2007-11-21 04:18:36 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
be consistent and always follow through. If you say no, then never give in no matter how much he screams or he'll just learn that you'll give in eventually.
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2007-11-21 04:21:28 · answer #1 · answered by speechy 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
After raising 2 children past the age of 3, I would say from experience that you have to use a combination of physical and verbal discipline. 3 year olds do not have an understanding of right and wrong and just verbally reprimanding a 3 year old is as effective as pouring gasoline on a fire. More than likely they will not listen and their attention span is extremely short at that age. Their short term memory will not store the information that what they are doing is wrong if you do not mix the two. I am not telling you to beat your child, a firm swat to the bottom is very effective with the use of the word No. Children have to understand that there are consequences. There are no consequences to just saying no so it is highly ineffective.
Sometimes the lessons we learn as adults and children come in the form of physical and emotional correction. You really want to be able to raise your child to handle the real world, not the world of fantasy where everything is just peachy.
2007-11-21 04:34:34 · answer #2 · answered by Tim N 5 · 1⤊ 3⤋
What a nice Mommy to care enough to ask such a question! My grandfather got through to me that something was going to hurt me by going through the motion, then "play crying" just a second, then smiling at me. Friendly help. I did the same with ours, with good results. Repetition is said to be important. Finally, sometmes I had to give a tap on the behind right at the time they tried something wrong again, so they could recognize what the tap was for, with a gentle but firm "No!" Didn't always work, but usually did...I always felt like it was a matter mostly of finding a way to help them to understand what you were trying to say. Mine is thirty now and, though we had our moments, we are still friends. But I'm not a Mommy...Best wishes, Mike
2007-11-21 04:31:59 · answer #3 · answered by Mike M. 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Well, make sure that whatever you do... you use physical discipline, otherwise, they will not listen to you because they will not fear you. All children need that healthy fear of their parents, and if their is not "wrist-slapping" involved, the child will not learn. Time outs alone will not work and just sitting them down and talking to them won't either. Reward them when they're good and give a good disciplinary action when it is needed. Don't hold back; you are the boss, not your child.
2007-11-21 04:23:20 · answer #4 · answered by juliefan 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Praise when they do something good...really make a big deal about it. But when they misbehave, use time outs, and stick to it. Don't let them get their own way...may result in a lot of screaming but they eventually get the hint...my 3 yr old has so far.
2007-11-21 04:39:26 · answer #5 · answered by mommy_2_liam 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
It won't happen. You have to work with a 3 year old. Time-outs, light taps to get your point across, simple messages (no. repeat.) It's a lot of repetitions. Keep the message simple and to the point. Repeat. Repeat. Put the child in time-out. It'll be like you are getting punished also.
2007-11-21 04:22:57 · answer #6 · answered by Unsub29 7 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Different methods work with different children and at different times, and there's no magic solution - you do have to keep repeating things. Do ignore the people advising spankings and time outs. They rarely teach a child much in the long run.
With my daughter, I use a combination of clearly explaining my expectations ("It's time to get ready for bed now. I expect you to put away your toys and get your pajamas on when I ask you to."), praise when she behaves ("Great job, I really appreciate it when you cooperate!"), natural consequences when necessary ("Oh, I'm afraid we don't have time for a story tonight. Let's try to get ready for bed quicker tomorrow night so we don't run out of time."), and creativity ("I'll bet I can get ready for bed before you can! Ready, set, go!").
2007-11-21 05:22:20 · answer #7 · answered by daa 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
A swat on the bottom. They understand that. And the word, "No!"
It's hard to sit down and have a "conversation" about discipline issues at that age. They are just starting to understand but don't quite get it.
2007-11-21 04:22:08 · answer #8 · answered by Trust In The Lord 3 · 3⤊ 3⤋
time out or take away something they enjoy for awhile..it is tough mine just turned 4 and is still having issues with listening...just patience on our part...they do not understand the whole concept yet, and what you are trying to teach them..a few words, not a long explanation of what they had done..they lose the attention span with that...so short and sweet no arguments and time out chair.
2007-11-21 04:22:26 · answer #9 · answered by h_carlin 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Understanding and listening are not a result of discipline; they are a result of communication.
2007-11-21 04:21:40 · answer #10 · answered by Fred S - AM Cappo Di Tutti Capi 5 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Get down to their level & look them straight in the eye when explaining why they shouldn't be doing whatever it is they're doing. Be stern if it's something naughty they've done. End it with a "do you understand me?" - good - kiss kiss - now go play nicely. DON'T end sentences with "Okay??" - that's asking the child for permission and you're the parent.
2007-11-21 04:22:19 · answer #11 · answered by Flusterated 7 · 2⤊ 3⤋