How do I tell a guy that I can't date when he asks me out because my parents are strict on the whole I can't date until I'm 16 thing but I CAN go to a dance with him? I know he's gonna ask me out because he CONSTANTLY flirts with me. He keeps dropping hints and yesterday was a big one. Our class went to the library. When the bell rang and we were walking out he let everyone go ahead of him, I was one of the last people. He walked out with me, holding the door open for me, and says "That was the perfect opportunity." and I said "For what?" and he said "Oh nothing." About 10 seconds later he says, "Do you have a boyfriend?" and I said "No..." There's a dance coming up on November 30th, I can go to dances. So my question is how do I tell him I can't go out with him but I can go to the dance with him if he wants to ask me? I'm only 13 so I'm clueless about guys, I'm still learning. Thanks in advance!
2007-11-21 02:49:25 · 11 answers · asked by ☆ dont make tears fall ☆™ 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Oh, by the way please don't tell me I'm too young and to worry about my school work because I have straight A's and a 4.0. Oh and also, he's my friend, I don't want to hurt him!!!
2007-11-21 02:49:55 · update #1
First of all, I commend you on being an awesome student. To be so young it's clear that you know what you want. But since the two of you are friends just tell him the truth and talk to your parents. If he's your friend and your parents said you can have friends then introduce him to your parents as your friend. Then go to the dance together as friends. If he really is your friend, then he will understand everything and he'll be willing to wait to make your feelings about each other official with your parents. The truth is parents don't really see what happens at school and as much as they try, they can't regulate your feelings. So just respect their wishes now and when you're 16, if the two of you are still together then your parents will be more compromising. Hope this helps!
2007-11-21 03:03:15 · answer #1 · answered by Scarlett 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be straight up with him. Tell him you're not allowed to date him but you can go to dances with him, and that you think he's cool and would like to hang out with him, even if you're not "dating". See how things go. Really, dating is spending time with someone. There's the whole physical thing, but you wouldn't be doing that in front of your parents anyway, so if they never see it, what's the difference if they know or if they don't know?
Just make sure, since you won't have the benefit of their guidance, that you educate yourself and don't do anything stupid (like unprotected sex, or drugs, or drinking).
2007-11-21 02:56:28 · answer #2 · answered by 006 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First, hear on your mum and dad and wait till you're sixteen for formal relationship. If he asks you out (or maybe though it happens), be particular to tell him approximately your mum and dad and the present set of regulations. That way, he would comprehend you're relatively drawn to him yet are constrained in what you're able to do till you're sixteen -- in any different case, he ought to in easy terms think of which you do unlike him or which you're actually not extreme approximately him. Be open and elementary. it shouldn't make you any much less proper to him. interior the intervening time, is there any harm in merely "relationship" like buddies? which incorporate, strolling abode from college with him, putting out over lunch, assembly him at school dances, or different such regular stuff. grasp in there! you would be sixteen previously you comprehend it.
2016-12-16 15:16:20 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask your parents if you could go to the dance and then maybe go out for a few hours after that. It seems reasonable to me as long as they meet and approve of the guy. Maybe you could also ask them if he could come over your house and hang out with you while they are there and able to supervise. I don't blame them for worrying butt hey are being a little overprotective.
2007-11-21 02:56:28 · answer #4 · answered by *the dancing machine* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well all you have to do is say i really like you... a lot but im not allowed to date until im 16 BUT my parents said that i can still go to dances with guys. that way he will know that you are available and then he knows to ask you soon.
2007-11-21 02:56:57 · answer #5 · answered by spud 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
haha just go out with him and dont tell your parents. They oviously are way to over protected. And maybe if ur parents get to know him and think he ios a good guy t hey will let u date him.
2007-11-21 02:53:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
awwwe way too cute. if he asks you out tell him "I cant date right now but i would like to go to the dance with you" and tell him you can hang out alot (dont know if thats what you do anyways)....cuz basically at ur age thats all u should be doing....not downgrading or anything but u r young.
2007-11-21 03:00:16 · answer #7 · answered by sweet_pea0687 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just spill it all, if you wanna go to the dance with him just go, even if you dont wanna ruin a good friendship then go as friends. you never know what could happen within the next year : )
2007-11-21 02:53:30 · answer #8 · answered by puppy8090 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you love someone you'll feel it deep inside
And nothing else can ever change your mind
When you want someone - when you need someone
When you love someone...
When you love someone - you'll sacrifice
You'd give it everything you got and you won't think twice
You'd risk it all - no matter what may come
When you love someone
You'll shoot the moon - put out the sun
When you love someone.
2007-11-21 02:53:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
" My parents won't let me single date until I'm sixteen, but they let me go to dances..."
2007-11-21 02:56:24 · answer #10 · answered by Sophie B 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋