iam 28 now. Recently i have changed my carrer to software field. I have joined as a trainee in one of the software company. when ever i concentrate on my subject i always remembered of my past love, that is...my gal friend and me were in love and were very close infact we had physical relationship it continued for 3 years but finally our love story ended as our parents were against our love so we had to break our relation after that she got married and was out of touch with me. now its one n half year. with recommendation and little bit of preparation i got this job that to after waiting for one long year.but now the problem is iam unable to concentrate on my job. now i am openup for another gal but it will take nearly two years to go to comfortable stage in my carrer.so i cant get married for another 2 years. her thoughts are killing me day by day. every time i miss her emotionally sometimes i miss her physically...what to do how do i get energy to figth this situation please help
2007-11-21 03:18:51 · 6 answers · asked by Feel 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Life is about concentrating on matters in front of you. You cannot change the past - no one can. So why should you want to do this?
In addition you are very young. And there is enough energy to concentrate on job and the new girlfriend.
If you really like her, she also deserves your attention and kindness - only then she will be able to give the same to you. Otherwise matters are not in balance and you risk to loose her over time. Especially if you put her on hold for 2 years, for career reasons.
So find a proper balance, forget the past.
And most important: be happy that you have a job a new woman you like. Enjoy and relax. It's YOUR life :)
2007-11-27 19:29:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it alone.
Sorry this is one of those situations that having a good, deep, close friend would save you ALOT of grief. Minus that your sort of stuck doing being a best friend to yourself, not easy.
So if you can't find to many people your comfrontable enough to relate your pain, your forced to simply spend time with yourself getting comfrontable with this, your actually being FORCED into this rather natural process right now. The career before was talking all your attentions, feelings, time, shoot your love. Now that it isn't take it ALL, you've got some left to help, well learn from this problem and move on. Trust its easier for me to type that, then it well be for you to do. But if you don't have a friend, you have no choice, you've got to let it burn. Your eventual goal is to find something, anything that you feel just as intensly for, as her. Which is why its so f'in hard.....
2007-11-21 16:28:23 · answer #2 · answered by Brutal Honesty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi friend!
I know its very hard to forget your past love.But, now, actually its not the right time to think about your past.You have got a software carrier infront of you.Just concenterate on that job training.Life is always not a path of roses, we have thorns also on the path. So just don't try to forget your love,it will make you to remember it.Just keep it aside, to the corner of your heart.Whenever you have her thoughts, do something that makes you feel better,maybe music,friends r anything.
Another girl in your life.......hmmm....right now its not a best idea.Go through your carrier and be in a gud position and then think about marriage. All The Best for your Life Friend!
2007-11-22 12:09:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop feeling and start thinking about yourself as she have, she is moved on and you…
don’t waist another day thinking about what it could have been and think what you can make by taking right decisions.
Is you loved her enough, you would have found the way to make this happen, now its too late, don’t waist another gals life by lies…
You hear me…
Get over it
2007-11-25 02:05:59 · answer #4 · answered by prity 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK Start to find out another love and do not remember past love in the involvement of another one.
2007-11-25 08:46:50 · answer #5 · answered by natrayan1975 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
theres no use thinking about the past, SHES GONE FROM UR LIFE AND WILL NEVER COME BACK,.......a new future is awaiting u..........jus concentrate on ur work.
past is past, future is in ur hands, dont ruin it by thinking about the past.........
forget ur past reln, never discuss it wit anyone.
2007-11-22 07:38:57 · answer #6 · answered by Ramya R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋