The baby's dad dumped me the very MOMENT i told him i was pregnant, he also demanded an abortion. i didnt get an abortion so i went through the pregnancy alone , supporting myself, i called him from the hopstail, he didnt come to see the baby. i even took the baby over there he wouldn't even look @ her. I am pursuing child support, and now he is requesting a paternity test. its absolutely ridiculous becuase he already admitted he knmows hes the father, it was never in disupste, he knows i dont sleep around. Anyways, im worried he is not a good guy to have around the baby. he is 30 years old, has mentla problems and is obsessed with mary kate and ashely and hialry duff movies. his dad is also very strange. I could use the child support money becuase im broke and single BUT i dont know that its worth it to RISK him filing for custody or visits, and my daugheter might have to spend time alone with him - it scares me. shuld i just go on our way and not go for child support?
2007-11-20 19:04:49 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I'm mainly afraid he wil go for custody just to mess w/ me for filing child suport. do u think he has a chance of getting her?
2007-11-20 19:05:21 · update #1
I'm mainly afraid he wil go for custody just to mess w/ me for filing child suport. do u think he has a chance of getting her?
2007-11-20 19:05:22 · update #2
Some parents use the implied threat that they will go for custody so that you will not ask them to do what they should do: take responsibility for their child.
I do not know your specific circumstances but generally, unless you have a history of drug addiction, alcoholism, criminal activity or child abuse, he stands little chance of obtaining primary custody. However, unless he has similar behavior problems as listed, which you can prove to the judge, in which case he will probably receive supervised visits, you should expect the court to award him unsupervised visitation rights. These are more limited for an infant, usually day time visits every other weekend. In a few years, generally, one can expect an every other weekend and one day a week, every week, visitation schedule for the noncustodial parent beginning at around age 2 or 3. Visits with Dad, no matter what your feelings about him, are important for your child whether or not he is paying child support. Denial of visits, whether court ordered or not, will not look good for you in court if you ever do decide to file a custody/child support action in the future.
If he verbally or physically threatens you, you can file for a restraining order in your county's court( go to it's website for details) and still receive child support. If granted he will be ordered not to come near you or your child.
2007-11-20 19:26:24 · answer #1 · answered by fantagirl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Child support and custody are two different issues. Both have to be court ordered. Since your father was court ordered to pay child support to your mother, that's what he's doing. Since you mother was granted custody of you via another court order, you are living with her. If you want to live with your father, and your mother is not willing to allow you to do so, he would need to go back to court and petition that the original ruling giving your mother custody be overturned. In order for that to be successful, he would have to prove that living with your mother is a danger to your life and safety. So no, you saying you don't like your mom (as all children your age do sooner or later) is not going to make a judge overrule an existing custody order.
2016-04-05 01:25:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The courts might take the child from you for making the choice to reproduce with this man.
Think long and hard before you pursue any action against him. Your lifestyle will be questioned as well.
2007-11-21 01:59:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
nope he wont get custody at all, he has to file a court order against you for not being a fit mother and prove it for a turn over to custody to himself. it wont happen and its costly
he can still ask for a perternity test even though he knows he is the father and again will cost him money for asking for it.
i would get child support not becasuse your broke but for the childs rights.
child support and visitation are separate matters and are not obliged by eachtoher.
the court knows this
2007-11-20 20:23:43 · answer #4 · answered by dot 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I guess it depends on what kind of relationbship you and your ex will have for the next 18 years. I know my ex husband and I would never agree on anything, I did not want to go through the in and out of court thing with him for 18 years. We've done it a couple of times and it was too stressfull for me, the kids and him. Sometimes I think court & support is more painful then "not always having the money." He rarely helps out financially, but thats between him and the kids. So my answer is if you want to deal with the family law system go for it for the money, my advice? deal with it out of courts, you can also go through the DA and let them deal with him, but again- it will cause tension for you and the daddy. Its up to you.
2007-11-21 06:02:33 · answer #5 · answered by LO 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
OKAY READ MY LIPS, YOU AND YOUR CHILD ARE DUE SUPPORT, AND YOU BETTER GO GET IT. Okay, you went through the pregnancy by yourself, delivered by yourself, the one thing you needed from him (sperm), he provided, now get the financial support. I commend you for being strong, so stay strong take that Ashely, Kate and Hilary duff digging behind to court, and as to the custody issue, you can't watch Ashely, Kate and Hilary with a baby on your hip, he won't even think in that regard. Yes, go on your way, but get your child support. I pray the best for you and your babygirl, it will be okay. God Bless.
2007-11-20 22:32:18 · answer #6 · answered by Bethy4 6 · 2⤊ 2⤋
If you made a baby with this guy then he has as much right to see her as you do. He also has as much responsibility to support her as you do. It's a two way street on both issues.
I feel sorry for the kid here...
2007-11-24 18:57:30 · answer #7 · answered by J D 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes if he is not providing for the child and you know the your child is his than you need to do what you have to do
2007-11-21 02:25:06 · answer #8 · answered by Nika 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That guys has problems.
Why were you even with him,
that's sick.
If I could make it on my own I would.
Visitation scared me, and he would get it.
2007-11-20 19:23:38 · answer #9 · answered by elliebear 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hell Yeah!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-11-20 20:46:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋