I am a single, straight, 28 year old male. I am decent looking, have a good personality, job and education. I didn't have a party mentality in high school or college, so I pretty much missed those opportunities to meet someone significant. I have gone on maybe two dates in my entire life (when I was 23) and to be honest, I am debating whether or not they can even be considered dates. I have not even experienced my first kiss let alone a girlfriend. I have put much focus on my education and my career, so dating/relationships were put on hold as no major successes had been achieved. I was wondering if getting back into the game is a good idea, or if I should wait until I am a little more financially secure with my own place. I currently live with my parents and other adult siblings and I do in fact love being around my family and of course having very few bills. This I believe is hurting my date-ability as many girls my age are overcome with jealousy regarding this.
2007-11-20 19:02:36 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Not only do girls claim to be turned off, but they mock the fact that I choose to live at home. When I start talking to girls they get too deep very quickly. I guess that just may be how people are these days. My views regarding no sex before marriage or sharing hotel rooms for vacations before marriage and things of that nature really shock them. I am religious, but not ultra-religious, yet I am deemed an extremist in these respects. Aside from those isolated experiences, I must admit that I don't have any female friends nor have any dating prospects lined up...not one. My friends are in the same boat as me, with 90% of them also never having girlfriends. The older I get the harder it gets to meet nice eligible ladies. LOL, should I just focus on my career and education or should I venture into the world of dating again?
2007-11-20 19:02:52 · update #1
No, I was determined to find him at your age and THAT was the failure only I did not find this out until 2 children later and after all of our money was gone. Take your time. You are worth it :)
2007-11-20 19:10:23 · answer #1 · answered by fantagirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm on the same boat. It was somewhat a relief to read this :). I live at home cos I needed my parents' support in something I was doing. I also felt no real rush to move out----less bills, more savings, etc. Work really got me down and so I kept to myself most of the time and just hung out with friends I already had, not bothering to meet new people. A few years later, I realised what I had done, not being receptive/open. My friends find partners and I realise the last guy I was with was before my work. So I joined a group for after work activities that included both men as well as women. This let me socialise with new people outside my circle. Gave me a chance to be open and receptive and interested again (perving, flirting or just being friendly). Not much has happened yet. I get a few winks and some rejection, but at least I'm socialising again and I've gained new friends I would keep for life.
You should join a group you're interested in doing weekly, with both men/women, and if they're not interested in you, maybe they know someone who is.
2007-11-21 06:42:40 · answer #2 · answered by gardanar 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 23 but I feel the same way. I know I'm young, but I can understand your situation. I have also been there and still am there. I live with my folks unfortunately as well. You sound like my brother, he's 28 and in the same boat! hopefully, you aren't who I think you are! Anyways, I don't like being thumbed down, but for some reason no one likes my answers! I do hope that this would be an answer you would consider for best or to thumbs up! I don't think you should give up. I mean I know you feel hopeless but maybe through your work you could meet people and from those people you could meet others too! I also have tried internet dating if you haven't tried it you should! I'm only on my second day but we'll see how it goes. As one person has told me before on here.."this isn't a dating site" so this question, if you are looking for someone, this isn't the place to find it. :-)
2007-11-21 03:11:05 · answer #3 · answered by Suzy Suzee Sue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why can't u do both? do u have other single women in your church group or school? i'm sure you do!!! now, all you have to do is be honest and it's okay to be scared of rejection. we all are. there's a lot of people who are in your same situation. i'd love to ba able to live at home and not these bills. but patience will get u thru, and you'll meet the right woman. just keep your eye open and your heart.
2007-11-21 03:11:46 · answer #4 · answered by anjhib 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, whatever you want to do. If you want to go out and start dating, then you should. If you enjoy how things are right now, then why change?
2007-11-21 03:09:31 · answer #5 · answered by Kyle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have the same problem. Maybe it's because we don't get out at all.
2007-11-21 03:08:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋