I am a single and so I want my kids to know their grandpa, who is a man (obviously, lol). We live a long ways away and so I want my daughter to talk on the phone to him frequently. He comes to visit every year or so, but I want her to feel 'in touch' with him because he is the only family that I am comfortable letting around my kids. And because if something happens to me, he is the one that will take gaurdianship.
I make her talk on the phone but all she says is 'no' to evey question he asks. How can I motivate her to talk to grandpa on the phone? Is not like this in person unless she is feeling shy, which is not often. She is like this on the phone. How do I get her to talk to him? She seems comfortable with men (neighbors, her friends dads, and with my dad too after the intitial shyness wears off). How can I motivate her to talk to him on the phone. I feel this is an important relationship for her.
2007-11-21 03:35:20 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
sorry i have just read ur question properly and really it could it be an age thing ? I have a 9 year old and she is the very same on the phone.
2007-11-21 05:34:52 · answer #1 · answered by Busybee yep! 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
That's just normal. It's really up to grandpa to ask all the questions and she says yes or no. My kids were and still are the same way. I usually have to stand with them and coax them what to say. You need to inform grandpa about what she's been up to and he has to talk to her about it. Don't worry. She'll be on the phone soon enough and you won't be able to get her off.
Maybe start writing little notes or letters to grandpa. Send drawings and have her practice her best handwriting. Make it fun.
Anyway...
2007-11-21 03:45:26 · answer #2 · answered by EarthGirl 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Does she remember actually seeing him? Maybe she's just uncomfortable because although you say it's grandpa she may not remember him. The next time he comes have them spend alot of time together and talk about after he leaves calling him and talking to him on the phone. I used to be the same way until I actually saw the person. Good luck
2007-11-21 04:58:07 · answer #3 · answered by Melba 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The most important thing is that he has an interest in her. Encourage your dad to talk to her even though she's silent.
You can help her feel connected by taking some pictures of her and letting her choose ones to send to grampa, and have her draw some pictures for him and send them, and you could even write a letter for her about how she's been. That will give her something in common with grampa who's so far away.
She's learning how to forge a relationship, its normal for her to act shy and disengaged. Be sure to get grampa to send her pictures and write her letters. Anything that will help her realize they are connected and that grampa loves her.
Give it time.
2007-11-21 03:40:25 · answer #4 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I try to encourage my daughter to talk to her dad (long distance) about her day, and to ask him about his. This forces more than yes/no answers, and usually creates more interaction between them. Sometimes she'll ask me something I can answer, but I intentionally play dumb and suggest she ask him about it. That might work for your daughter and her grandpa, as well, the next time she wants to know why buses sigh, or why fire is blue, you get the idea.
However, as long as he's talking on his end, he can ask questions, share stories, tell jokes, whatever, and she'll at least know he's interested in her and cares about her, and eventually she'll come around. You're doing good now, encouraging the interaction. I think you have the right idea.
2007-11-21 06:25:13 · answer #5 · answered by ~Biz~ 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Tell her you will take her out for ice cream or whatever she enjoys doing after she is done talking to Grandpa. She is old enough to understand things and tell her Grandpa loves her and she is his "little angel".
2007-11-21 03:46:44 · answer #6 · answered by Kasey 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just get grandpa to ask her about stuff she is interested in like barbie or bratz or hanna montana or something. If he talks about something she is interested in the conversation will be more than yes and no answers.
2007-11-21 03:51:12 · answer #7 · answered by Wishmaster 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
well my son is kinda the same way and so is my neice they won't take to and one eather all they do is hide there face but your son will come around give it time.bet of luck to you.
2007-11-21 05:02:06 · answer #8 · answered by babyboo55941 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋