His greatness. You can show him that you are pulling for him and that you have his back but with out putting your self in a position that would be greatly hurtful to yourself. that's some thing you;ll have to balance out.
2007-11-21 05:23:17 · answer #2 · answered by stjoseph5 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He needs to admit he has a problem and seek professional help with it. If it's a compulsion, then there is probably a psychological reason for it. He'll have to undergo therapy to help put him on the right path.
Have you spoken to him about it? Have you let him know that even the small white lies are hurting you and hurting your relationship? Have you suggested he gets help for his problem?
I don't think you can change him, but you can help him to change himself. If he's not willing to get help, maybe you need to move on to another man.
2007-11-21 04:59:14 · answer #3 · answered by mikah_smiles 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I wouldn't be in a serious relationship with someone who cant stop lying. I would move on because I value myself too much and know that I deserve to be in a relationship withsome who is honest and that I can trust. Good luck to you
2007-11-21 04:58:23 · answer #4 · answered by ?? yaddajean ?? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know you can approach him and tell him that if he doesn't stop lying then you'll break up with him and then in a couple weeks if he doesn't stop tell him that you need a break from all the lies so for two weeks you guys are on a break no kissing, holding hands, or touching each other! you'd be friends not friends with benifits
2007-11-21 04:59:08 · answer #5 · answered by hello14171 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This may sound harsh, but I would tell him that he needs help (the psychological kind) and if he does not get it, you will leave. You are in for a world of hurt if you stay with someone who is not honest. Good luck and take care
2007-11-21 04:59:19 · answer #6 · answered by lansatx04 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Nothing. He's more comfortable with lying than he is with the truth. The truth is hard; lies are soft and squishy and can be changed. The only way you're going to get him to quit lying to you is to dump him altogether.
2007-11-21 04:58:46 · answer #7 · answered by bouncyfun1 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Look, if the guy's a liar, why be with him? What kind of future do you see with a person you can't trust. I'm sure you probably knew the answer before you even posted this.
2007-11-21 04:58:09 · answer #8 · answered by Voice_Of_Reason 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Does he want to stop? Is he seeing a therapist? What is he willing to do to stop the lies? If you don't see him taking real steps to change his ways, then you need to get out of the relationship.
2007-11-21 04:59:20 · answer #9 · answered by Naturally Good 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
tel him that he needs to trust you, that lying will only hurt you guys' relationship... not help it in any way. Tell him your trust has been betrayed and if he doesn't take all that in concideration and try to stop.. move on. You deserve so much more than sum liar.
2007-11-21 05:03:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is coming from a guy,
Just wait until he lies to you about not being with another girl and he tells the other girl that he is not with another girl.
2007-11-21 05:01:07 · answer #11 · answered by the d 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋