I am doing a law degree and I have recently moved house with my parents. I feel so empty and I thought I would love living away from the grotty town I used to live in, but I miss my friends. When I lived there I was happy. Now I am a wreck and cannot stop crying EVER even on the train to uni, I've lost my appetite and I cannot concentrate on my studies. I often wish I wasn't alive. Can anyone help me how to regain my happiness, I've tried everything. x
2007-11-21 03:07:58 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
Go to the doctor and get some medication. It will help. There are lots of medications for depression - sometimes it may take a couple of tries to find the one that is right for you. Work with you doctor on this - then it will get better and life will be OK again.
2007-11-21 03:11:57 · answer #1 · answered by J B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do people always suggest medication as the first line? Anyway... there's been a huge amount of change taken place in your life, and it's perfectly normal to miss your friends and to feel so lonely. The feelings of wishing you were not alive however are a little worrying. The best thing to do would be to talk to your GP, ask for a chance to talk through your feelings with someone before taking anti-depressants. Your university will have a counselling service, you could contact them and ask for an appointment. Also, your university is bound to have lots of societies and social events. Get involved in some things there so you can meet new people. You will still miss your friends but at least you will have other people to talk to, some might even feel the same way you do. I hope things pick up soon x
2007-11-21 05:21:24 · answer #2 · answered by Laura H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have been through a very traumatic time, moving home and leaving the people you love behind, and you are not depressed but grieving. The best way to help yourself to recover is to ask at Uni for a session of Councelling then discuss with the Councellor all your concerns do not bottle them up and sit feeling sorry for yourself but do this one possitive thing, trust me it will help and before long you will start to feel better and settle into Uni and independant life. Best of Luck
2007-11-21 03:16:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you need to consider if this is right for you? Maybe the degree is not right for you or give it time to adjust and see if you settle. Changes take time. If you keep thinking about home it will make you feel worse. Just try and make the most of where you're at, knowing you can go back weekends or when you can to catch up and you'll appreciate things more. Give it time, if you haven't already.
All the best with the situation.
2007-11-21 04:11:19 · answer #4 · answered by Mr-Kay 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok for a start a few of the answers here are totally unacceptable!!
Ignore people that suggest ridiculous things!
I understand that things must be really tough at the moment but give it a while and maybe it will get better...
Have you spoken to your parents about all of this?...
Explain to your subject teacher about how you are feeling...this could take away some of the pressures of uni...
If you need to talk about anything feel free to email me...
And please if you are as low as considering suicide then seek medical help...dont suffer in silence!
Take care and stay strong
Xox...
2007-11-21 06:19:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you need to get out and meet some new friends. If there is a church near by drop in one Sunday and see what they have to offer in your age group or give them a call. It is normal to be home sick change is difficult for anyone you are normal try to pull yourself together this will get better. When ever you start to panic or start to cry get up go for a walk take some deep breaths and try and relax.
Life is full of changes this is just your first big one you will survive. I know you will.
2007-11-21 03:18:20 · answer #6 · answered by mdjgirl7 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how long this has been going on.
If you have only been there for a couple of weeks, then you will eventually adjust to your new surroundings, make friends etc etc.
If this has been going on for months, then yes, medical advice should be your next step.
But don't think along the "I don't want to be alive" lines. Whatever happens, this can be temporary. Knuckle down, finish your course, stay in touch with your friends and when you're done, move back to be with them.
2007-11-21 03:19:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Living with my parents would be a fate worse than death. You should find a way to move back, if you are working on a Law degree, and live on your own.
Geez! Who'd want a Lawyer who lives with his or her momma anyway? But to actually boohoo all day long because of it is either a sign of 1)Chronic Depression, 2) Maladjustment (social disorder) or 3)gross immaturity. A Shrink might help with 1) but will be unable to do much with 2) or 3).
How 'bout---Grow up! I wouldn't want you as my lawyer!
Imagine this scenario in a court of law and you are the Defense Attorney:
Defendent on the witness stand "Well, Billy Bob tol' me 'bout dat de oder night..."
Prosecutor: Objection! Hearsay!
You: (All blubbery eyed) Sob Sob, uh, he's always objecting, that's not fair....Sob Sob.....I can't take it...Sob Sob....Can't you see my Client is so not-guilty! Sob Sob"
Judge: Objection sustained. Court is in recess for 15 minutes until the Defense Attorney gets his/her act together!
Judge (aside) to client : Recommend you find another Attorney. This is pathetic!
I think the Judge, Jury, Defendent and Prosecutor would be aghast!
2007-11-21 03:23:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Change is hard for everyone. Hang in there and realize that every ending is just a new beginning. Try to find a positive side, and look for all the new opportunities available to you. If it doesn't get any better, you may benefit from counseling.
Good luck!!
2007-11-21 03:13:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't try to take sympathies, you are doing law read more books and keep yourself busy and bring smile on your face it will help you to make new Friends and try friendly with your family, it will take time and ever thing be normal. You can contact with your old friends on phone and get normal.
2007-11-21 03:26:26 · answer #10 · answered by lucky s 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋