my ex boyfriend really liked me while we were going out but i just didnt feel the same way. ive dated another guy that ireally liked since then and after he broke up with me i was really depressed. my first ex bf keeps asking if i wanna get back together with him and always tells me he loves me!! it makes things worse for me and i dont know how to tell him to stop it without being mean!
2007-11-20 15:33:05 · 17 answers · asked by Chola Kc 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You better take one of them and adjust yourself. You had 2 guys one by one and you broke up with both??? Life isn't that whatever your desire/expectaion will be fulfilled. Life is that something you will gain and something you will lose. Just balance it. you will find how much your life worth for you.
2007-11-20 15:39:42 · answer #1 · answered by Bluebird 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are going to have to be "mean" - or at least, what may seem "mean" to you. You have to be clear and firm if you want to get rid of this guy, no mixed messages. If you start to feel unsafe or like you are being stalked, consider a restraining order. Don't let yourself be talked into anything you don't want. It's a trap that will close in on you until you can't breathe. Don't go there. Take it from someone who knows.
2007-11-20 23:36:25 · answer #2 · answered by geminiwalker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had this exact same problem with my ex. He would always tell me he loved me, even a year after we broke up, and it made me uncomfortable because I didn't want to hurt him, but I didn't feel the same way.
It sucks to hear, but the best thing to do is to straight out tell him. Meet him somewhere public (I'd suggest someplace with food) and tell him right out that although you think it's sweet he still feels things for you, that you appreciate his feelings and value his friendship, you simply don't feel like that toward him. Be gentle. Let him know you still value him, but don't want to date him, and that the more he asks the more awkward you feel around him. If he really loves you and wants to be around you, he'll shut up.
It'll be rough, but it's just got to be done. Good luck!
2007-11-20 23:38:22 · answer #3 · answered by Ai-chan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes, it is best to just say it out right. They will understand the direct talk a lot better than if you just "hint" around that you are not interested. There is nothing wrong with telling him, "I do not want to get back together with you. Our past is over, I do not want a future with you. Don't you want someone who really does want you?"
Tell him that you cannot be friends with him if he keeps this persistence up. You will no longer answer his calls and you won't talk to him either.
I am sorry about your break up.
2007-11-20 23:38:31 · answer #4 · answered by Stephanie F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't know how to tell the chap without being mean it's pretty clear you're gonna have to be mean... or just continue to hide, then you might become a ninja... actually, on second thought, go with the latter. Being a ninja far outweighs anything else.
2007-11-20 23:37:05 · answer #5 · answered by ruthaford_jive 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a similar situation. I resolved it by saying goodbye to that person and ignoring them. You don't have to be mean, but you really should be honest. After doing so you can walk away with no regrets. If he keeps bugging you after you cut him off, tell him you will take legal action.
2007-11-20 23:42:59 · answer #6 · answered by mr cheesy poof 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont let him keep bugging you. Stop him now or it will only get worse. Sometimes you just have to be a little mean to get your point across to guys.
2007-11-20 23:37:19 · answer #7 · answered by Jen 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't have feelings for him...thats just that and its not something you can help. Just tell him that in a nice way, stay calm, don't raise your voice or get emotional. Say what you need to say and leave it at that.
2007-11-20 23:39:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just meet him someplace in a vary public crowded restaurant or mall. look him into the eyes, turn around back up against him and fart really loud. that should give him a good clue what your true feelings are without you ever having to say a word
2007-11-20 23:37:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
stop being a simp and tell him! geez thaz the problem wit yall yall always hold back making are hopes get up tell him how u feel u dnt like him any way right? u dnt care for him right? well tell him da truth! the truth will set u free!
2007-11-20 23:36:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋