Men are so scared of their feelings and what their friends think, that they can really mess up a good thing. No matter how old they are, they still care about getting a trophy. Married for 12 years and still have to compete with his friends and what they tell him. Even if I move on and get a new guy, he still will play games.
2007-11-20 15:22:04 · 10 answers · asked by sweetnightz1 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
they are scare to lose. they have a strong ego. they always wanted to win. so they can showing off? maybe. its how you change his perspective.
2007-11-20 15:28:34 · answer #1 · answered by joycelina 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not so! There are men out there who are secure and confident within themselves. Unfortunately yours is just another of the many, many,many who is not. Those are the jerks. I do not profess to be perfect but "jerk" is the label I give to any man who let his so called friends influence him from putting his family first and above all others. Stand your ground and refuse to accept a lower position.
If you decide to move on however, be more selective in your next choice. Wisely look at both, their weaknesses as well as their strengths, and their bad habits. You and you alone are ultimately responsible for your over all well being. Regardless of love, friendship or whatever, never give that power to someone else.
"To thine own self be true".
That in no way endorses being cold hearted. Continue to be yourself...just honor the fact that you deserve the best. Particularly if that is what you are willing to give.
2007-11-20 23:52:05 · answer #2 · answered by Robere 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've been married for 12 years, and your husband is still thinking more of his friends than of you? I don't think it's a game, it's more often a sign of immaturity and peer pressure. He needs to grow up and ditch the friends that are a bad influence on him. You might clue him in that his friendships are affecting your relationship. If that doesn't wake him up, nothing will. As for a new guy, if you go that route, make sure he has the maturity to be good marriage material, and that you come first in his life.
2007-11-20 23:33:13 · answer #3 · answered by gldjns 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not men who care what people think about them, but everyone that does (people please stop basing judgments of half the worlds population on one guy's actions). I mean fear of public speaking is such a common fear. Truthfully a grown man shouldn't have to give into his friends dares, but then again trophies are pretty cool.
2007-11-20 23:34:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I object!! Don't tar us all with the same brush.
I have never been scared of my feelings or what my friends think of me and my wife would never have to "compete with my friends and what they tell me"
Not all of us 'play games' like this. Perhaps you've got the wrong one?
2007-11-21 03:13:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That type of guys have personality issues. There are lot of guys there that doesn't care what others say. Even if those people are their loved ones.
2007-11-20 23:32:43 · answer #6 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You ask alot for a man to disarm himself completely when you ask him to express his true inner feelings, he obviousley dosn't have complete faith that you won't blab about his deepest fears! After twelve years this should have been dealt with long ago! What trophy??
2007-11-20 23:29:39 · answer #7 · answered by Reggie Jnr 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's a weird guy thing. But don't worry- There are guys out there that don't care what other guys think, because they like to do their own thing.
2007-11-20 23:28:53 · answer #8 · answered by Jessica 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I blame you. After TWELVE YEARS you still allow yourself to be second fiddle to his friends? oh dear.
Not all men put their friends before their wife/gf. Just that you seem to have a habit of finding them. And it isn't just men. I have known women who do this too.
2007-11-20 23:35:36 · answer #9 · answered by Phil McCracken 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
ego, pride, manliness, fearless, mighty, valliant, alpha male, just a few things what men have to protect at ball (not a typo) costs! it will never change, same music different dj. im ok tho i dont care what anyone thinks i do as i please what makes me happy not others
2007-11-20 23:31:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋