I have been working with this stupid guy for 4 months.. and ive never met someone so evil!! He always picks on my mistakes, gets moody and grumpy, doesnt teach me the work, and makes my life hell at work.. what shall i do?
2007-11-20 22:24:52 · 25 answers · asked by ME 3 in Health ➔ Mental Health
i got really worked up by reading all your comments.. so i confronted him.. and instead he told my to shut up and do my job.. and then i just punched him in the face.. and he's got a nose bleed now... what shall i do now?????
2007-11-20 23:15:57 · update #1
Tell him if he doesn't lay off, you'll knock his head off his shoulders and leave him smoking his own d..k.
2007-11-20 23:12:19 · answer #1 · answered by Thrasymachus 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well punching him so he gets a nose bleed is not exactly professional. That is physical assault and now you have something against you if you report his bullying. This was a bad decision to make. You should still talk to the person in power your superviser or boss. Be honest about how you treate him in defense and say that you lost your temper and admit it was an unprofessional approach. As other people have mentioned keep a note of what he has said or done to you so that you have a lot of back-up. If you get nothing out of this, is this job really what you want? Do you really want to work in a place where respect is not promoted? If this is not resolved after consulting your boss or other suitable person or private work related dispute agency then you need to maybe look for another job.
2007-11-21 07:25:36 · answer #2 · answered by ♪ Rachel ♫ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kind of depends on your work environment. Have you actually said to this guy that his over critical nature is affecting you? You may find he doesn't even realise.
Failing that speak to your superior about your colleague's behaviour, it's actually their problem anyway not yours. Make a note of examples before your go and see them so that your not left sitting saying, "well I can't think of anything right now", or you'll lose all credibility. If this guy has been there a while, chances are he'll have a history of upsetting co-workers and you may find your/his boss quite sympathetic.
Again, this isn't your problem, it's your bosses problem and it should be this other guy's problem. You're there to do a job.
It's not easy, but stand up for yourself - but keep it professional, ie. don't just punch him on the nose, no one else will do it for you. While you just sit there and try to cope with it, everyone else will assume your okay with it.
And if none of this suits your work environment, then move on. I'm sure there's plenty of jobs where you won't have to put up with this sort of thing. Life's too short.
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Following your extra info it sound's to me like you need to make up another question for YA. Jeez.
2007-11-21 06:35:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've had the same problem. Just try and rise above it and don't let him know he's getting to you. Is he above, the same or below you. Report him to your boss. The guy that was troubling me was jealous of me and when i talked to other people about him i found it wasn't just me he was having a problem with, that made it feel a bit better. Although believe me i felt like kicking his head in after work.
Another strategy i tried which worked well was to completely ignore him. That way you don't give him any of your energy and it can throw him, that is get him confused. You may find he becomes more pleasant when he finds he's being left out of your normal, light hearted banter with other staff members. Above all, don't reward his behaviour by trying harder to get on with him, this will make him worse and you frustrated.
2007-11-21 06:32:20 · answer #4 · answered by smudgeuk9 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a common work place issue. Bullying is wrong and should be dealt with.
Without knowing the how your workplace operates I would suggest at first speaking to your line manager. If this doesn't work escalate it further up the chain of command.
If this doesn't work then speak to your local CAB.
However I would suggest making a diary of everything that you feel is a bullying.
Good Luck.
2007-11-21 06:35:21 · answer #5 · answered by Devils advocate 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is not pleasant but the solution is simple.
To begin with you need to keep a record of exact incidents that take place - time date etc. That way you can refer to them at a later date. If you do not do this it is simply your word against his.
Confront him with your views and ask for him to be more supportive.
If this fails then go to your own HR department and explain the problem and show them your record of the incidents and how it is affecting you. In law they must have a grievance procedure to follow. Normally a quiet word from HR to the person is enough to make them stop
2007-11-21 06:31:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take action immediately. Don't let the situation fester. I let a situation like this go on for years before I finally took action. Workplace bullies are particularly disturbing because they are (supposed) adults. The guy bullying me was 50! Start by contacting your immediate supervisor, and if necessary, the human resources department by email -- in other words, ALWAYS in writing. Document everything! Ask other coworkers if they have had the same experiences with the bully. You have the right not to be bullied.
2007-11-21 06:30:54 · answer #7 · answered by Taiwan90851 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Find another work mate who can assist u in ur work. And the best thing what u can do is ask him for a dinner or lunch (as long he is not ur boss) talk and discuss with him or ask him is he really hate u or what . Or what's wrong with u that give him not like u . If cannot settle maybe u can find another job.
2007-11-21 06:30:39 · answer #8 · answered by Sherlley 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Best way is to confront him and ask him "Has he got a problem with you" because you certainly have one with him. Main thing here is not let him see he is getting to you as he will only carry on. Have a face to face. If that don't work then go to your Foreman/Supervisor.
Stand up to him..
Best of luck
2007-11-21 06:44:41 · answer #9 · answered by Best of British 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Confront him about it or things will never improve. He can't treat you badly about the mistakes if you haven't been trained to do the job properly. You can only be bullied if you let someone do it. Speak with him immediately.
2007-11-21 06:41:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have a boss to go to or union or HR. If you do go to them and explain.
Dont become a victim, you must do something about this guy if you feel this way.
Obviously it is two-way thing, as far as,
he will have to given an account of what is going on as well so he can have his say, which is only fair. Take action today, dont just sit on your **** wining!
2007-11-21 06:45:15 · answer #11 · answered by shafter 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋