How to tell my parents it's a straight NO to religion?

Question

My family is kinda messed up. My mum's muslim and my dad's christian. Dont ask me how they get along when it comes to religion. However it's pretty much messed up.They both never have been religious till recently due to some circumstance. I'm an atheist and now they keep tryna force me into their own religions, and really they're pretty much brainwash. Muslim is pretty much a force religion, and christian is super super persistent they drive you crazy. So help me pleaseeeeeee. They keep thinking i'll be evil without a religion, which i probably will be if they keep stuffing their religions down my throat. So what do i doooooooo.. ?i will NEVER EVER EVER choose islam or christianity.Over my dead body.

Thank you.=) I'm 16. And sorry i didn't mean sound rude but it was getting kinda frustrating.

And dont get me wrong. I love my parents. I just dont believe in what they believe in. And the views they have on religion. Like how they believe that if you do not believe in god you will be condemned to hell or that you're evil.

They do get along ok but they've argued over religion before a few times. Some escalated some didn't, but my mum gives in most of the time.Honestly? My dad doesn't like muslims alot, always saying bad stuffs about them and all. My mum's not fond of christians either. Religion wasn't much of a problem then. But now when they're older and faced with circumstances, well, ya know, they turn to religion. And christians and muslims are the worst combi. ever.

Answer 1

Forget about it,you could never tell your parents no religion no matter what your personal beliefs are. Your parents are your parents and that never going to change. You must be the grown-up in this situation otherwise you never have peace with either of them. Yes I understand that never going to choose but you must never let them know that. Just simple say that this talk about either religion is confusing and that you must come to own conclusions without them adding stress about it. Let them know that it a very difficult decision because you love both of them and you cannot chose without hurting the other parent and you love them both. Tell them to trust that they did a good moral job in raising you and each are right and just lets co-exist without this constant nagging. That it hurting you inside that you cannot do it. And that you never be evil because you love and respect both of them. This way you stand up for yourself and keep peace too. Do not admit you are an atheist to rest of world yes but not to mum or dad. It hurt them it almost like saying you hate them. Just say you have not made up your mind even if you already have. It better to keep the peace for the sake of peace. I been there it not worth it to up set them. During the holidays just sit back and watch like always. When you decide to marry just do a civil thing at City Hall this way no churches for you.

Answer 2

If the situation is that bad , I would start preparing to get out of your house as soon as possible . Before they break you ! You can even get out on your own by the age of 16 if you can find a way to support yourself . There are places you can find some support help towards that if you need . Going to college away from home might be an option . In the meantime you might tell them you ar in a religious group that encourages private and silent meditation on the Jesus and Allah and you will discuss the results of your introspective jouney with them when you turn 18 years old . In the meantime use the time to study your homework and take a nap .Once you are 18 tell them "I am an adult and if you try to discuss religion with me anymore I will not come to visit you anymore .

Answer 3

Well, first off I want to say that there are other religions you can believe in besides those two. You seem kinda young, so do some research before you decide to fully be atheist. (And if you still don't find something you like, well, at least you can say you tried).

As for your parents, just sit them down and tell them exactly how you feel. I'm sure they'll still love you, and even though they may not approve, it would be better than lying to them.

Answer 4

Wow, well, you can take solace from the fact that you will probably become a very strong independent thinker. And that's a silver lining!
Maybe you could bring some literature of your own into the house: Richard Dawkins, Sam Harris, Michel Onfray-- stuff like that. Just leave it lying around. And you can read it at your liesure and know that you're trying to find your own way without appeasing anyone or being compelled by any external pressure.

It will make you stronger (because it won't kill you).

Answer 5

Well okay,

I believe in respect to your wishes that you really have to sit them down and explain yourself and your view points to them. Because usually religions is a very sensitive subject,, you also need to be specific in why you do not with to participate in their beliefs. That will apply to both parents.

So really spend time to give them a intelligent speech geared to each one. This will help them realize your not confused and you are mature in your thinking about your current choices.

As christian, i have found there are more professed Christians and churches that really do not follow the bible. If in the future you do consider a "religion" hopefully you actually read the bible and see its theme and real purpose.

Answer 6

Tough situation! I feel for you. Stay strong and try to remember that you are free to choose in what you believe, or don't believe in. If a muslim and a christian can marry, then how can they say you must have some sort of faith?

Answer 7

Wow, I feel sorry for you. But if they are opened minded enough to get along with each other, then they shouldn't have too much of a hard time opening their minds just a little further....

Answer 8

I don't know how old you are, which does have a bearing upon how you approach parents.
Either way, you can tell them that religion is a personal choice and not something that can you can be forced into adopting. it comes from a personal motivation and not an external one.
A calm approach must lead to a calm exchange and common-sense must surely prevail.

Answer 9

This I say and testify in The Lord , that ye henceforth walk not as other gentlies walk ,
in the vanity of their mind , having the understanding darkened , being alienated from
the life of God , through the ignorance in them , because of the blindness of their hearts

Answer 10

just tell them straight you are to convused and do not want to know either. I am christian and my expatyner is catholic my son although studying the bible said they to faiths convused him enough that he now says he is agnostic