2007-11-20 16:39:11 · 31 answers · asked by Rose 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If they said something negative, yes. But in a good relationship, you can talk about each other's differences in a positive light and not take it personally.
2007-11-20 16:42:23 · answer #1 · answered by lafemelle 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It would depend on whether it was just something blurted out in a fight..or if it is something they really believe.
Definitely, if you've ever cared for this person...ask them what they mean by it...some things are just misunderstandings or innocent ignorance... and others are just hateful.
To give you a couple of examples (I've never been a racist):
I was talking to a man I'd just met about an hour before and mentioned the word "colored" while describing the physical appearance of another person...I could tell it made him a little
angry..so I asked, "What did I say??" He explained to me that most people in his community hated that word..so I apologized about my ignorance...he accepted and we continued our friendly conversation. He knew I meant nothing by it and it was my age at the time speaking (21) and not hatefulness. I no longer use that word to describe physical appearance; because to do so now would be hateful.
You'll have to ask the to know for sure what they meant by it. They may be hateful or they may just be naive.
2007-11-21 00:54:43 · answer #2 · answered by Kenneth 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That depends on what they said. Was it derogatory, offensive, rude, or just plain mean? Were they serious or just tastelessly joking around? How did it make you feel? Were you honestly offended, or could you find their sense of humor (if they were trying to be funny) humorous?
If it were me...if they were serious, and appeared to be ignorant, racist, or close-minded, then I would end the relationship.
Chances are they were trying to be funny. If they really were racist toward your race, chances are they wouldn't be dating you! You do need to tell them you find their jokes about your race to be in poor taste, and not funny.
2007-11-21 00:51:47 · answer #3 · answered by Nonny0928 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
True feelings/love does not have race or see colors, I will not advice you to hitch a lift now, hold on...we think then we act. Is he that dumb that he does not know you...what makes you happy and what makes you smile. Is he mr.nice guy who is selfish and mean that he does not value how you feel about most simple hurting thing! If yes Next bus, hop in!He is not for you.If not Love him even more for he has more to learn on how to love you and how to make you happy!:D
2007-11-21 00:54:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Mayb because everytime if someone says something about my race..it hurts my feelings a lot..I always want to cry
2007-11-21 00:42:39 · answer #5 · answered by â?}-{annA]-[?? 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
well is it negative? Were they joking? My boyfriend is always calling me mexican even though Im puerto rican and cuban. It's a joke to us. He's white american and I'm what I am so the whole racial thing is just funny to us. If it's insulting to you, you should tell them and hopefully they won't do it again. But if they keep acting like blatant racists I wouldn't put up with it.
2007-11-21 00:51:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
It depends on what was said and its intentions, my bf always joke about my race andi joke about his but just being funny and not hurtful
2007-11-21 00:43:10 · answer #7 · answered by tuyet 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
well if they said it in a come or joking mannor than no just show them that you are disapointed so that they get the msg
but if the said it in a laghing or highly insulting you might want to but rethink and think on it I don't think you sound but it's up to you
2007-11-21 00:47:26 · answer #8 · answered by Shifter89 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i would normally say yes but it all depends on how much u love the person and what they said
2007-11-21 00:42:47 · answer #9 · answered by Rosie 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Depends on what they say. If it is offensive, then a definite yes.
2007-11-21 00:42:15 · answer #10 · answered by Uton 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋