My mother just passed on Nov 10th and had little life insurance.She only had enough to cover about 1/5 of the costs.My mother in law has asked numerous times about the costs and such .I have told her over and over again.She just keeps up about my brothers helping witht he costs and stuff.I feel that that is between us and whatever happens happens.I am not sure how it will all pan out,Im not sure if they will h elp like they said they would or not but i keep telling her she is my mother and i gave her teh funeral she deserved.I just buried her a week ago and i just wish my mother in law would let up and let me get over her death without worrying about teh costs right now.If it akes 10 yrs it takes 10 yrs to pay it off..
What should i do about her questioning.. I dont want to caus problems with her and i;m not sure what to do
2007-11-21 02:09:57 · 9 answers · asked by oobie1994 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
If she is not helping with the coast of the funeral my response would have been I don't wish to discuss it at this time.
I am very sorry for the loss of your mom. I can say that my mothers funeral was a mess as well as at the time I was 21
with no money, my mom passed away Nov 6, 91 my uncle promised to pay and made all arrangements. 1 month later he sued me for 15,000 plus interest for the funeral expense. Which was almost my gross salary for the year at the time. So, sometimes families are not go great in a time when you are grieving.
Please do not defend yourself for what you do and have done in regards to your mom. You are correct worry about the bill later Talk to your husband and tell him to tell him mom to back off as her questions are inappropriate.
2007-11-21 05:29:16 · answer #1 · answered by Kat G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't want to come off as rude but, you did mention marriage after the pending divorce. Could it be that your future mother in law may have some strife against you because her son did not wait until he was divorced to start dating? I know each family has their own circumstances but, the way it is written seems that way. On the other hand, if this is a long out dated pending divorce and the future mother in law has been around for awhile..might I suggest inviting her over for dinner instead. Where your child is in the environment she is most familiar with. ADHD children tend to be set off when introduced to stimulating surroundings. Your mother in law may need to realize as well that this is new for your child also. Your daughter may simply not know how to react to her new life. Remember she is still your fiance's mom and should be respected. But, you will be first in his life soon not her. She must learn to give you the same..this can begin by having her by in your home so that the rules are already established to your benefit.
2016-05-24 21:28:08 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm with John. If she starts talking about it again, just tell her you don't know what is going to happen, but they are family and you will deal with it the best you can, BUT (big but) that you have learned your lesson. You will NEVER spend so much on a funeral again. Then change the subject.
I'm so sorry about your mom. I lost my mom when I was 17, so I know how hard this is. Time heals.
Good luck and best wishes.
2007-11-21 02:40:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure you have told her politely to mind her own business and that asking about things like this is considered rude and crass.
Now it's up to your husband to put her firmly in her place and to keep her there.
She's HIS mother and he needs to take care of it. HE needs to tell her that she's behaving badly and that she needs to back off pronto.
Barring that - just keep telling her that it's been taken care of and for her not to continue worrying about it. Nothing is more boring than a broken record.
2007-11-21 02:59:33 · answer #4 · answered by Barbara B 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her or have your husband tell her that you have bigger things to worry about.
If that doesnt work next time she says something just start crying. If she is any kind of decent human being she will get the idea.
2007-11-21 02:14:46 · answer #5 · answered by aaaaaaaaaaaaaaa 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Been there! Tell her it is all taken care of. thank her for asking. Then ignore her when the subject comes up. Or tell your wife to tell her to shut up. It is bothering you. Good Luck
2007-11-21 03:04:38 · answer #6 · answered by flashrtp 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Good answer John!
2007-11-21 02:18:57 · answer #7 · answered by feline_farmer1 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that her advice is solid, and you'll remember to be more frugal when it's time to bury her!
2007-11-21 02:15:20 · answer #8 · answered by John 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
hug hug to u ya )= just keep quite n walk away . she will auto quite too .
2007-11-21 02:23:55 · answer #9 · answered by angelsoft 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋