My best friend's wedding is a week after mine. Don't you think it is wrong of her to have it so soon after mine?
Should I cut short my honeymoon to 5 days to even attend hers?
2007-11-21 01:10:55 · 27 answers · asked by __ 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Like someone already said - there's a bunch we don't know here - Who planned first - who set the date first? Who booked the hall first? Sounds like you are in a competition. Look, sounds like the two of you aren't such "best friends", so no, why bother? Go have your wedding first, go on your honeymoon & send a nice gift - she'll actually BE at yours, won't she? Maybe you can be real nice at her showers and make it up to her. If you were really her "best friend" you would BE IN the wedding wouldn't you?
2007-11-21 02:28:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
It's true she can have her wedding anytime she wants but why so close to yours? If you two are best friends, you would think she would have planned it so you two could share the day with her and her family like she will with you and yours.
Don't change your honeymoon plans just because she wasn't more considerate and don't feel bad because you can't be there. The ball was in her court ~ she didn't play it right and a best friend would not do this to you and if they were truly a best friend, they sure wouldn't expect you to change your honeymoon plans.
Look closer at this friendship. Things may not be what you think they are.
Congratulations on your upcoming wedding. Enjoy the day and the honeymoon. Now it is time to concentrate on your fiance / future husband and making your lives a beautiful, lifelong experience. Husband comes first, family comes next, then friends. God bless you folks
2007-11-21 01:24:42 · answer #2 · answered by KittyKat 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
no way! you only get one honeymoon (with the one bloke) honeymoons are the best part. Its her problem if she is upset about it, im sorry, but she should have thought about you not being able to make the wedding before she booked it a week after yours!
god talk about steal the thunder! worry about your beautiful day and gorgeous honeymoon, and explain to her that you will not be attending as you are looking forward to getting away with your new husband.
if it was the other way round i doubt very VERY much that she would cancel 5 days of her holiday to come to yours, 5 days is too much, maybe if it was 2 or 3. anyway, im rambling...i say...no!
and yes i think it is wrong to have her wedding so soon after yours. yours will be brushed under the carpet a day after because she and other friends will be talking about her upcoming wedding, i dont think this is nice at all!
2007-11-21 01:22:26 · answer #3 · answered by Fader's Girl 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Take a minute... think about YOUR wedding and all of the people you invited... did you consider each of them individually and think about whether or not the date you selected was going to work well for them? [Probably not.] More than likely you picked the date that you & your spouse-to-be wanted with the hopes that as many people as possible could attend.
I'm sure your friend did not select the week after your wedding just to spite you... or inconvenience you by having to cut your honeymoon short. [If she did, you might want to consider why you're friends with her.]
I would NOT cut your honeymoon short unless it is very important to YOU that you be there. [She will not appreciate how much you are giving up by cutting your honeymoon short. She will be glad that you're there, but if you go out of obligation and not desire, you will resent her for it.]
You are not obligated to be there. You have a prior engagement... and your spouse ranks over your friend. So, tell her that you're sorry you'll have to miss it... that you're SURE she understands... and that you wish her all the best.
Enjoy your honeymoon.
2007-11-21 04:00:54 · answer #4 · answered by amazing_creation 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well i dont think its WRONG for her to make her wedding a week after yours.. i mean planning together should be fun.. HOWEVER.. it is wrong for her to expect you to be there.. did she ask you to be in her wedding? if she wanted you in it or even to be there, then she should have never made it that close to yours.. thats just dumb.. how recent did she decide this? maybe she over looked the fact that you would be on her honeymoon.. you should bring it up to her if you have not already.. if she still doesnt want to change it, then she has no right to be upset or mad at you that you cant make it.. DO NOT cut your honeymoon short!! that is your only honeymoon that you will ever have! take as long as you can take for it!
2007-11-21 02:05:28 · answer #5 · answered by Tiff Tiff 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It isn't wrong at all! Don't cut your honeymoon short. Just delay it by a week. You and she will be on your honeymoons at the same time then. Get together for lunch or dinner afterwards to look at all your photographs together.
2007-11-24 04:55:24 · answer #6 · answered by ennie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you shouldnt cut your honeymoon short, hopefully its the only one your having, If she is your best friend she will understand you wont be able to attend her wedding as you will be away. Ask her to see her video when she returns and have a girlie night in together remeniscing with both videos or photos and a nice bottle of wine.
good luck have a lovely day and stop worrying, its probably nerves. Enjoy
2007-11-21 03:05:03 · answer #7 · answered by coffeecup 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You get ONE day. Is she on the board somewhere asking if it's wrong of YOU to have your wedding so soon before hers?
Let it go, be happy for her.
If you want to go to her wedding, shorten the honeymoon. If you don't, send her a great gift from your honeymoon location.
2007-11-21 02:11:47 · answer #8 · answered by ill_be_phd 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope, if she wants to get married then, that is her decision. Now if she did that on purpose then that would be wrong. If she did that on the same DAY as yours that would not be cool.
I would either not go to her wedding or start your honeymoon later.
2007-11-21 05:30:47 · answer #9 · answered by Amanda Y 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are a ton of things we don't know. Like, who planned whose first, and why.
Don't sweat it. Just get married, go on your honeymoon and if you are back in time, you can go to her wedding. You don't really want to cut your honeymoon short, I know you don't.
It is what it is.
2007-11-21 01:17:58 · answer #10 · answered by danashelchan 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋