I am going to get engaged in 2 weeks time.I have been talking to this guy for the last 2 months.i like him n he also likes me... but there are times when we r totally bored with each other.we dont have anything to talk,.. in fact he sometimes tells that he wants to call if off... i dont know what is happening.not that we r in love with each other but we know we gonna get married.. but still there isnt any excitement or love in the air.... im confused as to what is wrong.. ths guy had a girlfriend with whom he broke up with.,.i dont know if hes comparing me n her.........i dont know is it just taht we need to know each other more to fall in love.. or is it that we r not meant 4 each other.............i am so confused......we run out of topics at time... y is it like this? i dont know what to do....... i cant understand what do people talk in their courtship period.we speak max 2-3 times a day...n that also not much.i dont know how to keep him happy?p;ssssss help
2007-11-20 16:14:59 · 9 answers · asked by chimpu 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You are getting engaged after knowing the guy for 2 months? I would ask why?
Normally people who get engaged know each other for a year or more. 2 Months is in my opinion way too soon.
In my experience people who are quick to get engaged have unrealistic expectations of marriage. They either think that they have to get married to the first person that they have any interest in, or they think that if they get married that it will change the person they marry into the perfect spouse.
Neither reason seems to make a good marriage.
My advice is to cut out the talk of marriage, use protection to prevent children, and wait a while to see if you guys really have something to work with relationship wise.
2007-11-20 16:27:14 · answer #1 · answered by cryptotich 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't talk because you don't know each other. Why would you want to marry someone you hardly know? Why settle for something that isn't what you want? Never settle for less than you deserve. There are tons of guys out there and one of them may just be the right guy for you. Don't be in such a hurry to get seriously involved with someone. You don't get engaged to someone you like and he likes you but you're bored with each other. You sound very young. Why not just enjoy life and date some different guys so that you have more time to mature and learn how to tell the boring ones to get lost. Marriage is very hard to keep together and you need a whole lot more to base it on. Slow down girl. . .
2007-11-21 00:21:35 · answer #2 · answered by towanda 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is your important time you have to think twice or thrice before making a finale decision. You are going to get engaged in a couple of week time so there is not enough time. Just ask him whether he is still stuck with his old g.f and what is your state of mind r u satisfied if not just consult with your elders what to do. may be its his fault because some guys is not talkative they don't disclose easily what they want to tell, lets hope he still love you. anyway its Ur decision all the best anyway.
2007-11-21 00:41:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are really confused. You really need to sit down alone with this one and really think about why you feel you have to keep him happy. that's his job. it sounds like you are heading towards a secure marriage but a boring one. if you say that you run out of things to say that is not a good start isn't the point of marriage sharing your thoughts, feelings and dreams with the other person. think about what you want out of the relationship. best of luck
2007-11-21 00:25:55 · answer #4 · answered by Holly Smith 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think you're ready to be engaged if u just started talking to him 2 months ago. You need to make sure that you love eachother and trust eachother 100%. If there is any doubt, then something is holding you back, and you need to figure out what that is. I would talk to him more and build up your relationship. Make sure you really think about what you're doing before you make any big decisions.
good luck! =]
2007-11-21 00:23:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay you guys are not ready for a relationship it sounds like. This is more of a friendship. Both of you really need to think this over.
2007-11-21 00:17:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems like there is just not much connection, and that happens. So I wouldn't plan on getting married anytime soon if i were you I'd wait it out...
2007-11-21 00:19:22 · answer #7 · answered by wanda b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whatever is happening between you two... is absolutely normal... do not suspect every thing around...
take care...
2007-11-21 00:31:28 · answer #8 · answered by Harish Jharia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give up your inhibitions or break off.
2007-11-21 00:32:43 · answer #9 · answered by love all 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋