like im always on his a s s. we were im-ing and i noticed the time, 12:30pm, he goes to work at one. so i said have a good day, i love you. and he went off then. so i called him and i said why he didnt respond and he said he was gunna call me. and i said well u never really call me to say like, ok im going to work, bye. and he said, cuz im always riding him. i dont mean to. we've been dating for 2yrs now and we are both 19. we see each other almost everyday, i stay over his house most of the time. i wont be seeing him tonite, which im fine with, but i dont wanna keep texting him all nite, or im-ing. he texts me when hes at work too. how can i kinda resist alittle bit towards him, make him see hes not my whole world..? thanks for the advice guys and happy thanksgiving! :)
2007-11-21 04:48:58 · 18 answers · asked by million$? 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Guys don't like clingy women. Just like women don't like controling men. Give him some space. If you have been together for 2 years, you should have enough trust in each other to be able to do things separately without constantly having to text message, or IM him. What in the heck do you think we did before cell phones, and computers? We had to learn to TRUST each other. That is what a relationship is all about. If you can't trust each other after 2 years, then one of you is being controlling in the relationship.
Many women, take the control issue as, "Oh he just loves me, and wants the best for me." Wrong. he just wants to control what you wear, where you go, how long you are gone, etc... It can work the other way around also. Usually these kinds of relationships become toxic, and it is best to get out now, if that is the case here. Why would you think you have to text him all night, or im him anyway? To make sure he answers within a certain amount of time, or to make sure he says he is where he says he is? I'm not sure who the controler is in this relationship, but I would suggest you find some interests of your own, so that your whole life does not revolve around him.
A relationship is supposed to be an equal partnership, where you have mutual trust, and goals for your future. Not one person owning the other, and dictating what they do in every way.
2007-11-21 05:02:24 · answer #1 · answered by CSmom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i can see that you care for him alot and thats a good thing, its always good to show your feelings and be concernd and stuff but sometimes people overdue it... just like sometimes people underdue it .. and u overdue it just a little lol. My advise to you would be to talk to your bf and set up a time where u both can spend time together the whole day.. i think you guys are lacking that and so ur finding a way to spend time with him by texting him with the little time that u do have with him.. im assuming... so if u guys were to set a day where its just the two of you ... he can tell you about his day at work .. you can tell him about school or work or whatever... u guys could cuddle make out... u know.. that would bring the relationship back on track.. that way you dont feel the need to want to spend time with him.. when hes busy.. i think thats the problem when u want to talk to him hes always in the middle of something, so try doing it or setting a time with him when hes not.. and then u can do that all u want.. its all about balance!
good luck
and happy thanks giving to you :)
2007-11-21 04:58:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Okay, you need to cut the guy some slack. You really sound a little possessive if you know what I mean; Only 19, not even married and you need to keep tabs on him (wanting to always be in touch). Back off or you will lose him to another woman as we men are simple and you are trying to complicate things by slowing him down with all of this other neediness. Get a life or lose a fish.
2007-11-21 05:00:25 · answer #3 · answered by beamer 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do in a relationship is to let it "breathe". As a guy I can tell you. It is an irritant to always be hearing 3,4 5 times a day from the same person ( even a girfriend). In my case it's my wife. Always im-ing, or calling or whatever makes it seems as if you're cornering and "checking up on him. Give him room and he'll come to you.
Let it "breathe".
2007-11-21 04:57:14 · answer #4 · answered by stjoseph5 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Uhh... You do sound slightly clingy my chum. in basic terms make some new friends and start up surprising out with them greater and you're bf a 'lil much less. yet while he starts appearing like an A hollow break up with him and are available across a sparkling guy . while you're particularly meant to be with him for something of you're existence, it's going to ensue, do not subject.
2016-10-02 03:12:46 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont be too clingy. Than always ruins a realtionship. You have a right to wonder about him but not things like that and ask him what you can do to stop that way he knows you care. And happy thanksgiving to you too!
2007-11-21 04:54:15 · answer #6 · answered by ♥↔♥ 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
invite some friends over- have a girls night. If you keep im'ing him and ignoring them they'll call you on it.
Being together is good- but you seem a bit too clingy so perhaps you should try to distance yourself a bit. Get involved in a project.
2007-11-21 04:54:26 · answer #7 · answered by ♥ Gabbie ♥ 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Because you have to use a salutation or comment like..."oh, I see it's 12:30pm, don't you work at 1pm today?" or "Well, I see it's almost time for you to go to work, I don't want to make you late."
Do you miss social cues like that a lot?
2007-11-21 04:55:57 · answer #8 · answered by Xanadu 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Good Heavens, girl... go find something else to do---
He can't miss you, if you're always right there...
Do things with your girlfriends, cut down the # of days you stay over to one or two...
Give him some room to breathe...
2007-11-21 04:57:00 · answer #9 · answered by Sophie B 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
lol you sound like you are doing fine maby give him some more room but you sound like an out going person and he sounds more like the kind that would wach tv instead.
2007-11-21 04:55:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋