My sister and niece started some chaos with me and got my mother involved in it saying untrue things that I supposedly said and I didn't. My mother was upset and confronted me about it and began yelling at me and I had to hang up the phone on her and we didn't speak for a few weeks. Well now my mother knows that I didn't say what they implicated that was said by myself and she is now talking to me. However, my sister and niece are still acting like they are high and mighty and better than me and have always treated me in this manner. I don't want to be around them and I don't want there to be any problems at my mother's home during the holiday. My sister cannot leave things alone and I know she will say something smart and I have had it with her and my other sisters with the way they act because they married into money and thing they are better than everyone else; should I stay away or should I go and hope that nothing will be said to start any problem.
2007-11-20 19:12:00 · 12 answers · asked by Gypsy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I couldn't be bothered being around them myself I were you. Families are sometimes very mean and just because we are blood related doesn't mean we have to put up with the crap.
2007-11-20 19:23:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi Gypsy... have you asked your Mother how she felt about having you and the sister/niece together for Thanksgiving? There really is no easy answer to difficult family relationships. Sometimes even the best behaved of families find getting along difficult around the holidays. There is so much expectation for so many people to have "the Perfect Thanksgiving" that the important things like sharing time with the people that mean the most to you are lost. And if Mom tells you that she wants you to be there then you are expected to be on your best behavior in respect of your Mother's wishes. That said, if you feel that this is a situation that makes you think that playing on train tracks would be more fun, then be gracious. You might decline the invitation, stating that, unfortunately, you have other plans this year but look forward to getting together soon. Then find someplace to be, and don't pout. Being respectful of another's feelings and taking the most mature approach may not always be easy but avoiding all of the problems that could occur when people in conflict are forced together should be a no-brainer. Good luck.
2007-11-20 19:29:17 · answer #2 · answered by Debra W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can handle being away from mom for the holidays, then I'd suggest making arrangements with a friend or another relative to go n' celebrate with them. OR you can do what I would do and show up at your mother's since I'm sure she probably wants you there, and you can ignore your sister and niece. Don't buy into their bs. Let them be hateful or however childish they wanna be. You'll burn their a.s.s.es more by showing up, having a GREAT time and ignoring them. You're only letting them win by not being around them. I have a big family and I've had issues similar to yours happen. I REFUSED to allow someone else make me feel unwelcome in my own mother's house. The only way a problem will arise is if YOU let it happen. Let them run their mouths and when they do you can either ignore them as if they don't exist, or you can ask them to grow up and have some respect for your mother's house. I did that with my older sister and she ended up leaving and slamming the door on her way out. I win!
Good luck sister!
2007-11-20 19:18:41 · answer #3 · answered by grneyedgrly 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This situation is precisely when one should use the ol' phrase 'kill'em w/ kindness'! Go, alittle early, help your mom with the meal, be polite to the vixens, then leave early if they are hateful. But never let them dictate your mood nor manner. Only you have control over your thoughts, feelings, and emotions. This is harder said than done but believe me I've learned it the hard way, too. They can't make you mad, pissed, upset, etc...etc...etc... ONLY YOU CAN!!!
So take the high road but don't act like. GB & HT - Happy Thanksgiving!!!
2007-11-20 19:19:02 · answer #4 · answered by Maxbps 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would advice you go for thanksgiving at your mum's, your sister cannot come between you and your mum, thanksgiving day is a special day for family's and it is best you don't allow anybody spoil that day for you, my advice is that if your sister starts to behave in an immature manner you know what ? silence is golden, through silence you must have shown her you are more matured than her.
Secondly, you said she or her husband is rich and as such she is proud, and feel you are not all that, money is not all that brings fulfillment in life you might be rich and not be fulfilled in life it is best to pursue what will bring fulfillment to you through that riches will come.
2007-11-20 19:33:29 · answer #5 · answered by greatest 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It might be a good idea to stay away this year because the problems are so recent and because of your suspicions about your sisters and the way they might act.
2007-11-20 19:16:14 · answer #6 · answered by lupin_1375 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If I were in your shoes, I would have boycotted the family event. I'll see my mom on another day when my sister isnt there to cause chaos.
2007-11-20 19:14:56 · answer #7 · answered by lauren_loves_cats 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Everyone should be together on this day ... just don't talk about the negitive issuses (lets face it no family is perfect ) focus on positive no one wants to hear the negtive it only brings problems
2007-11-20 19:16:06 · answer #8 · answered by Prettyglitter 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
what ever make you feel comfortable and not them.
At the end of the day, who will be happy, you or them?
My mantra........stay away from negative people, as much as you can.
Then there's always a Great excuse like "Something suddenly came up!"
2007-11-20 19:17:00 · answer #9 · answered by WICCA RN 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Call your mom and tell her how you feel. Ask that you and she get together on another day.
2007-11-20 19:31:24 · answer #10 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋