My son is being bullied at school and the teachers don't care. Do you think evolution is going to bypass him?
2007-11-20 20:49:56 · 20 answers · asked by Mutations Killed Darwin Fish 7 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I meant "bullying" of course.
2007-11-20 20:51:37 · update #1
survival of the fittest?.... just because of strength and size and nasty demeanor?... nope.... rather, the one who has the good sense to avoid, handle, or otherwise see to the removal of the problem is the one that will survive..... when your son gets smart enuff to take out the dumb bully, he'll win..... my son had a bully giving him grief in first grade until he used his lunchbox to bash the bully's head with..... then they became buddies....!!!????..... give your kid the okay to defend himself... and stand with him if he does!!!!... that's YOUR job!...
2007-11-20 21:01:27 · answer #1 · answered by meanolmaw 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well, if evolution has or hasn't, it's done already... evolution has to do with spans of time over generations... unless his being bullied means he never reproduces.
In any case, to the point of the question: I think the "fittest" in our society is no longer the most big and brutish, but rather those who have the capacity for intelligence, charisma, perseverence, and so forth. Back in the day, I was bullied for years in school, and I can confidently say I'll be the one succeeding, and have been... while I'm sure some of those bullies have not, nor ever will, go anywhere. Unfortunately, they may still reproduce...
In any case, tell him to keep being himself and to do what he wants to do-- things will get better, and school doesn't last forever. It's hard to hear at that age, I know, but it can be some helpful perspective.
Incidentally, there are so many things affecting us, human beings, as conscious, intelligent, free-will-posessing creatures, that evolution is only one among many. His success in life will be far more affected by his ambition, self-awareness, and the other things I mentioned before than by evolution.
2007-11-20 21:04:28 · answer #2 · answered by Chris S 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Animal behaviours are very varied and do include bullying and also caring for other animals. Survival of the fittest is a crude way of describing evolution.
Just because it's natural doesn't mean we have to do. After all we don't poo in the woods any more. Anyway the natural reaction of a mammal mother would be to beat the crap out of anyone who touched her babies. So unless you are a crocodile it's not right to leave him to be toughened up.
Having said that; Culture overrides nature every time and some of the bullying we see now is definitely not natural, but arises from the extremely unpleasant family cultures that now exist. Some children are being damaged by completely unsatisfactory parenting.
So go for it support your son/daughter. Nature will care for evolution.
2007-11-20 21:04:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
No bullies actually bully because they either come from homes with abuse, or have other problems i.e. learning disabilities, mental problems. Bullies are usually children and adults with very low self esteem. You need to have a good talk with some one at his school about this. He does not deserve to have to worry about going to school because of bullies. Survival of the fittest does not apply. And teaching your son to fight back or become a bully will only make things worse for him.
Kali :-)
Child Psychologist
2007-11-20 20:56:01 · answer #4 · answered by Kali_girl825 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yeah buddy you are right ...this is concerned with survival of the fittest. While animals have only one definition of fitness that is in physical strength humans are more complex sort. In ur son's case fitness may mean academic performance, sports, intelligence, creativity, maturity, etc . Somewhere in this list physical strength also comes but beleive me courage stands above muscle. Courage is strength.
In your case I would advice you to discuss the affair to your son and encourage him to face the bullies. Beleive me it is not that difficult. Most( if not everyone ) have certain fears and let your son find out what does the bully fear the most. Well, they say....U can learn what your enemy fears the most by observing the means he uses to frighten you.
U may also approach the school authorities but I think a straight fight back, even if difficult initially, will give him necessary courage to later face life at it's face value.
Also plz find time to post what u did finally....TC
2007-11-20 21:15:18 · answer #5 · answered by aaruni u 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's a great question, I think it does have something to do with survival of the fittest, at least in situations where civilization isn't paramount.
I'll say this though, I don't think this issue can be properly addressed in R&S, I think religious discussion is relatively irrelevent regardless of your belief. You, and your son need to address this issue properly, i.e. you take drastic action, confront the principal.
2007-11-20 21:03:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, survival of the fittest also includes intelligence. We as humans are much better at surviving with our intelligence, then with strength. It is the bully who is going to be bypassed when he finds out that our evolved humanistic society will not allow him to do such.
2007-11-20 21:00:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Bullying is about exploitation of the weak and NOT survival of the fittest
2007-11-20 20:56:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Survival of the fittest? I think that does apply here and you need to teach your son to kick some ****! When he beats them, they should back down. I think karate lessons maybe would be good.
2007-11-20 20:53:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
The only BULL in my school was Miss Anderson, the biology teacher.
2007-11-20 20:52:32 · answer #10 · answered by bbcranks 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋