Father trouble?

Question

Ok, my father has always been really hard on my about my school life. So the other day, after a severe mental breakdown, My mom took me in and i dropped my math class [ i was failing] and was demoted to another class next semester. During this whole time, i had a tutor. I forgot about my second meeting with the tutor, in which he chewed me out on harshly. Then, thinking tutoring was cancelled for the Thanksgiving holiday, i did not go tuesday as well. My father called to day and sounded like i was the biggest piece of s*** in the entire world. And on top of that i have to go to his house for Thanksgiving, AND i dont think the counselor EVER told him about the class drop like he said he would. i really really dont want to go see my dad, because every time i talk to him, i come home wanting to put a bullet through my brain. And a few times i almost did it to. What should i do??

oh and P.S. to whomever said to just try harder, I'm trying as hard as i can. Thats why i dropped the class. I was on the floor crying over it. I was so wound up they had to call my psychologist. Thank you anyway.

Answer 1

I would suggest talking to your dad about how you're feeling. If that's not an option (seeing how he seems to be acting like a huge jerk about certain things) then I'd try talking to your mom about why you don't want to be around your father. It's not easy when a parent makes you feel like crap. It really hurts. I dealt with a kid who had trouble in school and I'll admit I'd get really frustrated and angry with him but never made him feel like crap. I was always careful how I worded things so not to hurt his feelings or make him feel like it was an attack on him as a person. I really hope you find someone you can talk to that can either go with you to speak with your father, speak with him for you, or at least help you get a break from him. I'm sure he's frustrated with your school problems but he needs to learn to handle it better.

Answer 2

Try to tell your father how he makes you feel, Thanks giving would be the perfect time. Let him know that you are thankful for him and would be more thankful if he would listen to you and stop being so hard on you. You have a voice, now is te time to use it. You should be the one that tells him about the class you dropped also, start talking to him and be thankful that you have a Dad.........good luck...

Answer 3

Just know that when he gets mad at u he just wants the best for his daughter cuz he loves u be glad to have a parent that cares enough to get mad at u cuz they want the best for u dont kill ur self cuz he really does love u and wants the best for u dont try to hurt him by hurtting ur self ur worth more than that just start tryin a lil harder and remember he gets mad cuz he cares enough to want u to do better and have a great life

Answer 4

i know how hard it is with parents... especially dads like yours... my dad sounds pretty similar. don't let him get you down. being stressed and worrying only makes it worse. i know its easier said than done, but just brush it off. and if you really don't want to go over there for Thanksgiving, then don't. he can't force you. if you're not comfortable, then don't go. don't let him treat you like ****, speak up.

i feel your pain, good luck.

Answer 5

hey..he is ur dad........i know things quite didnt work out b\n u two...but it happens during that age..he will be bossy.i know..but when u come further..then u will realize how important he is to u...he will always be there no matter what.bcoz he is ur dad....dont come to any rash decisions so that u may regret it in future...

Answer 6

You are a kid...your ONLY responsibility in life is school...you should try to get it right.

Answer 7

Beg your mom not to make you go. Tell her how you feel.