The thing is I see loads of pretty girls on the streets. I know how pretty a girl can be and therefore I feel like I need to be with somebody that its attractive. Unfortunately I am not too pretty myself and I always end up with girls that are not attractive. I know I need to be more open when it comes to a girls physical appearance but I can't help it to look for a pretty face.
2007-11-20 19:23:38 · 22 answers · asked by Matt 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well maybe 1st u shud try to focus less on how pretty a girl looks
I know its hard because tendencies ofcourse always go towards who grabs ur attention but what is it that u look for the most...? a beautiful face? or a beautiful personality?
The girls will come and to tell u the truth... what u need is to fall in love because when u do is when there is no one else better than that girl cuz u will be enchanted with the person more than the physical appearance. I'm not saying: stay with her even if shes Very ugly cuz when u fall in love it goes by this order: u find she has a great personality and at least could be
a possible check mark on not being discusted by her, then u notice she becomes more attractive at the same time u want to become a better person to want her to like u back ofcourse. She may not be the prettiest but Jux wait... wait for the moment u talk w/ a girl u prob dont think of as the girl u want to ask out. I could be slightly wron cuz u could go for the pretty girl and coincidently she'll like u back but that will only happen cuz there will be a click with the personalities more than anything and THAT is what makes the girl so ATTRACTIVE ^_^
hope i helped sum ^_^
2007-11-20 19:36:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
At least you recognise that you are being slightly superficial.
From what I've read, all men are wired to be attracted to and want to be with pretty girls. It's not your fault, you were made like that.
Perhaps you could work a bit on yourself - go to the gym, eat healthy, wear some nice clothes. Girls can also be judgemental about looks so if you improve yourself a bit, you'll improve your chances.
But, you can't force yourself to be attracted to someone you're not. I don't suggest you try to date girls you are not attracted to as this is hard on yourself and the girl.
I hope one day someone comes along and there is a mutual attraction between you both.
I don't think humans can physically force themselves to be with someone they are not attracted to - what a horrible thing to do to yourself.
The only other thing (and don't do this) is to become an alcoholic so you have permanent beer goggles and every girl looks attractive.
It's a shallow world, that's why I torture myself at the gym hehe.
2007-11-20 19:32:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with looking at and acknowledging attractiveness. However, if you make your decision to pursue a relationship based upon looks alone, then it shows you are quite shallow. Sure, looks are the first thing someone notices, and everyone would rather associate with someone more attractive than not, but a person is a person...which means they are all different. You have to actually get to know them in order to figure anything out. I have known plenty of considerably attractive people who have a horrible personality, whereas I have known plenty of not so attractive people who have wonderful personalities. Just talk with people on a friend basis, no matter what they look like, and you will have no problem.
2007-11-20 19:29:13 · answer #3 · answered by zanilth1984 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Atleast you notice the face first, well why not clean yourself up a bit too? It's not a one way street. I see nothing wrong with being physically attracted to a girl when you first start dating. A lot of girls want to hear about their personalities etc etc, but if you were to tell her she wasn't that attractive though she would be really hurt. Women are kind of vain, but it's a healthy way. It's a woman's rooted biology to want to be the most attractive woman to his man for the sake of mating and keeping the mate to raise the child.
2007-11-20 19:28:23 · answer #4 · answered by Konjo Nashi Pirate™ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are very wise to recognize this. Cause after you've been married awhile, no matter how pretty she is, her looks may begin to fade or her figure may not be so hott after being pregnant.
All girls love it when the guy probes deeper to go beyond the physical appearance and get to know the REAL person inside. I'll bet you don't even know her favorite color, her favorite flavor of ice cream or dessert. What is her favorite TV show or movie? Her favorite pet? Does she even like pets? What is her hobby? It is very, very rare to find a guy who will delve that deep into getting acquainted with a girl.
2007-11-20 19:31:48 · answer #5 · answered by wildflower 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take your head out of your a s s. Love someone for WHO they are not what they look like. Just imagine a pretty girl with a horrible attitude getting into a horribly disfiguring accident. What's left to love after the beauty is gone?
2007-11-20 19:28:47 · answer #6 · answered by Kels 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would try getting to know an athlete. These girls are also attractive, but they aren't concentrating as much on their looks and on their clothes, but on their sports. They are too busy training.
I was an athlete, and I didn't have time to worry about make-up, shopping, and giggling with my friends, but I was also interested in boys.
So, please try hanging around the track, the tennis court, etc., and see what nice and attractive girls there are to meet.
Good luck!
2007-11-20 19:33:25 · answer #7 · answered by Ladyhawke 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your always going to be attracted to attractive people and that doesn't mean you should stop. But when you get the chance to actually talk or get to know one of them, you'll know if they're worth keeping around.
2007-11-20 19:27:44 · answer #8 · answered by Jem 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
aw. no offence but not all pretty girls are nice. um i go to an all girl school and i can see how catty they can be. my friends and i think the nicer somebdy is then the prettier we see them. take for example a girl is very mean to you, i would see them as not as pretty as one of my friends!
just think about the things you like about her and why you like to be with her, there is no point being with a gorgeous person and their personality being one of a monster.
2007-11-20 19:29:16 · answer #9 · answered by jessicalovestheocean 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chat em up. Pretty girls love funny, outgoing guys. Be athletic and fun. Just be cool. Good luck!
2007-11-20 19:27:57 · answer #10 · answered by joey5 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋