I've met some people who were truly in love with their significant others until their paren'ts decided they shouldn't marry them because they didn't think he/she was good enough.
Is your family's opinion the first priority or would you fight for love and justice???
2007-11-20 15:34:19 · 40 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
My families opinion is very important to me. We are a close-knit family. I know beyond a shadow of a doubt they only want whats best for me. I would defiantly heed their warnings/advice, but in the end I have to make up my own mind. They can't make the choice for me, I have to do that...and have in times past, and luckily even when I've made decisions that they didn't support they've stood by me.
2007-11-20 15:43:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's always a tough decision to make when you're parents don't approve of your significant other and you really want to marry them. A family's opinion does matter, but then again, so does your own and your significant other. If your family dislikes that person for very bad reasons like there is an age difference or they are not the same race, then just do what you want to do. However, if your family doesn't like that person for a good reason, then it would be a good idea to think about what they say and make your decision. Yes, it's always good to include your family but it is your decision to make, not theirs.
2007-11-20 15:39:50 · answer #2 · answered by holy_moo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the reasons. If its something like race or religion tell your family they are being selfish. Dont let your families personal opinions affect your choice. At the end of the day im pretty sure its you that has to deal with this guy or girl not them.
2007-11-20 15:38:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If my parents didn't approve and I loved him and he loved me, I don't think my parents should have any say in what I do with my love life. It's my love life and not theirs. I'd just try to convince them that they were wrong about him or her, but usually my parents have good intuition from their experience so most of the time they make more "sense" and good judgment than me. When I was 19 and in college, this guy just came up to me and said that he liked me. We when on a date but good thing my mom was home at the time. I took him to meet my mom and she didn't like him. Nothing happend after that.
2007-11-20 15:38:58 · answer #4 · answered by Suzy Suzee Sue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Coming from my family, I'd take it as a good sign that he's a good person! How much do you trust your family and how well do they know you?
If they know you well enough to get you gifts that you absolutely love, or know you well enough to do things for you or say things to you that make you happy, then trust them on this, they probably can tell when someone is not good for you and have your best interests in mind.
If they don't get you gifts, or the ones they get you are things that you don't like, and they don't do things that make you happy, then they probably don't know you well enough to judge if he is suited for you or not.
2007-11-20 15:42:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My dad and my stepdad also hate my boyfriend for false allegations and made-up stories that they like to think up for some excuse for me to break up with him. I personally would fight for my relationship cuz I know him better than anyone. Of course its different if you're just starting to date someone and they tell you things that may or may not be true. All I can really say is to just confront him/her. Talking about things before acting on impulse is better 99% of the time
2007-11-20 15:42:16 · answer #6 · answered by Hgeilyak 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Question 1. Are you in love with him?
Question 2. Do you have a good, loving relationship with your parents?
Question 3. Does he love you?
Question 4. Is he a 'Bad boy type"?
Question 5. Is he good enough, and can he show that he is good enough?
Take all of these questions into consideration, and make your decision.
2007-11-20 15:41:21 · answer #7 · answered by chris s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on your relationship with your family. If you trust them, and you have a generally positive relationship with your parents, then you should listen to them. Remember that they are much more experienced in the ways of the world than you are. If, on the other hand, you aren't very close to them and they haven't done much for you, then just listen to what they say and use or ignore it as you see fit.
2007-11-20 15:37:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
True love only comes once, I would fight tooth and nail, and if it meant to loose my family so it be. I have to live with my husband for life, not my family.
Luckily I found my husband, his mom and I didn't hit it to well at first, but after 33 years, we get along fine.
2007-11-20 15:38:27 · answer #9 · answered by spiritwalker 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hold off on the marriage for a little bit. the family might see something you don't. time will help tell the truth. if all is still well in the future, and the family still doesn't approve, oh well. love conquers all.
2007-11-20 15:39:25 · answer #10 · answered by Johnnie C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋