I am 25 and I consider myself a very attractive female. But the only guys who seem to want me are the unattractive guys. And when I do find someone I like, he doesn't stay around long. I keep thinking is it me, but my friends say Im just to picky and I need to lower my standards. I can't help that I like physical fit men, who are educated and who don't have kids. I am starting to feel as if I going to be single forever. And I am so tired of men asking why is a beautiful woman like me single.
2007-11-20 15:28:46 · 23 answers · asked by Mesosweet 2 in Travel ➔ Italy ➔ Bologna
If all you're looking at is the physical and not their character, then you will continue to date jerks. There are attractive men of quality and character out there.
you shouldn't have to lower your standards, but you should re-evaluate what your standards are or add more standards to your list.
2007-11-20 15:37:02 · answer #1 · answered by Invisigoth 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My grandmother, after her husband died, always said she would not settle for a man not in her age range, a christian, a non-smoker/non-drinker, and had a successful career. Everyone was saying that she was being too picky, but sure enough she found what she was looking for.
My point is don't lower your standard, but also don't use it as a sole reason to disqualify someone either. For example, maybe a man doesn't have a formal education but is smart and successful and has no kids and is fit, then in that case you might be a little picky if you rejected him on that alone.
2007-11-20 23:34:32 · answer #2 · answered by Myself432943 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
don't you dare what you have to do is try not being so pretty most guy's are scared off if a girl is to pretty except for the pom pus assholes and the nerds you have to try and look more average and you should put your shelf in the drivers seat if you find a man you want ask him out you are 25 you will find Mr right but don't you dare just settle for someone that you wont be happy with all we have is one life here you should at least be happy good luck you are a very smart girl to make it this far do not lower your standard now you are only 25 and there are a lot of good men that are your age so just keep looking
2007-11-20 23:43:03 · answer #3 · answered by furface 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I saw your question and i giggled to myself. My friends and even my family ( yes my family ) say im picky and standoffish... I have Mr. Right pictured in my mind too. I have lowered my standards a little due to moving and just moving on with my life differently ( college, new job,etc..) means new me! I would just let fate take you...you are bound to run into a guy that you think is just Mr. Right Now, but he might turn into Mr.Right. Just remember that Mr. Right is out there, but he may not be looking for you ( men are stupid haha ). Alot of people figure out that the image they have in their mind is just something holding them back from a person that loves them sooo much...once that image is gone... it will come easier. Just dont try so hard.
Good Luck :D
2007-11-20 23:35:01 · answer #4 · answered by YEP THAT'S ME.. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel the same way.
I dont know if the right man just hasnt come around, or if I'm just too picky.
I think I have fine standards, just the people below my standards are the only ones that seem to like me.
And its making me start to feel that I shouldnt be as shallow as I am.
But I cant attract myself to a guy, that when I see him it dosent send shivers down my spine or make me have to fight the urge to jump his bones right there. XD
2007-11-20 23:32:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should never lower your standards.
Be open to receiving love from someone, and you will find someone within your standards willing to give it.
I will tell you this, don't judge the book by its cover -- maybe one of those "fixer upper" guys is perfect for you, he just needs a little bit of time in the gym and a haircut.
Anyway... good luck.
2007-11-20 23:34:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im not quite 25 but my freinds tell me to lower my standards alot also. I dont think you should. Dont ever settle for what you dont want. Lowering your standards is almost like telling yourself your not good enough. Get the type of man you want and dont settle for less
2007-11-20 23:35:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girl, you dont need to lower your standards.. You are fine.. Its probable the fact that you are attractive and physically fit makes guys hesitate.. Don't you worry .. you will meet the perfect dude
2007-11-20 23:33:32 · answer #8 · answered by John 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think you should lower her standards because women these days do for men way too much!!! First of all though if he has children look into it ya know people do make mistakes.
2007-11-20 23:34:52 · answer #9 · answered by heather Mcfeather 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We sometime want that perfect job, that perfect home, that perfect car! And yes, that perfect someone too. But sometimes we are not realistic about what we are trying to find. The best advice I can give anyone looking for Mr or Ms perfect is to stop looking and that is when love finds you!
2007-11-20 23:34:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋