Theyve burned all my books and have openly ridiculed me at church(they make me go i have no choice).I feel like theyre killing me.
2007-11-20 16:22:26 · 24 answers · asked by Laurdania 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I support your parents in this. If I had a child that was bringing books on witchcraft into my house we would be having a bit of a bonfire with those books. Your parents have a responsibility to look out for your well-being, this includes your spiritual well-being.
2007-11-20 16:30:08 · answer #1 · answered by arikinder 6 · 1⤊ 9⤋
Maybe you should talk to them about what Wiccans believe and make sure they realise we don't believe in the devil. As for your friends, you don't need to tell them at all, but if you do, be prepared to accept they have the right to make their own choices. You do not need to wear a pentacle necklace or any Pagan jewellery at all - that is not a requirement of being Pagan/Wiccan. You do not need to wear your religion in public, and it may be advisable not to if there is a risk of alienating your friends. I wear a pentacle ring because I simply do not care if people choose not to associate with me. Maybe that is an area where you can readily make a concession with your parents. As for rituals, talk through with them what they entail. You could offer to agree not to use the more dangerous tools like candles, incense and knives. And maybe they will let you practise. If not, you will have to obey.
2016-05-24 10:07:19 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know this is a weird response, but what a fantastic challenge! Sweetie, you are an amazingly strong soul, and you are stronger than their need to oppress you. I agree with the others saying just wait till you're 18, but I suggest you spend that time learning mind power and self-control, because without them, spellwork and journeying and everything else is impossible. First, spend some quiet time alone and meditate on you and your situation. Do this daily. Go find a sacred little corner outside if you can, maybe a tree in the backyard or a wild corner along a path, sit on Mother Earth, and soak up Her loving energies. Feel your spirit flying free, and your anger going away. Do it every single day. Get yourself a really good book on psychic shielding, maybe Christopher Pensczak's "The Witches Shield" (or just skim it at Borders, probably don't want your parents seeing you with it) and start practicing the exercises. Then when you're in church or doing whatever with your parents and you are feeling oppressed, you have a way to escape in your mind. Put up your shields, go wherever you want in your mind, and just put on a plastic face. I have a feeling what bothers you is that they mess with you on the psychic realm, and so if you are able to put up a shield, they won't be able to. And you'll be free to think whatever you like, wherever you are! Another suggestion: when you're in church, listen for the parts that are truly spiritual. Every religion has something. When my parents dragged me to Catholic church for Mass, I hated the stuff they said, but I loved the incense and the stained glass windows. I would stare at the windows, unfocus my eyes, and let the colors become a watercolor painting. Trust me: things will always be tough on this Path no matter how old you are or who is trying to control your life - your spouse, your boss, your kids, your mortgage, the list is endless. But if you can find that little bit of daily time for YOU, and ways of making things easier on YOU, the more powerful and more balanced you'll be. Drop me a note and let me know how you're doing! Bright blessings and big hugs!!!
2007-11-21 00:42:40 · answer #3 · answered by Brigid's Priestess MorningSt 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Although you may be a minor, and they seem to think that they are acting in your best interest *blech*, your parents' actions are entirely unacceptable. While they are allowed to techincally not allow you to follow a certain religion, burning your books and openly ridiculing you at church is not proper conduct in the slightest.
Try talking to them about 1st Ammendment Rights. If that doesn't pan out (which it probably won't, seeing the situation), talk to a teacher or something about it.
2007-11-20 16:31:54 · answer #4 · answered by ǝɔnɐs ǝɯosǝʍɐ Lazarus'd- DEI 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
well, you'll be an adult and out of their house sooner or later so just hang tough. you don't need books. early Earth worshipers didn't read books. they used symbols, yes but they didn't need a book bought from a new age bookstore to tell them how to be in connection to their planet and the deities they felt personified the elements they were grateful for and to.
ya know? this problem with your parents may be a hidden blessing. perhaps your books are gone because you're suppose to find a new way ... your own way without having the preconceived ideas of other witches and authors of pagan how-to manuals discoloring the clear vision that your own quest would reveal. begin at the beginning. go find a nature spot for yourself and be still there and try to feel/hear the voice of your own soul.
PS. it was wrong of your parents to burn your books and stand you up for ridicule. you'll find in life that ignorance and fear makes people say and do stupid and cruel things and it's the evolved soul who finds a way to forgive. find your center and be at peace. you'll be okay. you're stronger than you know.
2007-11-20 16:33:35 · answer #5 · answered by nebtet 6 · 6⤊ 1⤋
no offence but as far as not WANTING you to be wiccan, good for them and why would you want to be anyway?
as far as them publically ridiculing you that`s very wrong and a terrible example of being a christian! the bible says to raise a child in the way they should go and when they are old they will not depart from it! it also says children obey your parents in the Lord for this is right, honour your father and mother; which is the first COMMANDMENT with promise; that it may be well with you and you may live long on the earth.
eph. 6:1-3
2007-11-20 16:44:05 · answer #6 · answered by bill k 3 · 2⤊ 3⤋
Follow the rules they set for you until you turn 18. Then you can go about your life as you wish and no one can stop you and your decision to be a Wiccan. I know it may sound like a long time but trust me you will be old enough before you know it. Good luck and just do the right thing.
2007-11-20 16:28:08 · answer #7 · answered by sirdouglas527 5 · 6⤊ 2⤋
Okay burning your books especially if you paid for them yourself and openly ridiculing you is more than a bit excessive B U U U T why do you want to be Wiccan anyway and abandon the gift of Christs ' sacrifice for you?
Make a deal with your parents ... that they will not censor your choice of reading if you promise to FULLY explore Christian traditions first!
Are you Protestant or Catholic?
Read up on Christian mystical traditions and theology first!
Also is it possible your parents thought you were spending too much time reading about Wicca and not studying other subjects ?
And when you see you are Wiccan are you part of a coven or did you just read one of those "I wannabe a teenyuppiewitch DIY" books?
Real magical or mystical practise is NOT like Charmed!
At your age whatever that is you should be exploring a variety of traditions, Native, Christian, Buddhist, and also reading lots of poetry and SF&F and logic and science.
Dont fixate on one area or way!
Be an omnivorous reader ... for one thing if the parents see you with lots of library books they're less likely to notice the er dubious ones!
2007-11-20 16:41:03 · answer #8 · answered by J V 6 · 1⤊ 6⤋
As long as you are living in their house, you should respect their wishes.
When you become old enough to leave home, you will be able to pursue any religious tact you wish.
Of course, making fun of you in front of others isn't very mature of them, but try to see things from their point of view.
Your parent provide for your every need, so bear with them, love them and do your chores to prove that you are mature enough to hold your own opinions. But, be respectful.
Whatever you choose, continue learning, studying, and growing in your mind. And by all means, please keep your mind open to all possibilities.
2007-11-20 16:54:31 · answer #9 · answered by Nepetarias 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Sorry to hear that you feel that way and that you are not getting along with your parents. Have you discussed this with them or are you both just arguing instead of talking? Discussion would be the best thing to have.
2007-11-20 16:26:40 · answer #10 · answered by William D 5 · 8⤊ 0⤋
Your parents love you and believe they are doing the right thing and what is best for you, even if you disagree with them on this.
Since you're living at home, you'll have to abide by their rules for the time being, but when you move out and support yourself you will be able to live and believe as you please.
2007-11-20 16:37:24 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋